If you could wave the ol' magic wand....?

Question

and make every woman able and willing to parent their children eliminating a need for foster care and adoption, would you do it?

Answer 1

Yes, yes, yes.

Sadly, infertile people are so desperate for a baby they are okay with the status quo.

What's so bad about not having a child?  I desperately want the Hope Diamond, but that doesn't mean I'm entitled to it.

Answer 2

OFCOURSE- who wouldn't want that!?

However, if that includes keeping abortion legal, no we should not kill babies.  There will always be unplanned and unwanted babies.  Sadly enough, there will be abused and neglected children as well.

Answer 3

YES!!!

Answer 4

If I did that Id be 2 kids less

Answer 5

Absolutely.

ETA:

[not be able to conceive and the people who are loving and would be good parents be able to conceive]

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Is that entitlement I hear?

ETA 2: Your display pictures gives me the creeps every time I look at it! XD

Answer 6

your pic looks weird.... then again so does mine.

Answer 7

if i could wave the wand.....i would so get rid of that picture you use to post with!  eeek...it always freaks me out!

Answer 8

Of Course, in a perfect world.  

Answer 9

Well, sure. I wouldn't wish being abused, neglected, unwanted, or even just separated from people who love them on any child.

With another wave of my wand I would get rid of infertility, too, if I could. I also really feel for people who are childless but want to parent. I just think it's a separate issue, and the solution to it isn't other families suffering crisis and loss.

I think that adoption is not the ideal, but is sometimes the best case scenario in a hurtful and flawed world. If I could fix the problems that led to children having to be in a situation where they needed to be adopted, I would, without question.

Answer 10

No.  Because there are couples in this world, that would love so much to have a baby and are not able to conceive.  If I had a magic wand, I would make the people that get their children taken from them because of neglect, not be able to conceive and the people who are loving and would be good parents be able to conceive.

Answer 11

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

A million times infinity YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 12

I know that many adoption stories are not as pleasant as mine, and for those people I truley would understand and empathize with them wanting to eliminate the need.  I, for one however, would not want to eliminate adoption, etc.  Personally people always seem to think that the grass is always greener on the other side....like "my life would have been so much better if I was not adopted".  Maybe so, and maybe not.  There is just no real way of knowing....maybe it would have been better, but then again maybe it would have been far worse.  Growing up, I went through alot of emotions dealing with feeling abandoned by everyone, feeling like I was damaged goods or didn't belong.  From my understanding this is a normal and real feeling of alot of adoptees.  However, looking back on it now, I knew alot of non-adopted teens that felt this very same way.  So who is to say I would not have still felt alot of these things and gone through alot of these trials had I not been adopted?  Another factor to consider...my biological mother (who I have now meet and talk to regularly) had a total of 4 children.  Two of us were given up for adoption at birth, the other two were kept as it was a better point in her life.  The two of us put up for adoption have lived very noramal lives, we have parents that have been there for us and personally I would have it no other way.  My little sister and brother (the ones that were kept) have grown up with very emotional and psychological issues.  My brother is in prison and my sister a few weeks ago attempted suicide.  My birth mom has tried to do the best that she could for her kids, she has had them in therapy since they were very young, etc.  She loves us all dearly.  I am not blaming her for my younger siblings issues by any means BUT my point is that sometimes we truely are better off with another family.  My adoptive mom and dad were unable to have a child, they tried multiple times and endured multiple losses (that is a very hard thing to deal with).   If adoption was no longer an option, how would people like my mom and dad be able to fulfill their dream of becoming a parent.  Why would they not be able to fill the void in their soul with a baby (not of their flesh and bone, not born under their heart but in it).  I am not saying that I want people to not be able to care for their kids ot to abuse their kids so that their is a need for adoption...infact, I do wish that were never the case, but alas this is the real world we live in and it happens everyday.  So what I do wish is that every child born into this world have a family to love, nuture, and endure them.  And that every family with a piece of their heart missing because for some horrific reason they can't concieve on their own have a child ( be it their own biologically or otherwise).  It is really a tough question to answer that you have proposed, and I really do not think there is a black and white "perfect" answer.

Answer 13

In a heartbeat......

Answer 14

Sure, though I hope the wand is going to cover fathers as well.

L@r@ you seem to have a very myopic view of adoption. First you make some pretty wild claims about adoption agencies and now you imply that adoption only comes about because of abuse and neglect?

My birthmother found the strength and immense love to recognize that she was not in a position to become a parent and she planned an adoption. Was it easy for her? I doubt it, though I do know that relinquishing a child is different for every individual and not some universal tale of woe. I resent the implication that her choice involves harm or abuse. That is just ridiculous.

Answer 15

Yes, of course.  If they were all willing and able, that would mean no more abuse and neglect, as well as entire families being able to remain intact.

Answer 16

Yes, I would!!!!!!!!!!

I love your response, Suzy Sunshine, we forget about the Father's, they have just as much of a obligation as the mothers, in parenting their children.

Answer 17

If I could wave a magic wand I think that I would cure more than people being able to parent their children.  I understand that all cases are not the same, but to make the choice not to parent your child is a choice and that is that.  Granted I am talking strictly adopting from Foster Care in my own experience.  The child that we have had has been in the system for 5 years and his mother just can't seem to get it when the judge tells her that she needs to get off the drugs...what does she do - she has shown up high in court - has been in jail multiple times...etc.

I would use the magic wand to maybe cure AIDS / Cancer / End all suffering around the world in third world countries.../ possible make it to where everyone could get along (ie...end the war).

Answer 18

Absolutely - you bet!  Every child needs to be loved and adored by his/her biological parents.

Answer 19

If you mean that every woman who had a child would be a good mother, then yes!  Absolutely!  Why not?

But if all you mean by "willing and able" is that they want to and are allowed, then no...  because there will still be some that choose to be really BAD at it, and neglect the kids.  There will be some that have them too young when they may be able to keep them, but aren't really able to be GOOD parents.  In those cases, I think adoption still has a place.