If you are both virgins - how do you know you are doing "it" right?

Question

Firstly, I am not young as people have said in my previous questions, I am just inexperienced and so is he. We have tried many time to have s*x but it won't go in and it is really, really painful for me. I don't know what we could be doing wrong. Help?

Answer 1

s*x is painful the first couple of times.

Answer 2

Go to the pharmacy and find stuff called Astroglide. It'll be near the KY. That should help.

This is not that unusual a problem to have at first. It's not anything you're doing wrong, it's just tight that's all.

Answer 3

some people never know how to do "it" right. so don't feel bad, or abnormal. we've all been there or are still there. silly as it may sound, you may want to check out some books at a library. or just try different positions. also try lubrication.  

Answer 4

It will be painful for the first couple of times,

work together I'm sure you will find a way.

Answer 5

you will in time it takes practice -- any one will tell you that as long as both of you are happy and satisifed  

Answer 6

go to a s*x therapist. or talk to your doctor about it?

Answer 7

well its depending if u two really love each other if u do i think u should

Answer 8

First you need to relax a little more.  He's probably too excited and can't keep it hard enough long enough to achieve proper penetration.  You are probably tight because you're a virgin and being nervous and clenched up isn't helping.

So, have some more foreplay. More fingering and loosening you up with his tounge.  You should entertain him and get him off with your mouth and hands first so that he gets rid of that nervous energy.  It probably works best if you get him off and then he works on loosening you up while he is "recovering."  

It will hurt, but right now if he's just thumping against you a couple of times you're not getting any of the pleasure you should also eventually feel.  

Answer 9

Thats kinda normal the first time.

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Answer 10

As long as the P is in the Va G. than you're doing it right

Answer 11

its normal for it to be painful the first time i know that for me it was painful the first couple times. some things that could help is if he plays with you or something first until you get wet or if you use lubrication. vaseline or ky works best. just take your time and be slow at first it will get better i promise. make sure you always use protection

Answer 12

oooooooooh you will know..........

Answer 13

your obviously dry down there and that happens proberbly because u are nervous or scared.

You have to use alot of lube or vaseline.

Its first time so ... dnt worry its normal.

When it starts to feel good, u will know your doing it right.

PS I sure hope u are 18 :-)

Answer 14

There is not a "right" way to have s*x. I know that penetration is usually the most boring way to have s*x for me. You and your partner would probably do well to stop focusing so much on the p***s-in-v****a part and focus more on other ways to pleasure each other. Try touching, l*****g, oral, etc. Once you're turned on, especially if you've already orgasmed, penetration should not hurt as much. However, you're probably just small (or he's large, or both), and that is why it's hurting so much. If you're nervous, that could also affect it, since you're not as likely to be wet if you're worried about it. So relax, engage in a lot of other things, and don't be frustrated when intercourse doesn't work out for you. Just make sure you both o****m, however which way you need to, and try again next time. Eventually, your v****a will loosen enough for you to have intercourse comfortably. It may take a while, but it'll take longer if you don't do enough foreplay and if you stress about it.