If you had a baby and have parents or are a grandparent, you can answer this...?

Question

My son is having a baby, due in March. When he told me a few weeks ago, I was in complete shock and didn't really say anything. He 23, just got married and I just didn't expect it to happen so soon. I'm just too young to be a grandma and I'm not ready! lol

I want to get him something to let him know I'm excited for them. Something that's somewhat parenting/baby related and simple. I thought about getting them a onsey that said some cute phrase with the word Grandma on it, but after looking at a few, I changed my mind. So not ready to look at stuff like that yet...

Any ideas?

Answer 1

You could buy or make a really lovely card that says your feelings about the whole experience and maybe buy a lovely photo album for the baby (for your son and his wife). That way it isn't a huge expense just yet, that will come when the baby is born and you spoil it to death, lol.

It will mean more if it comes from the heart right now...they are probably getting use to the idea of being a parent. My mum was a grandma at 46, my mother in law was a grandma at 41, this seems to be a very common age especially if you had your son young too. Embrace it, you will have time and energy to enjoy your grandchildren!!!

Answer 2

I made my mother a Grandma at 36, and after she got over the initial shock, she was thrilled.  It only took a couple weeks for her to come around.  So don't feel like you're too young...some women have it way worse!  lol

My mother showed me her excitement by knitting the baby sweaters, hats and booties my whole pregnancy and those things I cherish.  If you don't knit or crochet then for now, just ask them if they know what theme they want to put in the nursery and if you can help them get anything for it.  Tell them you were looking at all the things they have now and wish they had stuff when you had babies (sound excited to buy it, not bitter, lol).  

Or, if you still have anything that belonged to your son as a baby, now would be a good time to give it to him and his wife.  They might not want to use it (so make sure they know you don't expect them to), but making the gesture will mean a lot.

Answer 3

I would say diapers but not newborn they grow out of them soooooo fast.buy size 1,or a cute picture for their nursery.And if you were my mom I would be sooo mad that you could even say you are not ready,It is not your decision when you are ready,It is your sons.I had my son at 16 and my mom went bonkers she was so happy.I was also with the same guy for 3 years so don't judge.

Answer 4

are you kidding me your gonna be a grandma, thats so exciting, since my husband and I started dating 5 1/2 years ago my parents have been begging us for a grandchild, we got married in march and are having our first baby in december, I am 25 and my husband is 26...my parents are in their 40's and they couldnt be happier, I think at times my mom is happier then me. maybe its b/c its your son, my mother in law doesnt seem to excited and she in her late 50's, but I could care less. I think once it gets closer you will be more excited. Plus you're not the one raising the child they are, so whether your ready or not apparently they are

Answer 5

What is your price range? I would suggest asking her while giving her a price range what would be a nice gift to show I am getting excited for this.

Answer 6

pay for a really nice stroller, or a crib, or gift card to babiesRus, help with the nursey, offer to care for the baby when needed, etc.

Answer 7

I would get them a baby book so they can start recording the pregnancy and charting things in it for the future.  It is a very nice gift and will help to preserve the early memories!

Answer 8

That is wonderful you know what I am 30 years old with three kids and 2 step chidren.And call me crazy but I would give my left arm to have another child or even better a Grandchild.You know I think this feeling you have is just plan normal.This is new to you it comes as a shock.Some people may say its a fear of getting older.But hey thats whats life is all about right we are all going to be old some day no matter what we do.So be thankful for that grandbaby.You really don't have to buy them anything just let them know you are there for them...When the baby comes I bet you will look onto its little eyes and hold that little hand and look at those little feet see that little face and think god for that healthy grandchild.Know one will ever take the place of that grand baby.NO ONE...And just to think you are a young grandmother so you can be one of the best grandmothers in the world you well have lots of time to enjoy it as the baby grows up..Also I would feel blessed to be your age with a grand baby on the way....

Answer 9

newborn diapers and wipes, you can never have too many diapers:) and if they start stocking up now then they will be ahead of the game. or bottles or pacifers:) anything baby related you can even buy congrats cards for expecting parents. congrats to you:)

Answer 10

I would say the the carseat/stroller combo. It is such a big help!

Answer 11

I COMPLETELY UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL. My daughter turned 22yrs in June and got married in early July. She's already talking about babies and I know it's only a matter of time before she has one of her own. I'm not ready to be a grandma AT ALL! I'm 48yrs, still have teenagers in the house (and as I read so do you) and the idea of my kid having a kid...oh boy. You're excited, but not ready for that idea to come into play. Completely understand!!!!   ...so many don't.

I wouldn't jump into getting diapers, strollers, carseats etc yet. Would you really want a pack of diapers from your mother 8 or so weeks pregnant? No. It's too early to get that kind of stuff and you don't know if they're going to want to get matching things or a certain color depending on the s*x etc.

My suggestion would be to get a baby blanket, a baby book, a personalized family frame (Mom, Dad & Baby), a teady bear, a nursery picture, your son's favorite book as a child etc. A note I think also is always special to have. Remind him of how much you love him and how proud you are of him.

Good luck and congrats btw