If you aren't that attracted does it really make a difference if you "take care of yourself"?

Question

I just figure forget about it. Why do ppl always try to get me to do something w/my hair or use makeup, etc. Sometimes, i feel ppl will laugh b/c I "think" I look good & went through the trouble, besides I'm lazy.

Answer 1

You should care about how you present yourself.  Image does matter.  Taking the time to care for yourself shows that you respect yourself.

Being attractive or not shouldn't determine whether you make an effort to be presentable at all times.  

People sometimes accuse me of being "dressed up" if I'm simply wearing a nice shirt and clean shoes.  That is silly.  I do it for myself and no one else.  I'm at my best when I look my best.

I'm not the most attractive person but I do have some attractive physical traits.  I believe that everyone should carry themselves with confidence no matter what they look like.  This means wearing clean clothes that fit properly and look appropriate, fixing your hair,  showering daily.   I don't wear makeup at all either but I'm very concerned with appearing clean and well-groomed.  

You don't have to be high-maintenance but you shouldn't be "lazy" either.   Care about yourself.  How you carry yourself says a lot to people around you.

Answer 2

Taking care of yourself is a good thing.

Answer 3

#1 you should not think that much of what people think. what matters is what YOU think of yourself, and you whould not think so little of your self that you do not take care of your self, but make-up and hair styles are a personal choice, make-up is not nessacary, but be careful you never know who admires you from a far.

Answer 4

If you dont care nobody else will.Im not attractive at all but I exercise and I learned makeup tips from the pros from a book I got at a yardsale.People dont recognize me without makeup.Attractive people make more money and receive more respect than other people.A person with a little flair can take something that seems ugly like a sharp nose and make themselves pretty with careful application.Go ahead and be lazy if it makes you happy.I could never be happy unless i was my own personal best.

Answer 5

You don't have to be beautiful or even pretty to be attractive. Many plain people are attractive due to their personality & how they interact with others. Caring about your personal appearance by looking your best is a good way to start.

Answer 6

ooookaay. what's the question? any way another two points!

Answer 7

Are you trying to attract a mate? If not, then perhaps it's no biggie, provided you are wearing clean clothes and bathe regularly...

Answer 8

I took a class a few weeks ago, and the professor said that you can tell so much about people by how they take care of themselves. A stranger would look much more highly at someone who isn't good looking per se, but takes good care of himself rather than someone who is ugly and a slob.

Answer 9

If you look good! you feel good!

Answer 10

Guess what. You probably look just fine and simply have low self-esteem. Welcome to life as a normal person... probably 90% of people in the world feel the same way. Just because you're not a cover girl, that doesn't mean you've got a face like a gravel driveway. There's a lot of space in between those two extremes, and we're all right in that space with you.

Besides, the fact that your friends want to dress you up a bit means they see some potential. If you were truly hopeless, they'd just walk away.

In the meantime, do what you want to do, of course... but recognize that good reactions to your appearance *will* make you feel better about yourself, and you might only get those good reactions if you at least put in some effort.

Answer 11

Some people have natural good looks, and others have to work hard at it. If you take care of yourself and show that you take pride in your appearance, then people will notice and be attracted to you.  Just because you have the perception of yourself as being non attractive, doesn't mean that someone else won't be attracted to you, if you take care of yourself. Take pride in your appearance. It's the best way to catch someone's eye. There are people out there who don't judge by model appearance, but by attitude, and bubbly personality, and someone who takes care of themselves. So, don't give up, stop being lazy.  :-)

Answer 12

just take your action by yourself..

Answer 13

Taking care of yourself is not about being "attractive" -- it's a matter of self respect.  It's also not a matter of trying to look good for other people -- it's what makes you feel good, deep inside.  AND, using the excuse that you are too lazy to take care of yourself is a cop out.

Taking care of yourself is also a lot like cleaning your house -- when you clean it, you want to keep it neat and tidy, out of pride.  Same goes with getting a good hairstyle, you want to keep it up out of pride .... and makeup.  

When you respect yourself, you want to take care of yourself, and you take pride in yourself -- not because of what other people think, but for how it makes you feel, deep down inside.