If you're spouse found out they had an 18 yr old child, how would you react?

Question

We've been together for 13 years. My husband has met his son and I get the privelage this coming weekend. My only aprehension is that we share a 7 year old son as well.

Answer 1

If it was something that happened before we ever hooked up, I would be surprised but fine with it.

If I had been married to him, or even dating him at the time, there would be h**l to pay. Not for the child though, just the cheater.

Answer 2

I suspect not half as bad as my spouse would!

I'd be upset and disappointed that my husband missed so many years with his child.  

Answer 3

I think I would be understanding, because that happened before you and he just found as well. Now if he kept this information from you after he found out then I would be angry. Right now I would have to be there for him and encourage him to get to know his child. The person I would be angry with would be the child's mother, how could she keep this information from him and why?

Answer 4

Depends where you with him 18 (plus the nine months so almost 19) years ago? If not i would be very supportive and stand behind him try to help him with everything he needed that would be tuff to find out after all those years. If you where with him well i would be mad and very upset!  

Answer 5

My stepdad would probably freak (not in a violent way, but more of a shock) because he just had a child turn 17.

My biological father would probably be mad because he didn't want my brother (13) or myself (15) to begin with.

Really, I would have an older half-sister who would be eighteen, but she passed as an infant. If she wouldn't though, I'm sure my stepfather would be in for a surprise if he didn't know after all this time.

Answer 6

unless we had been together for 19 years, i would welcome the new member of the family

Answer 7

If we had been married 20 years I would be pissed. But if we had been married 15 then a different story

Answer 8

Depends on how long we'd been married!

Answer 9

I would try to get him to meet the child and make up for 18 lost years.

Answer 10

I would be completly shocked for one simply because my husband is only 29. Which means he would have fathered that child at around the age of 11.  :S

Answer 11

I'd be pretty mad considering we have an 18yr of our own and have been married for 25yrs.

Now if this situation were happening in the year 1995, lets say, I'd support my husband in whatever decision he choose to do: whether that was to get to know this kid, spend time with him or do nothing etc. As long as the kid didn't jeopardize my family's health or safety in anyway, I'd stay out of it unless invited in.  

Answer 12

well so long as it happened before we got together i guess after the shock of it i suppose id learn to live with it and support him and accecpt his son his not his sons fault afterall.

Answer 13

Well if I had known him for more than 18 years, I would be really angry if the kid came from someone else, but other than that, I guess I'd be shocked and try to remain calm and help your spouse deal with it.

Answer 14

I'd be pissed if my spouse knew about the child all along and never told me. As Dr. Phil would say (and I don't care for him!), that would be a deal breaker.

If the spouse didn't know and the child showed up, then I'd welcome him/her into our lives.

Answer 15

depends on how long he was my spouse, first. if i had been married to him at the time, my reaction would be the courthouse for a divorce.

if i wasn't married to him then, i would be schocked and a little angry. no one wants to find out their husband has another child like this, it is upsetting for anyone.

i would try to get through it at the same time trying to support him in his decision.