If you found an ounce in your boyfriends bag?

Question

and he told you he stopped smoking six months ago when you were pregnant... We have a three month old baby and I felt it time he grew up a little not just pretend to. We have broken up I cant take him seriously any more or trust his word. Worse he had it in my house and car without telling me. Yes I snooped as I was suspicious...

Answer 1

if he wont change because he doesnt want to himself then you cant really do anything about it...no one can really change anyone else..he has to want to

Answer 2

Considering that if something happened and the police discovered it in YOUR home and YOUR car you would be the one in trouble, it's a good thing you snooped and broke up with him.  What's to prevent him from hiding it in your baby's diaper bag or crib the next time because "that's the last place anyone would look."  There's nothing worse than having someone around that you can't trust.

It's good that you follow your instincts, more people should do that instead of worrying about social protocols and invasion of privacy and wind up in trouble.  I did it years ago and found out that the guy I was seeing at the time was heavily involved with someone else, evidenced by the hair rollers & Kotex stash buried behind things under sink.  That led me to the answering machine and a bunch of Hi baby, I miss you messages.  Which led me to the closet where I discovered the 7 step program for recovering drug addicts, dope pipes, and bankruptcy filings!  This all led me out the front door, never to return again!

You have done what's best for you and your baby.  Good for you!

Answer 3

i just wanted to point out that its funny this question is under the "cooking and recipes" category

on the other hand, it is definitely not cool for your b/f to be sneaking around and hiding something.

maybe its good that you snooped, otherwise you wouldnt know the truth and youd just be stressed worrying.

you dont wanna be with someone who's sneaky like that. who knows what else he'd hide. you know?

Answer 4

Well you already have broken up and if he doesn't wanna change, there is nothing you can do really.

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Answer 5

How sad, but its a common problem, you need to do whats best for you and your baby and if he cant be clean when he wants to visit you and your child, then you may have to get supervised visitations, you can apply to the court for a restraining order on the grounds of his drug usage, but I would try and give him the benefit of the doubt first, get him to do a hair folicle test, if he wont, then just dont let him alone with the baby for both your sakes, too many sad endings that way, hopefully he will get some helps and become a great dad, I hope so for your sake and for the sake of your baby, goodluck! :)

Answer 6

Then do not worry because It was a good decision breaking with him.  

Answer 7

They say a leopard doesnt change his spots, and I am pretty sure this is the case here.  You did the right thing breaking up with him, you have your little baby as well as yourself to think about, and you can't risk your little one.  You do not need a boyfriend who is lying and sneaking around. I wish you the best of luck, and commend you for your courage to take this step and break up with him.