If you've ever had an abortion...?

Question

Do you ever think of who your child would be and what they might be like if you hadn't killed them?

Every time you're really enjoying something...like the sun on your face, your favorite meal, the embrace of someone you love, etc., do you ever feel bad for taking away your own child's chance to experience those simple pleasures?

Or do you allow yourself to forget them all together?

I really want to know...

Answer 1

I never had an abortion and never will. I think people that don't think about this are very selfish. If you don't take birth control and have s*x you will get pregnant. I never trust a mans insecurities to not put a hole in the condom either. Either way I know what chance I am taking when I have s*x. Even when I was 16 and my bf made hints of not wanting to lose me I knew that him being 3 yrs older what he would do to keep me after 2 yrs. Not that if I wasn't smart enough to catch on I would have an abortion because I wouldn't. My friend was raped at 17 by an older family friend and she kept her child. She doesn't have anything to do with the father. My other friend got caught up with a guy that put a hole in the condom and she gave her child up for adoption and is the god mother. She speaks with the family all the time. It is so hard to say, but all I know is that there are tons of families that would love to adopt. Like my aunt whom has adopted 2 children and is blessed that those parents have given her a chance to love 2 very beautiful and smrt children. I know 2 guys that will put holes in the condoms to get the seeds out and be daddies. Yes it is wrong, but stupid, insecure girls who know this still sleep with them. I don't feel sorry for them when they find out they are pregnant. I know another guy that just doesn't wear anything and 7 kids later all different moms he still doesn't care and everyone knows he is like this. Tough to all that he gets pregnant too. If you know it I don't feel bad for you, If you don't plan for it I don't feel bad for you, it is those that take action for that decision or like my friend that has taken on her child regaurdless of how he was concieved. Abortion should not be used as a form of birth control that is what all these pills are for if you decide to have s*x. Either way when you are old enough to have s*x you should be old enough to figure out how you will deal with this responsibility. My sister was a mother of 3 at the age of 20. She didn't have the best job and she married her boyfriend and he also had a low paying job. She has struggled and made ends meet all these years. Now at 29 she is finally going to college to get a good job. I never thought of her as being the strong type, but man whenyou think about all she has gone through she did a great job. She has given her kids love, roof, food, clothes, and everything we never got as we grew up. Not to mention she took my little brother in for 5 years. I had a tubal. I think about how amazing and cute my child would have been. I was on birth control and knew there was that slim chance that I could get pregnant. I was with my boyfriend for 5 yrs. and I know that I would have given everything my child needed even if that ment that I would have to put college on hold for a bit. It wouldn't have been about me anymore. How can any good human not care about what this child could have grown up to be it is a part of you and the person you share an intimate feeling for. I have thought about who the child would have looked like, and if it would have been a boy or a girl. That is because I am human and I care about the little things. Adoption you will always think about your child and pray that the new home was a better decision. A family that will do anything to have a child even if that means taking someone elses and loving them like own.

You should feel guily if you don't think about it.  

Answer 2

I got pregnant nearly 4 years ago, and found out at almost 10 weeks along. I didn't have an abortion - though the thought did cross my mind - and now I have a gorgeous 3yearold little boy. If I had gone through with the big "A", I'm sure I would think about what may have been from time to time.

HOWEVER.

I am pro-choice. And I think you are a dipshtt for judging people you don't even know. You don't know their circumstances. There could be a lot more to it, and just "rape" is not the only legit reason to have the procedure. I totally respect the pro-life position, but I get pissed off when people start preachin'. Just because someone believes differently than you, doesn't mean they're wrong.

DISCLAIMER: Abortion is NEVER ok when used as a method of birth control. I used to work with a young, twenty-something girl who had had 4 abortions already. Get on the pill or use a condom already, geeeeez!

Answer 3

I do think about what my child might have been like from time to time... but then I think about how mentally, emotionally, and financially unprepared I was to be a mother, and I know that I made the right choice.

Answer 4

huh

what if a person who had one was poor

and there childs life would be misreble

or what if u were raped and only 12 years old???

Answer 5

By the way in defense of women that have had an abortion, I have not. But I have to tell you something Miss High and Mighty better than everyone, judger of all who has....your actually worse than anybody that your describing in here.  I think your very evil and your true colors show up really good on this web site.  Your a miserable wretch of a person!!!! YOU WANT TRUTH SWEETIE, THERE IT IS IN BLACK AND WHITE........NOW GO REPORT ME!!!!!

Answer 6

i took a test and found out i was pregnant when i was 17, about 2 weeks after the conception, and my immediate gut reaction was that i needed to get it out of me immediatly and that i could never be a mother at my age and in my circumstances. rationally, i knew i should not abort the child. my friend explained the options to me, different pills, operations etc. and i felt disgusted and extremely guilty for considering it, i knew i should take responcibility for my actions, and i would live with the guilt forever, but the abortion option was so easy, confidential and accesable, that it was unbearably tempting.

i did a test again later on and i was no longer pregnant. it was unsuprising that i lost the child seeing as i was so sick with worry, and had carryed on with my usual lifestyle for the weeks when i didnt know.

i still don't know what i would have done, but i know that i would have felt the way you described if i'd done it

i dont think any woman takes the decision lightly. and if you do think abortion is immoral, then the guilt you live with is adwquate punishment in my opinion.

i was raised a catholic, and pro-life messages have been forced down my throat all my life. in my hear of hearts, i know that abortion is not justifyable in many cases, apart from possibly incest or rape, and even that is questionable. however, we have already given women access, and by withdrawing it, we put women in a dangerous position. back street abortions have killed and mamed women through out history. abortions are still damaging to a womans body and mind as they are, and i dont think women who make that choice should be treated with disrespect or cruelty.

its a very difficult issue. before that experiance i would have been sure that i'd never have one. but i hve to be totally honest ad say that i know i would strongly consider it.