If you invite friends to dinner, Do you have to pay for everything or can you ask them to leave the tip?

Question

If you invite friends to dinner, Do you have to pay for everything or can you ask them to leave the tip?

Answer 1

You asked, you pay!

Answer 2

WELL WHY YOU ASK THEM OUT TO EAT THEN? DON'T BE CHEAP, LEAVE A TIP AS WELL

Answer 3

if they offer to pay the tip, let them. but if they don't offer you pay for dinner and the tip.

Answer 4

This all depends on the wording in the invitation.  If you ask someone to go to dinner with you, they will probably think you are the host and the payer.  If you ask someone if they would like to go to such and such a restaurant as company for you, then they should expect to pay their own tab.

Answer 5

If you invite them then you should pay for everything, including the tip. If they offer to leave the tip (I would) then by all means let them, but you should not ask for it, it's bad etiquette.

Answer 6

This can be a very slippery slope.  Unless you lay it out clearly AT THE TIME YOU INVITE, you'll have to go along with their assumptions, which (surprise) are that you will foot the whole bill!!  Some noble soul may speak up on your behalf, either for help with the bill and/or tip, but why leave it to chance?  Very quietly, and before the meal, ask a male friend (males are better at this) to say, for example, "Hey, let's all pitch in for the tip.  We've been treated to a great meal etc. etc."  Good luck

Answer 7

YOU INVITED THEM they probobally didnt even bring money so YOU pay the bill and the tip!!!!!!!!!!!! the simplest thing ever!!

Answer 8

um yea it will be a ;lil un comfatoble and just say guys i only have enought for some to pay the total can one of u guys pay that tip thats all to it and it feells so good to be truthfull on bring like 30-40$ so it is truthfull

Answer 9

Since you're the one that invited them,  you should pay the bill and the tip, because that would be the polite thing to do. If they offer to pay everything, don't argue. Whether they offer to pay the bill is their choice.

Answer 10

I was always raised that if you invite someone to lunch/dinner, you should pay. But in our society today, most people feel more comfortable paying for their own and just enjoying your company-not your wallet. It may have something to do with a feeling of "I owe you" hanging over their heads after they let you pay. Personally, every time my husband and I have gone out with friends, it has been a "Dutch" event. They pay for theirs and we pay for ours and split the tip. But like I said that is personal experience.

Answer 11

You've invited them, you pay the bill and the tip too.

Answer 12

just be corteous enough to pay for evrything 'cause you invited them. (except when they break something! :), they have to pay it.)

Answer 13

Dont ask for the tip it looks tacky! you INVITED them most likely your friend might tell u I got the tip but dont depend on that

Answer 14

If you believe in or try use the rules of etiquette, then it is pretty strait forward.  You asked, You pay, and that is for everything.  According to the invite it is "assumed"  that you are taking charge as when a boy asks a girl out on a first date or you call up your mother and take her to lunch.  But the rules are kinda of dated for older generational thinking.  In to days society, you have to pick and choose when the rule will apply by clarifying the rule upfront at the time of the invite. A good example is to go out and eat with someone your girlfriend/ boyfriend might not approve of.  If in the beginning you say your are going somewhere and you are willing to go "Dutch" (every one pays their own way) or if you are clear by saying you can not pay but would love the company then it is clear up front that they will pay for there own way. The advantage by clarifying is that no one gets embarrassed or feels like they are being taken advantage of when the bill comes.  The biggest thing here is if opposite gender is involved and you pay, it is technically considered a date but if you do not pay, then you are able to "say we just met as friends."

Answer 15

It's up to you to pay for everything. You invited them. It would be rude to ask them to leave the tip,but if they offer, that's different.