If you have kids how important is..... 10 pts best answer?

Question

How important is date night? If you have kids do you still go out on a date with your significant other? If you do go out what do you do?

If you don't go out would you like to?

I am looking for an explanation not just a yes or no answer please.

Answer 1

Date night is extra important in a relationship and sometimes it is as simple as ordering in and renting a movie, and sending the kids off for the night.  My husband and I are not into the bar scene or into clubs. But we do enjoy dinner out and a movie or just good conversation with each other, and an early night to bed!!!LOL. It's our time to focus on each other without any interruptions or drama. The phone gets turned off and we actually talk about what has been going on all week.

Answer 2

My husband and i have a 5 year old and one on the way. It is very important for us to spend alone time together at least once a week. We like to make sure we go to dinner or just out to have a couple hours of fun. It is the only way to keep our sanity. I think a "Date night" is important for all couples with children. Of course this is providing you still like your spouse and want to spend time with them. :)

Answer 3

Look at it this way. Ask yourself, "what would we have if we were not together as a couple?" You don't necessarily have to go out, you just have to keep each other FIRST in your lives. Love your kids, but love each other more. Don't let anything get between you!

Answer 4

We have 6 kids and we go out together at least once every couple weeks.  Even if it's just dinner, it's still time away.  If we stay home we usually just hang out by the bonfire with the neighbors and drink:)

Answer 5

A "how" question cannot be answered in just a "yes" or "no."

Date night is important for us, on a weekly basis.

Answer 6

Yes, we have a date night and it is so important to have one. My husband and I both work ( he works overnight and I work during the day). We have about 4 hours to spend with each other a day with is probably less than that because he plays with our daughter when we get home while I cook. So, we when have a date night it we get a chance to actually be alone and reconnect and just GET OUT of the house!  We are really trying to spend as much time as we can with each other because we know that we are not going to be able to for a while since I am pregnant with #2.  But we usually go to the movies and then go to this spot where you can play pool and eat.  

Answer 7

I divorced my first wife because no kids...Remarried 2 kids and one on the way...I don't feel the need at this point for date night...We go as a family everywhere...even Vegas! We have fun...I have gone out rarely just with my wife and feel a little guilty when we do...Take Care

Answer 8

yes its important to keep your relationship going...its also important to go on weekends away dates too...and you can even have vacations away from the kids then have vacations and take the kids to do things all of this is very important to help with your realationship...as long as you have someone you can leave the kids with from time to time...keep thigs spiced up and going...dont let kids take over you life and drift apart. pluse the kids will see the love between you and hubby and see the time that you spend together and its good for them to see that too..as they get older.

Answer 9

It is important so you do not lose sight of your relationship. You need a little time for just you and your husband.

Answer 10

To maintain a healthy marriage, it is essential to have a date night.  My wife and I have seven children, so for us to connect and relax with each other, it is on a date.  It is very easy to put the date off due to outside pressure, but we have a pact, if one cancels for any reason that we make it up the next night.  Our dates differ, sometimes it is a nice dinner with drinks, other times it may consist of going dancing, or if we are both feeling frisky we will go to the strip clubs.  Good luck.

Answer 11

Yes it is very important to have date night at least twice a month.  If the parents are happy the kids will be happy as well.  It gives you both a break to just be with one another.  We use to do this a lot but we have stopped and I can tell the difference in a bad way.  We use to go out to a nice dinner or a movie or just shop around.  Where we live their is nothing much you can do.  It is very very important.

Answer 12

it is very necessary, to reconnect at least once a week... if you dont do that, you will lose all that it means to be married,... even if you love being parents and have dinner together every night, you still need that time to be with each other, with no restrictions....

Answer 13

It is so very important!  It's a must!  

It's time away from the demands of children to re-connect with your S/O.  You need that time to still feel like your are a couple.  To remember what it was that you loved in them, and to find new things that you love!  

If you don't do date night (or special alone time), then there is a real chance of growing apart just due to the fact that you aren't keeping in-touch on that level.  It all began with just two, and you need to keep the 2 solid to have a solid family as a whole.

You can do whatever!  Imagination is your only limit.  It can be anything like the "norm" of dinner and a movie (although this doesn't give much time to talk), or something fun like skating, hiking, playing in a park...etc.  Talking a class together is also a great thing to do!  Something physical is best.

Some of my best dates were just grabbing cheap dinner and going to a park to swing and talk.  Little money but a really great time.

Answer 14

I don't have kids yet, but I WILL have one in september and I would be a lot of stock on "date night". In fact I think it would be essential to keep a marriage alive to go out on a date with your spouse without the kids every once in a while. It gives you both a chance to reconnect outside the household and rediscover each other.

Even if you don't have kids and have been in a relationship for a long time, planning a little "date" can still be very beneficial. For example, let's say you've been living with someone for 5 years or so and you've both fallen into a routine. You call your guy at work at ask him if he'd like to meet you at a local restaurant for dinner at a certain time. You get ready at a friends house while he's at home getting ready alone and you take separate cars. You both get all dressed up like you're meeting each other for the first time, and still worried about first impressions.

You can even take it so far as "meeting for the first time" at a bar and "going home" with each other or going to a motel.

It spikes up the intimacy and your s*x life like nothing else.  

Answer 15

The doctor who delivered my first 2  said date night was very important. It gave us mom's time away from the kids and gave us good reason to dress up and feel good about ourselves.

My ex  however didn't do this for us or me.  But I feel it's very important to do so.

