If you're very reserved/quiet, how do you break out of your shell?

Question

I'm a very shy guy, and I'm very reserved and I'm quiet most of the time because I like to just sit and think a lot more than I talk. The problem is that at school I always feel out of place and I'm really uncomfortable around people because I never have anything to talk about. I really want this to change, but how do I break out of my shell? My major problem is that I am afraid that if I suddenly start talking to people a lot more and start trying to be more outgoing/active, I don't know how people will react to me, or what they'll think. I know people think I'm odd and even hostile, but I'm not-- it's just that I much rather prefer to keep to myself. Any help, please?

Answer 1

It's a hard thing you ask because you have to want to be with people to break out of your shell. I was similar to you but it wasnt until I went out with people and acted on and experienced new things that made me more confident and outgoing. Now I'm not afraid to meet new people, to talk to girls, to try new things. Now Im still quiet but only when I choose to be.I can also be more open(meaning out of my shell  

Answer 2

you probably know a few people, right? ask how their weekend was or there day or even what they plan to do, but dont do them in the same day. they start talking and sometimes stuff that relates to you pops up and reply on that. but keep your calm

Answer 3

The problem is that you need to find like minded people.  Do you belong to any groups at your school?  If you are a techie you probably wont feel comfortable hanging out with the jocks talking about sports - If you're a skater you wont feel comfortable with the techie, etc.  

Do you find that you really open up with people you've known for awhile?  It's not a bad thing to be quiet and reserved in unfamiliar territory.  No one really likes the loud obnoxious guy that thinks everyone loves him.