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Question

well im 14 turning 15 next month and i just gone through the phase of realizing how undifferent i am to others.i was always self centered thinking the world was worried about me 24/7 ^_^ lol.and when i learned that i wasnt as special that i thought i was it hit me pretty hard.im not a selfish person or any of that i always just kept thinking i had to be and look perfect for everyone.i was talking to my dad about it as we went out to eat.and i learned that everything that i am gooing through it already happened to someone else.but im also satisfied with this so i seem more relax and less paranoid.

my problem is that depend on other people to make me happy when that is the wrong thing to do and i always thought i needed people to make me happy.i want to stand on my own two feet and be a leader of my own.and instead of wishing i was with the positive people i wish i was around or made friends with i am becoming what i wish in a friend.

also the friends that i had i always looked up to them.(all of my friends are like my best friends and i dont have alot).names are gavin and ugeene.i always looked up to them so much.i always wanted to be like them.but slowly i learned i could never be them.and soon i found out how improtant i am to myself.i never paid attention to how much of a positive and good person i am too.and i think my weakness is i count most of my happiness and strenghth on other people like my best friends when all i needed was to find the true person inside me

(this is really hard for me to explain) well right now im doing very well and i am learning to always stand up for whats right and not to be afraid of confrontation if that person is wrong.i became more confident in the person i am.well the problem is that i am so used to feeling dependent that,that (weak) feeling come back and i feel anxious and scared.i want this feeling to go away and i dont want to keep repeating the same mistakes.of cource i know this feeling will be hard because this is how i been feeling for years but i know i can do this.

~you guys have any tips to help me oout i really would appreciate this~

Answer 1

sounds to me like you pretty much got your sh*t together. the fact you and your dad went to lunch and can talk is great. hope you keep it up. if anything to suggest, then try to keep the solid relationship with your dad.

Answer 2

I know everyone is telling you this, but it sounds like you're just growing up. Depending on other people for your happiness isn't a malfunction, it's a strength. You can be stronger with other people than you can ever be without them.

Some people insist you have to be entirely self-dependent, but that's really mostly meaningless and unfulfilling. You don't need to have other people to survive, but you do want to have them to live well.

Finding out you're "not as special as everyone else" is complete bullshit. Everyone else goes through that too, and if you're going to make it through that stage, you have to realize that nobody has everything that you have. Some people might have some of the things that you bring to the table, but nobody has all of them. You're completely unique, and there's nobody quite like you. Recognize your individuality. Celebrate yourself.

You sound like a very mature, positive person who is going through a normal adolescence. it sounds like you're doing a whole ton of things right. Don't panic. If it helps, watch some movies that relate to awakening and teenage years. (Personally, I suggest Garden State, American Beauty, even Good Will Hunting. Those should help you feel less isolated.)

Good Luck!

Answer 3

your really mature for your age. its great that you have all that figured out, i wish i could figure my own life out at fourteen (im thirteen and totally confused) the best thing is just to be a kid! hold on to your youth and innocence, have fun, and be crazy. you dont have to be strong all the time. show your emotions. everyone i know is getting into things they shouldnt because they wanna grow up. being an adult isnt that great. not all the time. just dont grow up to fast, because once ya do youre gonna wish like heck you hadnt.  

Answer 4

You remind me of myself. You sound like an old soul.

I have learned that you create your own happiness. If you enjoy your own company, others will enjoy your company too.

I have learned that although I am 27, I am still learning things about myself and feel as though I am finally starting to see life in a new light.

Things never go as planned, but If you stay positive and roll with the punches, you'll always be alright.

Love yourself and your family....in the end, that's all you truly have.

Don't be afraid to have your heart broken and learn from your mistakes.....I still have lots more to learn...

Happy Living!!!

Answer 5

Volunteer at a childrens hospital. I work witha youth group and this has been one of the most amazing things we've ever done. We work with childrens burn victums and the work is not hard. Most of the time we just rock and hold baby burn victums. You will never be the same...in a good way. It takes anxiety, stress, and fear and throws it out the window to help a suffering child and actually makes you feel better and happy.

Answer 6

I'm not really sure what the question is. It's great that you have figured this all out at a young age, there are many adults who haven't gotten that memo yet. Good job and continue to be you, don't worry so much about what other people think. Continue to do the right thing, no matter what. People will look up to that even if they don't tell you.

Answer 7

omg I feel the same way you do, but I still haven't gotten to the point where I think I am important and sometimes, I don't even feel I deserve to be a human being, and I'm already 20 years old! :( I hope to get it figured out someday...

Answer 8

i know EXACTLY how you feel!!! i'm 14 going on 15 as well...it's just a time in ur life when you change..we ALL do...girls normally before guys..it's just how it works..but, you are changing pretty early in ur life. you just have to stick it out, pray...God is always there for you..and is always there for me in my REALLY hard times. the troubles will be over soon...it might be a little while...but stick it out! also, btw,  WOW you are so smart and amazing, you know SO much!! you are great. <33

Answer 9

You're just dealing with part of growing up - actually a little sooner than most people your age. You just have to persevere - you will have your up days and down ones, and that's ok. What counts is the type of person you end up being, and it's a hard road to get there.

Answer 10

i am sorry i can't give any tips. i am going through similar situation. not a bit is changed. so may be it happens to everyone?  thank you for posting this question