If you have managing conservator of a child and the natural father has his rights to.?

Question

Do you let the sister of this child have contact with him or her? If so why? If not why?

The little girl is 41/2 years old the little boy is 2 1/2 years old.

Answer 1

Yes, absolutely the sister and brother should know each other. How can it possibly be a problem?  Think of it in relation to other relatives. Does knowing your cousins in another state whom you only see annually mess you up? No, I don't think so. However, occasionally having contact at least helps these two develop a bond that might otherwise not work when they were older.

My relative (a total loser) gave up her daughter to a paternal aunt and kept her younger son from having contact.  He moved out of the home at 18 and then had to get the address for his sister from his grandmother because his mother wouldn't tell him anything about his sister or her whereabouts.  Both adult kids have a relationship that took some years to forge, but a lot of hurt was caused by this attitude that it was somehow bad for them to remain in contact while raised apart.

Answer 2

I don't see the harm in letting children spend time with their siblings. It can actually be harmful later on in your relationship with the child if he finds out that you kept his sister from him. Children need companionship just as adults do.

Spending time with his sister will also help him learn to share and get along with other children. What better way to teach that than with his own sister?

Answer 3

Even though I totally disagree with it, he may want to respect the womens wishes. I'm affraid he may put himself in a position that he has both mothers angry with him and make it hard for him to see either one of his children. I believe they need to know one another and will some day. But for his own sake, right now, I think he should keep verbalizing it until he wears one if not both of them down. Women can be vicious. Especially when it comes to their children.

Answer 4

Why wouldn't you let the children see each other?

They did not ask to be placed in this situation....

nor did they cause this.

I am assuming the children do not have the same father?

Answer 5

He can fight for the child. Most states try to protect adoptive parents but if the child was adopted without him being notified then he can fight in federal court if nothing else based off of the 14th amendment for due process of law.

It can be a slow ugly fight, especially if he goes federal. It may be best for him to go into federal court and get away from the state law that protects the stealing of children.