If you got married with your parents knowing now they refuse to talk to you what do you do?

Question

I got married April 29, 2008, to the man I truly love, and the man of my dreams. But I felt it was time for me to get married to this man. He is 27 years old and I am 21 years old. My parents they are really really nice and caring. Nevertheless my father who is this person who has agar issues, and he does not like any man that comes near us girls. My father was also spreading roomers about my boyfriend and we did not like it one bit. So I did not tell my parent that I was getting married on the 29th of April and we just got married and now they won’t talk to us. I have really tried to be understanding of them and we told them that we were sorry.

We have tried to do our best to live in both worlds, and now my father will do anything to get rid of my husband. My mom knew that it was the right thing to do and so we are trying to make it all better, and now my father wants to meet with my husband so he can yell at him and tell him that he had no right to force me into being married to but yet he did not force me to get married, I choose to get married. I don’t know what to do with my dad and I need help.

Answer 1

Just stay away from them.  You are falling into their control trap by even engaging them on the issue.  If they can't have a better disposition than this, and insist on acting so immaturely, there isn't much hope of anything YOU do making a difference.  They need to come to terms with this themselves but they won't do that until they see that they won't have a relationship with you if they don't grow up.  They are the ones who created a family environment whereby you would consider getting married in such a way.