If you had it to do again, would you still have had kids?

Question

I was at a party when I overheard this woman talking about her kids. She said "don't get me wrong, I love my kids but I don't really like them. If I'd had to do it over I wouldn't have had any." I guess I was just a little taken back but her honesty but it made me think, how many women actually feel this way?

Answer 1

fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck no

Answer 2

If I had to do it all over again, I'd have kids, just would have waited another 2-3 years before having my first. But if that were the case, I probably wouldn't have had as many as I did/am.

My kids are my world. Without them, I wouldn't laugh as hard, smile as much or be as happy as I am.

Best Wishes =]

Answer 3

having kids just doesn't make fiscal sense.

Answer 4

I can't imagine my life without them!!

Answer 5

i love my son with all my heart, he is my motivation everyday however i do think that i wasn't ready for the emotional part of being a mother.  the constant worry and missing him is really hard and it would have been a lot easier if i would have waited till i was more finacially stable so i could have taken more time off.  however i wouldn't go back and change having him cause then i wouldn't have this miracle in my life.  however if i hadn't had him i wouldn't know what is feels like and i wuoldn't know how much i love and truely do care about him so maybe if i could go back i wuold have waited..... hard question, tricky answer!!!  

Answer 6

I'm not a woman, but I'll answer anyway.

I wouldn't change a thing if I could go back. I'd do it all again, because I love my children and I really can't imagine living without them. Looking back, my life had no real purpose before my first son was born. I was just an immature boy and all I wanted to do was have fun.

I'd do it all again, because for me having children was what I needed to do in life. For some, it isn't.

Answer 7

I have two grown up boys. Before I had them, I had this picture of a perfect happy, loving family in my head. Real life turn out to be very different. I did not like beeing a mother very much, I had no idea what beeing a mother was all about. It was very hard work and at times I regretted having had them. Just because you are a woman, does not mean mothering cames easy to you. Some woman are born to be mothers, I wasn't. I do love my boys and I am glad now I got in my life, but it wasn't always easy. I am sure some woman feel this way, but dont admit it to anyone.

Answer 8

Yes I still would be a mom because I love AND like my children. They're highly entertaining and I enjoy being around them. That said, they can test anyone's patience, but then again, I do PMS... :)

The only thing I'd change is picking a better dad for them! Even though we do not get along, we make an effort for the children and I know my life wouldn't be so wonderful without his contribution.

Answer 9

I was 16 when i became a mother and i can honestly say i enjoy it more than anything! I love being responsible for someone else, i love taking care of her and making her happy, id gladly devote my life to her if i could do it again. I love her so much! nothing is better! x  

Answer 10

I cannot believe any parent, especially a mom, would say what that woman said about her children!  I would never choose my life without my children.  They bring too much joy to my life.  Sure I have the moments when I say "should I have had them" when they are making me nuts, but I would never say that if I had the chance to do it over again that I would not have them.  Everyone has their moments and no parent is perfect.  I still can't say I feel the same way that woman does.  I could never imagine saying that about my children.

I know I wasn't fully prepared and I wasn't emotionally prepared when I had my first, however I wouldn't change a thing about having my children.  I over came being unprepared for my first child and I was prepared for my second.  It was a learning experience like no other and I have learned a lot.  Patience, love, understanding, working under sleep deprivation.... :)

I can't believe she said she doesn't like her own children.  My heart is grieved for her children.  I wonder how she treats them with an attitude like that.