If you were a mother, would you be offended if your son put pics of ....???

Question

Girls in their lingerie up on the computer screen background? When you think of the factors,...

1: does he use it more than you?

2: The girls put up there are never naked.

3: the girls are either from Victoria's Secret, Shirley of Hollywood, Frederick's of Hollywood, or even Dreamgirl.

Here is a link to see some examples....... Tell me why in detail. Just to get a better understanding..

http://www.attractivewear.net/images/sh-08/25004fb-08_shirley_of_hollywood_sexy_lingerie_dress_outfits_panty.jpg

http://www.attractivewear.net/images/sh-07/53008bk-back-v-08.jpg

http://www.attractivewear.net/images/dg-07/4755_Purple-h-07.jpg

http://i46.photobucket.com/albums/f142/morenacorwin/lingerie02/m_lingerie602.jpg?t=1207980387

Answer 1

i wouldnt be offended but you have to think how would you like it if she had pictures of males in similar style photos?

Answer 2

The first one isn't too bad.

If that were the wallpaper, I think I would take the computer away from him.

If it were a little tamer, I would insist that he take them down, but those are a bit over the top for a teenager to be staring at while he's supposed to be doing his homework.

Answer 3

It depends on where and who else sees it. Out in the open for all to see? then no, but in private? then why not. Depends on his age too.

Answer 4

Would he mind if his mom hung pictures of hot, half dressed guys on the wall by the computer?

Answer 5

let him do let nature take its course..and nature to males is just checking out ladies and fantasizing ...

Answer 6

not as long as I did not use the same computer.

Answer 7

maybe the mum should change the background to some s**y half naked guys lol

Answer 8

Depending on the age of the son.

If he was a teen, i would understand that age is catching up with him(adolescence) but if hes not yet a teenager,then its more worrying.

Definitely children use computers more than adults, but the question is, what do they view?

The girls are half naked,in fact considering the site you provided,they are naked only that, they are not stake naked.

I would think that he views them more often in that he feels there is nothing wrong with using them as a screen saver.Probably you could get closer to him so as to get to know  what is on his mind.By that you can tell how far your son has gone into the world we are living today and try to help him out where you feel you can.

I quit don't understand your question.But i hope i was of some help.

Answer 9

If it's a family computer- I'd say it's a no-go.

Answer 10

In all honesty, I don't think you should be offended, however that's not really something you should just accept.  While it is natural for guys to look at things like that every once and a while, and I know this is a delicate subject... but you need to try and restrict him, otherwise it could turn into a very bad habit.  Trust me on this.  I know from experience.  And while the girls may not be nude, that doesn't mean he can't get something out of it.  Basically, just let him know that he shouldn't be putting it up as a background to the computer, but maybe let him keep a small file inside the computer somewhere, just for when he needs it ;)

Answer 11

I'm a mother, and my son has long left home, being 33 now, with a career of his own.

But . . . . . nothing of this ilk would ever have bothered me.  His computer and his room was a changing scenario of girls, the surf, more girls and then more surf.  I thought this perfectly normal for a boy with not much else on his mind at that time.  It's hard to be offended by what is perfectly normal is it not?  It certainly didn't hurt him or his friends who were very similar to him.   Didn't hurt me either.

Leah from Australia.

Answer 12

My son started putting this stuff up in his room when he was 16.  I didn't have a problem with him looking, but by putting it on the wall there was no control over who else would see it.  Pretty clothed girls were OK on the wall, but when the pics became blatantly sexual with bare G-stringed bottoms, bikini'd crotch shots and hair over nude b*****s, I told him he could put them in his closet or the file cabinet, but not out in the open.  It's a guy thing, but if young men should be made aware of how their actions might offend others.  Respectful behavior is to at least be perceived by others as respectful.  And if he doesn't care who sees them, then you need to explain that you care about who may be offended and he needs to come to a mutual agreement with you about where to keep the pics.  You don't have to justify your feelings and he should learn to respect them at least as long as he lives with you.  Don't get angry with him or be a prude.  You can laugh about it with him.  Let him know you don't think there's anything wrong with him doing what guys do, but he needs to tone it down a notch as long as it's public.  Go with your gut and don't put up with anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.  Be honest and find a meeting ground.

Answer 13

no sweat.

Answer 14

I think there are a couple of different factors that I would consider.

1- How old is he??

2- Are there young children who will see these images??

I think if you believe he is old enough and #2 does not pertain to your situation AND you don't mind then it is no big deal. Boy like that type of thing. And if he feels he can be open with you about stuff and you won't be mad that could be a plus for your relationship with him.

Answer 15

Well, it really sounds like a teenage thing, but if it is the shared computer he really should not. Also, if he knows about any certain rules you or your family has about it, it would also be a no.

Answer 16

maybe alittle uncomfortable;initially(a honest answer).but better than puting pics of men in lingrie so live and let live(apart from keeping an eye on kids,teens )

Answer 17

nothing to worry except ur son might be the biggest pervert

Answer 18

would u rather he puts up pics of naked men?