If you made a mistake do you tell..?

Question

If you made mistake and kissed some one ..it definitely not going to happen again ..but will you tell your husband/wife? no matter the situation was?

Answer 1

Maybe you felt neglected in your own relationship, and caught up in a moment. If you tell hubby then he would realize that he is / has been neglecting you. On the other hand, if you`re not neglected and it just happened, don`t do it again, and keep quiet.

Answer 2

SHHHHHH..

Answer 3

Probably not. Why upset them just to ease your guilty conscience? Sounds rather selfish actually...if it was just a stupid lapse in judgment then let it go, and keep your lips to yourself in the future.

Answer 4

oh just cut **** fess up to it, and take it like you got a pair.

Answer 5

If you truly loved your husband/wife that kiss would've never taken place.  "If you always tell the truth you'll never have to remember anything"

If you told him/her they will be hard pressed to fully trust you again.  Maybe you need to sit down and look at the situation and see if you truly do love them.

Answer 6

No.  It would only hurt them. People who do tell do it because they feel guilty and want to be forgiven.  Then they feel better and their poor partner feels awful.

learn your lesson from this and don't do anything so silly again.

Answer 7

i would keep quiet

Answer 8

yes, its happnd to me and i ***** sto mysef i felt so bad...

the truth always cmes out

Answer 9

no i would keep it to myself  

Answer 10

If it's that small, some things are better left UNsaid.

Answer 11

I wouldn't say anything, but you can't tell me that it won't happen again because it HAPPENED to begin with. I would stay away from the person.

Answer 12

No, not for a kiss, it aint worth it !!!!

Answer 13

I personally wouldn't tell.  What good would it do?  You would be hurting your partner unnecessarily, only to ease your own guilt.

If you were sure that it would never happen again, and you were sorry for it, I would suck it up and try to forget about it.  You have to live with the guilt - a sacrifice worth taking if it spares the person you love unnecessary pain.

Answer 14

I would not tell and if you don't how about it you name time and place

Answer 15

No! Don't do it again

Answer 16

being honest will build trust, if you hide it and it comes out from another source then it will cause more trouble than if you are up front and honest  

Answer 17

I've done it and felt horrible, but I was drunk and it was one time and I let him know. He wasn't pleased and I know it hurt him, but he knows that if I hadn't been drunk it would have never have happened. The kiss was very innocent and hap pend for like two seconds, but I still feel guilty about it. It was with a girl, so it wasn't as bad as if it was with a guy and he knew we were playing a dumb drinking game that involved lips touching... It was stupid and I was young and never let it happen again!

BUT and I know this sounds wrong, if it was an accident and you know it's never EVER going to happen again, keep it to yourself. Sometimes being too honest gets you into loads of trouble.  PLUS, telling your spouse only eases your guilt ( which you deserve to have) but makes them feel hurt, angry, betrayed, trust is lost and so much more... Who would benefit if you tell??

If my boyfriend kissed another girl, I'd be devastated, and as much as I tell myself I want to know everything, I don't think I'd be able to take it.

Answer 18

Of course not!Keep that secret for your self.

Answer 19

No.  That helps nothing, except to ease your conscience (sp).

Answer 20

Yes you should tell. Would you want to know? Would you want the option to know the character of the person you are seeing? I agree with SuperSay and Smoochies. Don't be a coward, but also stay understanding as long as it takes to build back trust. If it happened once, it could happen again, with someone else.

Answer 21

Only if there were witnesses to the kiss, otherwise, it never happened!

Answer 22

it depends.  i'd probably tell if i had an attraction to the other man, however, you say it's not going to happen again, so maybe you should just keep it to yourself.

Answer 23

i would honesty is the best policy and yes he will be upset but he will come back if he loves you and it will make you stronger

Answer 24

i would tell

Answer 25

keep that to my self thanks,

Answer 26

Yes what if someone else told them and you didn't they might not believe you that it won't happen again!

Answer 27

No !!!!   Keep your mouth . . . .SHUT !!!!!!!!!!!  It would serve NO purpose but to alieve your CONSCIENCE. . .and to HURT the other person  !!!!  And in the end. . .it will destroy the very fabric of your relationship !!  If you've learned ANYTHING. . .hopefully. . .it's to NEVER do it again !!!

Have a nice day!

Answer 28

This is a hard one.  If you tell, expect him to be angry and hurt and to be scared and not trust you next time you go out.  Don't be angry at him for his lack of trust bc you caused it.  He would trust you more if you told them than if he found out otherwise.  You could tell him and tell him from now on you will check in with him occasionally when you go out because you know it must hurt him and hurt his trust for you.  Whatever you do, be understanding as this will be hard for him.

Answer 29

I would rather you told me than find out from someone else, like you're trying to hide something....

Answer 30

keep it quiet b/c if you tell then your hurting someone else that you care about.

You should really think hard about your mistake though - maybe there was a reason of something else missing in your life in order for that mistake to happen.  

Answer 31

NO >>>   chances are you were drinking right? Just keep an eye on your drinking and the situations you find yourself in. If you are positive that it didn't mean anything, then watch what situations your getting yourself into. BUT NO I wouldn't say anything. But I wouldn;'t do it again. Good luck