If you have a friend who's severely asthmatic...?

Question

You have a friend who has bad asthma. You were supposed to go away with her for a mini-vacation, but she got sick and said she wasn't sure if she could go away with you later that week. Said she was having a lot of bad attacks so when she went to the doctor, she found out she had an ear infection, and possible strep throat.

You're the type of person who, even when you're sick, will bear thru it and not let it get in your way. Basically, if you don't think about being sick, it doesn't bother you. So, would u be upset with her for canceling the plans you guys had made?

Answer 1

No. If my friend is sick,I'd want them to stay home and get well. You can always reschedule trips anyway. ^_^

Answer 2

It might be unfair, but yes, I would definitely be pissed.  She's had asthma for a while, and she chooses now to get sick?  People have control over their sickness, if they get all butthurt about it they'll have a miserable time, if they get over it and just downplay it then it won't be a big issue.  

Answer 3

given that my wife have had life threatening asthma most of her life and is very susceptible to ear infections and strep throat... i fully understand your frustration, disappointment and even your anger... but make sure that it is appropriately aimed at the sick-ness and not the sick person... asthma not only creates an immediate risk during an attack, but it also takes away a day or two for recovery, not to mention the emotional (and social) stress that this life-limitation creates... take the time to remember the other great times you have had together and planning for the rescheduled mini-vacation... make it that much better than it would have been!

Answer 4

Nope, I am the type of person who doesn't make a big thing about being sick but if my friend was having sever asthma attacks, had an ear infection, and might have strep throat, I would care enough about her to tell her to get better and we can reschedule.  Only a seriously selfish person would be angry at their friend for canceling when they were truly sick.

Answer 5

Be a little empathetic, people DIE from asthma attacks. It's not a fun thing to live with. I can understand being disappointed but really, you can't get angry with her for getting sick. Not everyone can grin and bear it when they're ill.

Answer 6

Heck no. Being sick would've ruined the trip for both of you anyway.

Answer 7

Are you aware that strep throat is CONTAGIOUS?  I would be VERY angry with a friend who showed up for a vacation or some event knowing they were sick with something contagious.  Cancel anything you like, but don't bring me your germs.

And you keep on going when you're sick?  Doesn't bother you to spread your colds or flu or stomach viruses to your family, friends and coworkers????  

Frankly, I'd rather be friends with your friend, who has the courtesy to cancel, than with you and stay sick all the time because you won't stay home with your germs.

Answer 8

No, because if nothing else I don't want to take a mini-vacation with someone who has strep throat because it's infectious.

A chronic condition like asthma is not the same as bearing up and not letting it bother you.  You can't think positive and get through an asthma attack. When it's striking it's miserable and can be deadly.  

Of course I would be upset that anyone had canceled their plans with me, but I would file it under the category "what a shame" rather than "this friend is selfish".  

Answer 9

~~No, I my husband and daughter have asthma. It is terrifying to see someone struggling for air, it is like they are being slowly strangled. Once the airways have gotten into a agitated state, anything can set it off easily to have another attack. She needs to feel secure in knowing she has medical attention immediately should she need it. This is not the same as being sick. It's a life threatening disease. My mother-in-law died from an asthma attack because she didn't get medical attention quick enough. It's not an illness, it's a disease, and a very scary one. Be understanding, this is completely beyond her control.~~

Answer 10

Heck no. Asthma isn't a disease that can be totally controlled just because someone takes medicine on a daily basis for it. A bad Asthma attack can occur anywear, anytime. I hope you are more concerned with your friend getting better than you are about her canceling this trip. Maybe this is one disease that you have to have in order to be able to understand how it works. It is very unpredictable. Having Severe Asthma or Chronic Asthma can be pretty bad stuff and it can hit you when you least expect it.

Answer 11

Well, if she didn't cancel and went on the trip instead you'd have one very sick person on your hands.  She did the right thing here.