If you could only rescue your spouse or your favourite parent, who would you save?

Question

For this hypothetical question - pretend both your parents are alive and you are married (if you are not already so); and that you have to act immediately.

****Pretend you are in your late 20s or early thirties AND have been married for four years, for this question.

(You are not fifty, and your parents are not 80. You are not a newlywed.)

It is one of those situations where if you try to save both, no one will get saved (ie. they both cannot swim and are in faraway parts of the lake, in stormy weather. you only have a few moments before someone drowns . . . OR the doctors and the law, will only allow you to donate one kidney. They will not allow you to give up both or trade for a defective kidney. Both persons need a new kidney to survive.).

Answer 1

once you get married your spouse is suppose to be always above your parents.  It would be a extremly hard choice but i would think i would choose my spouse since i'm going to live with him for the rest of my life and he is my equal in my life. Your parents have lived thier life ...and i think my parents would be POed at me for saving them rather than saving my husband.  

Answer 2

we're all gonna go to Heaven :)

Answer 3

Would have to be my parent's as they would have done anything to protect me when i was a kid. It may be cynical but I could always find another partner. I feel sick writing this though  

Answer 4

i would let them all die so i wouldn't be blamed for anything

Answer 5

My spouse because she would haunt me if I chose my mother

Answer 6

First of all, in reality I am happily married, and my parents are both deceased.

But in order for your scenario to be true for me, I would either have to go back in time hypothethically to when my parents were both alive, or imagine things in a "alternate universe" somehow.

Scenario #1 (Hypothetical Time Travel) Before either of my parents passed away, I was married to a complete jerk (workaholic, abusive, alcoholic, philanderer, you name it.)  There is no doubt in my mind that I would have saved either my mom or my dad before I would have saved his sorry butt.

Scenario #2 (Alternate Universe where I am younger, my parents are still alive, but I am married to my current spouse):  My husband now is a military officer and quite the survivalist. His favorite shows are Man vs Wild and Survivorman.  So it's hard for me to picture a scenario where he would even need my help.  He works away during the week, and I have also learned how to be independent.  As much as I miss him when he is gone and love him, I have spent enough time on my own that I know I could somehow carry on if necessary.  On the other hand, I saw how helpless and lonely my mom was after my dad passed away.  Even if I hadn't experienced that, I had always known that she was very dependent on him.  I'm not sure they ever spent more than a week apart after he finished his tour in the Navy before I was born.  So I would save him, my favorite parent, for my mom's sake, and hope and pray that somehow my husband could survive without my help.

Answer 7

My spouse, who I chose over all others when I took my wedding vows.  

Answer 8

Niether....I just want the inssurance......joke.

Wife. I left my family to start a new one with her. And although I love my parents she is now my first priority  

Answer 9

Personally, if they both needed kidneys, I would rather die and give them both of mine. I wouldn't really care about saving my dad, and I think my top priority would be my mom.

Answer 10

Spouse.

Answer 11

Parents! B/c it is because of them I am alive and they were there before and always will by my side, no matter what. Nothing can separate us! Also, they are the only ones who havent betrayed me or anything and there is no guarantee that a "spouse" or whatever is always going to be there. so I choose my parents, HANDS DOWN!!!

Answer 12

The answer has to be your spouse.  From an anbthropological stand  point it makes sense becase while your parents raise you.  Your spending the next 50 years with your spouse.  Not to mention they will help create/raise your children. Plus, when you marry you take a vow to essentially live for eachother.