If you are not a racist, then why would you not want your child to marry someone with a different skin color?

Question

If you are not a racist, then why would you not want your child to marry someone with a different skin color?

Answer 1

Even if a person isn't racist, they might want to protect their child from a society that is.  Plus, some people think of the future children.  Bi-racial children are often picked on.  They aren't considered white, by Caucasian children and they aren't considered black enough for the African American community.  So, kids are put into a position that's really not fair.   A lot of people think it's selfish to do that to children.

It's been a topic of debate that individuals in the African American community are often judged interally (by their own race) based on the color of their skin.  If they are too light, they might be viewed different.  

So, issues like that arise.

Answer 2

My white Christian brother is married to a black Muslim woman. They have an adorable little boy and families and friends who are thrilled that these two marvellous people found each other. When my brother first brought his wife (then girlfriend) home, my parents were thrilled that he had met such a lovely, charming, educated woman who so obviously loved him, and her family's reaction was the same about him. Our parents taught us, and her parents taught her, that love is all that matters...and it is.  

Answer 3

Not sure on that one. I would have no problem with it. In fact I would not be surprised at all if my daughter did end up with someone of a different race because her heart is truly color blind.

Answer 4

Because there are different levels of racism.  And some people will not admit/accept that they really are racist, so they try to hide it, but then get exposed in ways like this.  

Someone might say "well I don't mind if these kids go to the same school as our kids, but wait, wedding in the future?  Oh no, not possible."

It's ignorant.  I can't stand that, and I also can't stand overly religous people (ex.  I must marry an Anglican/Protestant/Catholic/Buddhist/Je...  I myself am Catholic, I probaby don't follow all of the "rules" in fact I probably don't even know all of them.  But what I do know is that I live my life trying to be the best person I can be towards everyone and everything.  My fiance is Jewish (but also not a "by the book" Jew).  Both of us figure it's not the religion but the person that counts.  Heck, for all we know all of the Gods (from all religions) could be up playing poker together, having a good time.  And I'm sure (whether there is one God or several), that they would prefer an overall good person, over someone who 'lives by the laws of their religion' but is not a person who loves and respects all creatures.  

Sorry that's my rant for the day, but I do think it ties in to your question.  Those truly not racist would not at all mind their children marrying a caucasian, black, hispanic, white, asian, etc, because we are all people, and the individual is what matters, not skin colour.  

Answer 5

My child can marry someone who is green with orange polka dots for all I care! As long as my child is happy!

Answer 6

I don't care what color person my kids choose to marry as long as they don't submit to any hyperevolved apes that would have us as their chattle.

Answer 7

Sweetie its not about the skin color -------- some parents want there kids to marry of there religion or culture -------- some don't ---------- it only           d paned on parents---------------

Answer 8

Just because someone believes that two people of different races shouldn't marry doesn't mean they're racist. This is more of a personal preference issue. I'm not racist in any way, but I also wouldn't date outside of my race because it's just not my preference.  

Answer 9

Well technically, everyone is racist........... BUT against different groups of people. anyways, that person would be considered racist. I think marrying someone with a different skin color doesn't matter, as long as you truly love the person and see yourself with them for the rest of your life.  

Answer 10

This is actually a very good question, I have heard that the "non-racist" parents don't want their grandchildren to get "picked" on because they are of a mixed back round. I think is a load of c**p, and they are just ashamed to admit they are racist. And should be! I don't think it matters at all, I am about to marry a hispanic man. And if anyone has any words that are racist towards my daughter and the child in my womb they can answer to me and my fiance!

Answer 11

I think its a line!

If you aren't racist it shouldn't matter.  But because people can be a-ok with other races of people so long as it is not on an intimate or marriage level they think they aren't racist but in reality they are.

Answer 12

Acceptance mostly.....everyone wants their childen to have easy lives right?? They might think that their child or grand children might face descrimiation.

Answer 13

...Race shouldn't matter, the kid should just do whatever makes him/her happy. o_o

I just hope that they can support my son or daughter throughout the rest of their life.

Answer 14

umm i dunno

Answer 15

if you don't want your child to marry someone of a different color, than you ARE a racist.

Answer 16

I'm not a racist and I would be fine with my child marrying someone with a different skin color if I knew the person on the inside.  Love is love as long as it doesn't happen on my child's trip to Las Vegas.  I do see other people's arguments on protecting their children, because I do understand that even if I and my child are not racist, others are, so  the fiancé would have to be very special and they both would have to be very sure and prepared.

Answer 17

It used to be that people used to be concerned with the children involved. Coming from a mixed family, used to come with judgements and ridicule. However, nowadays it is more common for interracial kids.

I really don't see the issue in color. God loves us, do you remember the song: "...red and yellow, black and white, they are precious in His sight...Jesus loves the little children of the world."

You could be purple for all I care! haha

I think it gets touchy on the subject of religion. Thats a whole other topic, however, I find that it is more important for both parents to have a similar faith therefore its easy when raising children and being a support for one another.

Answer 18

so the children wont get picked on for being biracial and stuff and so the children wont feel bad

Answer 19

Race should not matter if the person treats them right.  God created everyone equally.  People are just people and if I had a child and they found someone outside of their race that they really loved then I would be ok with it.  

Answer 20

I am in a multi cultural/bi racial marriage.  My children who are adults now call themselves, Hybrids.  It's our little family joke.  But, when our daughter was 4 years old at preschool, she was made fun of because of her skin color and because she had funny eyes (asian). The teacher told me she made all the kids stand up and she pointed out how each one of them was different somehow (eye color, hair color etc.)  

We were the only biracial family in the entire school district!  Yes, it is the suburbs of the midwest.  

When she was in high school she was very good friends with an African American boy from another school.  One of the idiot mothers of her friends called to tell me about it.  I said have you ever met her father and slammed down the phone!  

Answer 21

Thats being racist.