If you had the finances would you keep your pre-school children out of day nursery.?

Question

It seems that anymore than two full days a week could be cause of anti social behaviour in later life - which is why I ask my question.

Answer 1

Pending on where you live. Some places I would keep them home. Other places I would keep them going. Wouldn't want my kids to pick up bad habits and think others are ok by doing those bad habits. Would teach my kids pride and dignity in a humble way but not become "snobbish". Not conceited but convinced!

Answer 2

Socialisation is how kids learn at an early age - if I had the money I would sent my little one more, but go in and help out sometimes too.

Explain why pre-school leads to anti-social behaviour please.

Answer 3

I would definitely keep them out - preschool would be good for them but every day would not be good - I worked at a daycare and all these kids in the same room day after day doesn't give them enough stimulation and the children become more aggressive because they don't have enough activities to keep them focused.

Answer 4

No and for several reasons. First and foremost, there are huge benefits for the social skills they will develop. Also, it breaks them of the seperation anxiety they will have whenever the inevitable occurs. Also, they will be exposed to a higher level of germs and viruses, which will further their immune system strength.

Also, as a benfit to yourself, you can provide yourself with time you hadn't had before for your interests or to be able to have uninterupted time to tend to the duties that take away from the time spent with the children. A higher quality time, if you will.

Lastly, if you keep them at home, you will feel they will be raised with only the values you want them to have. But in contrary to that, they may not be cohesive to your values, and not-for-nothing, they will also pick up on your bad behaviors as well. They will have an advantage by needing to resolve conflict with other children from other backgrounds and gain from their virtues as well. Perhaps another instructor may identify strengths and weakness that your love may mask, thus benefiting the child.

Bottom line, none of us want them to leave the nest (at least not the good ones of us), but there are huge societal and personal benefits. You just need to choose the right provider. As with any investment, it is up to prudent judgement.

Answer 5

I would not send my child/grandchildren to preschool or day care.  Children this age need guidance and the one-on-one love of their parents.

Finances?  Being able to afford it?  We made the decision for me to stay home and homeschool our three children.  Two of my children are now making that same choice for their families.  Sacrifices are being made.  There are many things that families do not NEED, but simply want (fancier homes, multiple cars, boats, fancy vacations, designer clothes, etc.).  The choice is there for each family.

We choose to raise and educate our own children.

The rewards are most definitely worth it.  I have a wonderful relationship with my three children.  I get to be a big part in the lives and homeschooling of my grandchildren.

Answer 6

You make do with the finances you have. Both my kids are with me just about ALL the time.

Answer 7

I do have the finances and I never put my children

in any kind of day care...I never liked them...

Answer 8

I don't want to appear to be snobbish, but yes. I don't think its good for kids to be in that environment so young, but then, people don't always have the choice.

Answer 9

When children are growing they need to learn the norms of social behaviour and it is vital that they also learn this from their peer groups. Children constantly learn through play and go through many stages of socialisation. Pre school can help children to learn how to socialise and become accepted by their peer groups.

Answer 10

What makes you think that it causes anti social behaviour?  

There was a recent study that proved sending your child to a pre-school benefitted them in the long run.

To quote the study "Specifically, children with experience of pre-school education demonstrate significantly higher attainment in KS1 national assessments in Mathematics and English compared with children who have no experience of pre-school education.

Moreover, starting early – from the age of two upwards – together with higher quality provision, improves children’s intellectual development at entry to school and up until the end of KS1."

If that isn't an incentive to make sure your child is sent to pre-school I don't know what is!

I don't necessarily think it is good for children to be away from their parents all day every day but there certainly is social benefit for children mixing with their peers on a regular basis

See link Below..

Answer 11

Nursery's are good for children age 3 upwards but only for a couple of hours or so a day .It's good if they have no contact with any other children and learns them to interact with them. I do think todays parents are too ready to dump their kids on others though and I sometimes don't understand why they have any.

Answer 12

I have two children with autism and one had pre school and the other didn't. I feel that pre-school helped to identify the problem earlier and also helped with their social skills so that by the time my younger child came to start school nursery she was more aware of what to expect.

I think anti social behaviour in later life is to do with a generation, children are just brought up a lot differently these days and a lot more things are more socially acceptable.

Answer 13

I'm a trainee childcare and education worker and i would never send any children i may have to a private day nursery as many of the staff still behave like children themselves and some even encourage bad behaviour in children as they think it is funny, also recent research has shown that children who attend nursery are more likely to be aggressive than children who are looked after by a childminder or family members.