If you want to write or draw, and the counsellor refuses, prefers you to talk, who's right?

Question

If you want to write or draw, and the counsellor refuses, prefers you to talk, who's right?

Answer 1

Get someone else who is more sympathetic to your needs, there are some dreadful counsellors out there who do not have a clue what they are doing and only want to organise your life as they see fit.

Studies indicate that people instinctively know what will make them better, no matter how inarticulate they maybe at expressing this.

Maybe there are some theraputic workshops that have painting and drawing as part of a treatment plan in your area? Ask around about this, your CAB should know.

Answer 2

your right  

Answer 3

The councellor is the one with the degree, and the one who knows best.

However, talk to the person in question and ask them for perhaps a half session to express yourself.

JOhn

Answer 4

thats my job, you have to talk its the only way we know whats going on

Answer 5

Okay, first of all I completely disagree with the person who said you have to talk, it's the only way the counselor knows what's going on.

I find it very difficult to open up to someone and talk to them face to face, especially about things I would need counselling for. I had a counsellor at university, who I saw on a weekly basis. I would sometimes bring in drawings, or something I had written, and we would discuss it in therapy.

What I found really worked well though, was I would write a letter saying what I really wanted to deal with, but was too afraid to bring it up face to face, for fear of a negative reaction. I would email it to my counselor a day or two before our appointment, and when I got to my appointment, we would discuss what i had written to her. I found it way more helpful than just trying to sit there and talk to begin with, because I could be honest in the letters, more honest than I would have been face to face, a lot more candid, and I wound up, as a result, dealing with issues that otherwise would still have remained buried, to this day.

So yeah, talking's good, but sometimes the other things are needed to get the talking going. If your counsellor is trying to make you talk because they don't think the drawing or writing is helpful, maybe you you talk to them about that. If they think it's a waste of time, maybe it's time to get a new counsellor.

Answer 6

if you want counselled by this person specifically, you need to work with them within the rules they set.  But if it's a Real problem, if you find it an awful lot easier to communicate with drawing, ask them if you can bring a drawing with you to discuss perhaps.  If you find their rules unacceptable, find another counsellor.  Trust and respect is a two way thing but I think they probably have very good reasons for wanting you to communicate in a way they can understand.

Answer 7

Your right,

A counselor out of all people should know that every person deals with situations differently. Its their job to help you use YOUR way to help heal yourself

Answer 8

Counselors cost money, and here its hard to get an appointment, so the counselor is right, don't waste your money or time.