If you're in love with person whose married, dating, a priest, a nun--basically UNAVAILABLE,does that... ?

Question

(for all practical and technical purposes) invalidate the love you feel?

Answer 1

No it doesn't, but there is more to life than this one instance.

Answer 2

To love someone is never an issue of and by itself.  Love just is and we can't turn it on or off like a light switch.  What you do about being in love is what counts - especially when you are in love with someone who is basically unavailable.

I am married and I once fell into love with a co-worker but did nothing about it.  I don't feel like under those circumstances I dishonored myself or the other person (especially since he never even knew about it).  Nor did I dishonor my husband (we were going through a rough patch at the time) since I didn't act on my feelings.  After a few years of unrequited love, I got over it.  My relationship (after some counseling) with my husband became stronger than ever before.

I occasionally think about my secret love but it is neither with regret nor any thoughts for what might have been.  I simply remember him occasionally and wonder if he is okay and how his life turned out.

Love happens even in inappropriate situations.  All that counts is what you do about it.