If you couldn't have kids, where would you adopt from?

Question

Would you get an american or foreign kid & where exactly. What age would you want or get.

Answer 1

I live in the United States.  We have over 100,000 children in foster care, as they truly do not have legal parents.  If I were going to adopt a child, it would be one of these kids, here in my own country.

Answer 2

The UK, Germany, Mexico, France, Brazil, Australia, Italy.

or anywhere really. its sad to think of how many kids there are that needs parents!

Answer 3

If I didn't have kids I would travel a lot more!

Answer 4

there are plenty of kids here who need good homes!!

Answer 5

We are in the UK, have older birth children and are adopting a sibling group from foster care.  

Where and when possible you should adopt from your home country only, and from the care system in that country.

As for age, we are open to any age, whatever our social worker feels we are able to take.

Answer 6

I'd get a foster kid that really needed a family--age, race, background, and gender are not important.  I don't think it's right to pick out your future family members as if they could be ordered out of a catalog.

I would never adopt in the traditional sense.  I'm happy without children, and as an adoptee I wouldn't inflict the confusion and alienation I've grown up with on someone else's kid.

Answer 7

A little baby girl from the Dominican Republic

Answer 8

I think chinese babies are so dang cute, but if I wanted a baby to love I wouldnt care where it came from really.

Answer 9

Mexico, Dominican Republic, China, Japan, Africa, Italy...Anywhere really 'cause there are plenty of kids out there who need families.

Answer 10

i have to edit my answer... after writing it, i feel like this is more honest.

i must agree with gershom.  if i were infertile, i would first come to terms with my childfree life and find other ways to assist children. i would probably become a foster parent; and if i decided to adopt, would ONLY adopt from foster care.

Answer 11

If I knew for sure that I couldn't have biological children, I don't know for certain that I would be adopting.  I think I would have to go through the grief process first, and make sure that I'm not adopting in order to fill MY needs.  A child's needs are far more important than mine, and if I am so concerned about filling my own needs, I will not be emotionally available to fill theirs.

However, since I don't know whether or not I can conceive and carry a child (but I'm assuming I can, until proven otherwise), my husband and I have chosen to adopt through the foster care system.  We are not adopting to fill our own needs (unless you consider the opportunity to affect others' lives in positive ways a need...I suppose it is, but it's a different type of need than if we were unable to have biological children).  Our reason for wanting to adopt is really complicated, but it seems a very good fit for our family because of the type of family we want to have.  We're not interested in having the perfect, white picket fence, perfectly mannered kids who never get dirty and always say "yes ma'am" and "thank you very much Mr. Neighborman"...we are interested in having a very human experience and being there from beginning to end, just as imperfect and as accepting as can be, knowing it's going to be hard, exhausting really...but hoping it will also be satisfying every once in awhile, too.  We are quite aware that everyone in the adoption circle spends a lifetime dealing with the grief process, and we're up for it.  At least, as much as we know how to be.  Oh, and we aren't going into this with the attitude that our children will need to feel "grateful" that we adopted them.  That attitude really irks me (and I know I've said this before, but sometimes with the answers I give, I feel the need to say it again, for the record).

I know this was a whole lot more than what you asked for, and I speak ONLY for myself, so I hope I haven't offended.

Edit:  That's pretty funny that you think people are stupid for putting a lot of time, energy, and thought into something that will affect another human being's life permanently.  To quote from Girl Interrupted, "...makes you wonder who the real nutjobs are."

Answer 12

Complicated answer to a simple question:  

When my husband and I thought we couldn't have kids we were living in a foreign country with one of the lowest birth rates in the world.  No babies there to adopt, and even if there were extra babies,  they were not going to be given to foreigners.  We considered/investigated aopting from the USA, but since we didn't live there...no one would even talk to us.  Some other country...we were met with such suspicion...Americans, living somewhere else, wanted to adopt from X country...it made no sense to no one!

Inexplicably (we don't really know how it happened) we solved our problem "the old fashioned way" and now have two kids of our own.

Answer 13

I would buy a pet instead. It's too scary, risky - in my own knowledge. One day the real mother hunts her, and then he/she is not yours no more... ah... scary questions...

Answer 14

There is no obligation to adopt if you can't have kids

Answer 15

Bella,

A foreign adoption most likely age not over 3 years.

A lot less complications with foreign adoptions.

Answer 16

It’s funny how some people just can’t answer the question that was asked. It’s a hypothetical question. If you couldn’t have natural children and decided to adopt where would you adopt from?

As far as me I would probably  look into adopting a small (2 or 3) sibling group from Brazil which I hope to do one day even if I can have biological children.  Or I would look into adopting some mixed raced children here in America probably from the foster care system, which i would also consider even if i can have biolgoical kids.

Answer 17

Should it matter where and when? I think the important thing is the child and the wellbing of the child. Personally i think people should adopt in their own countries. I bet there is tones of kids who need adopting in USA and UK.

Answer 18

I cant' have kids and I am adopting waiting children from foster care.

Answer 19

Because theres so many of us 'unwanteds' out there those fortunate enough to "have their own" can just sit and imagine where they'd "save" us from.

pfffft.

Your question is offensive. But just keep it up and tell the world how you only want to help the needy.

If i was infertile, i'd enjoy my childfree life and accept what I was faced with. I'd open up my home to foster care children and youth, but i'll be doing that anyways, and I have children of my own already.