You can go out to dinner, a movie, a few drinks, dancing, or just go park! :-)

Answer 16

After eight years of marriage, two children, and a nine hour work day, I would absolutely love to go on a date with my husband. However, that's almost impossible and unfortuanately, our marriage is suffering from it. It's hard to find a sitter for our children, but I do think it is very important.

Answer 17

No, my husband and I don't have date nights. Maybe once a year, when family visits, we go to the movies and/or dinner.

We don't do date nights because we don't believe we need extra bonding time. We like to do things as a family and that involves our kids. We love to spend time together and we put our children first. We have plenty of time to talk and bond after the kids are in bed or playing. There will be a time when they are older and don't want to do things with us anymore and it will be just the two of us. Many people will probably say that at point we are grown apart but I don't think that's true. We spend so much time apart already (with deployments and training) we can easily adapt to new situations.  

Answer 18

I don't have children but I would imagine it is very important.  Human's have multiple relationships:  The relationships we have with our friends, our parents, our siblings, our co-workers, our children and yes our spouses (each requires a certain amount of work to keep it healthy).

When you introduce children to the marriage, people often don't leave time for the necessary work to maintain the husband & wife bond (intimacy, staying in touch with your spouse etc.)  So in my view, date night is important for both husband & wife in maintaining a healthy spousal relationship.

Also, if everything is always about the family (kids) there will be a day when they do in fact leave the nest and you will be sitting there staring at your spouse and realize that you have absolutely NOTHING in common or anything of interest to talk about.

Answer 19

My children are from my first marriage, my husband treats and loves them as his own.  Our date nights have dwindled in the last couple of years due to finances, surgeries, etc.  While I do think they are important, I don't think they are necessary to maintain a good marriage.  I would like it to be more frequent just to get away from the "chores" of motherhood etc.  When we don't/can't we find other ways, my boys have a set bed time, no later than 9, we watch movies, play cards, reminisce (we've known each other 24 years), when we do go out, we have dinner, maybe a movie, sometimes just a late night drive.  It all depends on how the relationship is or handled.  

Answer 20

Between jobs and kids, your life is running on a schedule.  Things that are not scheduled tend to be forgotten.   Date night is scheduled in our household.  It give the lady and I a chance to reconnect and to communicate.   Date night is very important to any relationship.

Answer 21

It is always a good idea for parents to have a date night . This gives the parent(s) a chance to unwind and get away from all of the hussle & bussle and to relieve stress . It is also good for the kids to have a little away time from mom & or dad .

Having kids is very demanding and very stressful at times and we all need that little break to recharge .

If you and your significant other decide to go out you can always go to the movies , dinner , club , concert , any thing that you both like doing . If you go to a club though and drink I reccomend that you have the kids stay over night with family ( the hangovers can be a pain in more than one way ) .

If you and your significant other decide to stay home get a sitter for a few hours and fix a nice dinner or order out , rent a movie , or maybe have friends over for a small party or just to play a game of cards .

There is a lot of things that you can do it just depends on what you both like doing .

  

Answer 22

its very important b/c its time you both need. leaving your kids for a night wont make you appreciate them less, its like when they get to be teenagers theyre gona want to go out with out the parents right? well same with us parents. we need time to recendle our love. we go anywhere we feel like going at the moment it can be just a dinner then back home or a hotel or just to the beach anything as long as you and him are having fun and enjoying eachother

Answer 23

Date night is extremely important to my wife and I.  We need it at least once every two weeks if not more.  It gives us a chance to be alone together, to talk as adults, and to connect.  My wife and I usually go to a coffee shop or restaurant, then we go to the movies.  Sometimes my wife goes shopping and I accompany her (I know that wouldn't be considered a date for most men).  Mostly we do traditional date-type things, though.  I'm planning on getting tickets to a play for our next date night.

Answer 24

It depends how many dates "mom" has on her own. Date night, just like marriage is useless and has no effect on the marriage itself or that relationship. Both a waste of time and money.

Answer 25

It is very important to have "date night".  I don't personally use that term, but it is important that you and your spouse have alone time.

You and your spouse come first.  The kids bedtime should be adjusted to your schedule each night so you can have a couple of hours by yourself.  And once every couple weeks, and adult night if possible.  

Answer 26

Date night is important, because working on your relationship is very important.  Because your children have to love you, your spouse doesn't.

Answer 27

Utterly essential.

We're lucky - we have several friends and cousins nearby who are all in our stage of life, so we can all drop the kids off with their cousins (well, 3rd cousins) and go out for the evening.

We try to pick a new restaurant and go to a show once a month. That's our pricey date. We also take one night a week just for us, rent a movie or go for ice cream.

Answer 28

i have four kids date night is important to us but if we cant find a sitter we put to kids to bed a little early like 7 and go downstairs to the living room catch up on a movie or just talk to each other it helps really

Answer 29

yes date night is very important because  even when you have kids it's important to remember how to be a couple and don't  like roommates, my husband and I like to go golfing and comedy,out to dinner,movies.when you and your husband go out the kids will be fine and you and your husband will be even better off also.hope this helps.

Answer 30

My children are grown and gone, and date night was always very important. I needed some me time and some special time with my husband. Movies, dinner, a motel....

Answer 31

Date night is very important in my house!! But we don't always go out somewhere. My favorite times are when we grill out some steaks & have a romantic candlelight dinner & then chill out on our deck enjoying the evening, maybe a bottle of champagne or 2. If we do go out, its usually to our favorite pub.

But either way, every day my hubby & I make sure to make time for each other, whether its a snuggle together after our daughter goes to bed, or he will sit & chat with me while I am making dinner or whatever.