If you saw her behavior, what would u think?

Question

You work with a fairly reserved young woman. During lunch, you all were told of some gossip that was somewhat unsettling due to its perverse nature. While everyone else was commenting on it, the young woman was just attentively listening but not saying a word. Someone pointed out that she must be skeeved out because her face said it all. She just lowered her head and gave a small smile after that. You encouraged her to say something but she lowered her head again. After a few seconds, she turns to you and very quietly says "it's gross!" But that was it....

What would you think of her if you watched this encounter and her behavior?

Answer 1

This person reminds me of a lot of people I know, including myself.  And if this woman is anything like them, she wasn't acting that way out of shyness.  She was uncomfortable, yes, but not shy.  It sounds like she was more irritated and disgusted with you guys than anything else.  

The clue here is "the little smile" she gave when she was asked if she was freaked out.  I give that little smile too, not out of shyness but whenever I want to give people a piece of my mind but realize I would probably say things I really shouldn't.  Now I don't know what was said, since you didn't specify.  But sometimes I hear something so disgusting I want to say so many things at once (all of them brash and rude) I don't know what to say so I just smile that little smile, which says: you guys are immature, you're disgusting, that's so childish I'm not going to even bother with it, etc., or whatever the case may be.  

Answer 2

I would think that she is definitely reserved. I would also guess that she probably doesn't like gossiping altogether for whatever reason. And that she maybe is not in favor of perverse things at lunchtime.

Answer 3

She sounds like me!

Which is simply really shy.

Answer 4

i would think she's very shy and doesn't like alot of attention-alot of people are like that, i wouldn't think too much about this if i were you x

Answer 5

she's probably just shy. some ppl dont feel very comfortable in talking about that stuff

Answer 6

Some of the stuff people gossip about I wouldn't even want to fall out of my mouth or to have ever said it or repeated it.  Maybe she was thinking that.  People have told me things because quote "I know you won't tell anyone." Why the h**l would I repeat that sick sh@t.

It's not loyalty or high moral standing, it is just uggh.

You must've forced that "it's gross!" out of her with your questioning glances.  Some people don't like those gossip feasts.  It's really unattractive to anyone who stands apart from it and watches how people devour ugly news about others and just get so thrilled and excited-like.

Answer 7

"..gossip that was somewhat unsettling due to its perverse nature. (..)

After a few seconds, she turns to you and very quietly says "it's gross!" But that was it....What would you think of her if you watched this encounter and her behavior?"

I would think, "Thank God, there is at least one person in this room who has some sense of appropriateness left!!" She is NOT being shy at all; she just didn't feel like commenting on whatever kind of perverse details offered. Very sensible young lady, to me.

Answer 8

She is probably simply introverted - meaning she generally prefers to listen rather than speak to groups.  I am the same way and consider it a gift as I am able to generally solve problems better than the people who won't shut up and use their brain.

In high school though, kids do not typically recognize this trait as the gift it is... wait until college.

Answer 9

I would commend her on not partaking in any gossip.

Answer 10

Perhaps she was embarrased to hear gory details about perverse acts.  She may have been offended but was too polite to say so.