If you're shy and insecure, are you looked upon as a needy person?

Question

If you're shy and insecure, are you looked upon as a needy person?

Answer 1

usually ...  insecurity tends to go hand-in-hand with needy and codependent ... (not as a fact, just as a social interpretation; how you are "looked upon" as your question asks) ...

shy tends to be associated with a lack of confidence ...

you can learn to act a different way around people ...  join social groups that focus on public speaking and sales ...

a lot of how your behavior is interpreted depends on your audience and social setting ...

Answer 2

nope, just looked upon as really shy  

Answer 3

shyness can be charming, it supports a sense of humbleness. However insecurity can defiantly be viewed as neediness. Especially when it comes to boys and friends. People are drawn to others that have confidence and an air of self-respect. They are going to want to have that sense about themselves as well. You have to work with who you are, but you also have the power to change. If you practice being self-confident you'll start to believe it and others will too.

Answer 4

In most cases yes because a shy and insecure person will not get up in front of others and get something for themselves or ask for help because of their shyness. Also, being shy and insecure could be qualified as a "needy" behavior. Are you always asking your friends to go with you to the bathroom? or you ask one of your friends to get something for you because you hate when you think people are staring at you? Then yes, you're needy.  

Answer 5

No, I don't think so. I think loud and cocky people are needy. They constantly feel the need to get attention. If you're shy and insecure but you can make your own decisions and will object to something you disagree with then you're ok.

Answer 6

Well, judging from experience, I'd have to say yes.

At least, that's how I fear other people view me.

Also, there's this guy friend of mine who's insecure, and I find him very needy and irritating.

Answer 7

Usually, yes. If you know that though, than you can remain a single entity and most of the time people will not assume that you are needy.

Answer 8

Listen up Doll and I will share some highly secret info. I found that if you seem happy being alone.Men will want to share in the happiness,When you are out doing what you like ,you are perceived as fun ,so go do what you like.If you seem that you need,the attention then men do not want to be involved.Act as if you're secure it is attractive to us men.Play hard to get not too much .

Answer 9

shy, no. insecure, most likely. You always need reaffirmation that you're good enough and if you don't get it you go out looking for it till you get it.

Answer 10

Shy, no. Insecure, yes. How can an insecure person not be needy? They are, by definition.

Answer 11

Yes.  Because you are constantly looking for approval from others, constantly afraid that people don't/won't like you.  

Very draining to be around people like that.