If you have a US born infant child with a Italian national?

Question

If you have a US born infant child with a Italian national or double US/Italian national, outside the marriage would you allow the Italian parent to move with the infant child to Sicily Italy, and allow the here to be raised like an average Italy child, that learns to speak Italian and of course English. In Sicily Italy is the most family oriented place in the world. Children/adults spend more time with both parents even when divorced/or never married and there extended family, than in America and even most European countries.

Answer 1

i dont think i understand the quesiton fully...

but my sons father lives in france (always has) and me in usa

and we arent together

but gong through a battle right now on what we r gonna do....

Answer 2

No I personally would not.  I have one child, and I dont know what I would do if I could not see her on a regular basis.  I would not allow this.   Its just my kids mean too much to me to allow something like that to happen.  Guess it just depends on your interest in your child/the ability for you to travel and see them on a regular basis.   If you have the means to travel to Italy on a regular basis, then I say OK.

Answer 3

Check out all of the custody laws in the region and country you are considering going to. Consult a lawyer and make sure that you have all your legal papers together before you go, though. (If you do, personally, I wouldn't.)

Everything may be hunky-dory right now, but if in a few years you decide you want to move back to the States, you may not be allowed to take your child. Once you are in his country, he has the upper hand and he is the citizen, while you are not. If you are not married, how will you be able to stay in the country long-term?

Just a LOT of things to consider before committing to something like this. I would also check into the current info about the area (income, population, school quality, etc.), because his opinions are based on what he knows from *how* many years ago? You may not agree with his assessment, once you see the area.

One final thought: why is there more benefit to being raised Italian over being raised American?  Just wondering...

Answer 4

As long as he/she was a good mom or father yes  they derseve to help out.

its hard only being a parent rasing kids up on your own.

Answer 5

Only if I was willing to make a long term commitment to live in Italy. Get all your papers straight and make sure that you are able to live there as well. Because once the child has residence in Italy it will be hard to get him/her back to the U.S.