If you were adopted, would you want to know/meet your parents and/or half brothers and sisters?

Question

Do you want to meet them out of curiosity or maybe for health reasons to find out if there is cancer or heart problems? I would really like to hear your experiences and opinions on this matter. Thanks so much.

Answer 1

i would just wanna meet them to meet them! if i hav never seen my parents or siblings before all i would care about was meeting them

Answer 2

I would like to meet the brother and sister's...but as far as the parents go...i would feel that they were the one's who gave me up...so if they wanted to cantact me...they need to make that move

Answer 3

I am adopted.  I wanted to meet my first family and have.  I wanted to know my other family -- my first family -- that I hadn't seen in decades.  We share a great relationship and I'm glad for what we have now.

Answer 4

ive rly wanted to meet my birthparents since i was rly little....ive also wanted to meet my full sister which my birthparents didnt put up for adoption..

Answer 5

yeah u wouldnt want end up dating/marrying someone who turns out to be your brother or sister and it does happen and yeah for health reasons too.

Answer 6

Yes.  I always wanted to know.  I met the birth mother and birth brothers and sisters when I was 40 and a mother.  My emotional reasons were different than when I was younger and before I had a child.

I wanted to know because inside I NEEDED to know and had a RIGHT to know.

The health stuff was more about sugar coating it for everyone else.

Answer 7

I am adopted.  I did want to meet my parents and half-siblings.  I have met my first mom and her sons.  I just had to know.  I have missed her all my life.  And now I have her back.  It is a good feeling.  It's been a crazy kind of experience, but I'm glad I found her.

Answer 8

I am adopted.  I have wanted information about my bparents and my adoption ever since I can remember!  I searched in my 40's.  I do not like my bparents, but the undeniable curiosity finally got answered.  I'd search again...no regrets.

Answer 9

I know my biological mother...grew up with her in my life since my great aunt and uncle actually adopted me from birth...I just recently decided that I wanted to find my biological dad, and with the amazing help of another Y!A user, I have a few answers, unfortunately though, if who she found was correct, he passed away in 1992...she is now trying to help me find any other relatives that he may have had...I would definitely love to meet them, not just for the health reasons, but to learn more about my father and possibly develop a relationship with any possible siblings that I may have...I think it is extremely important to know about your roots and the idea that I could have another extended family somewhere makes me very curious...

Answer 10

I wasn't adopted, but yes, I think I would. I would want to see how they look, if they look like me, if they have any medical stuff I should know about, are they artsy, is there anyone famous in my family. I think it would be scary yet a wonderful thing.

Answer 11

it would be interesting.  to meet them. i guess if they wanted to meet me than i would consider it. i have not a clue on how to find out who they are. i have tried of and on for years. i dont feel at all like they abandoned me . i know my mother didnt have an clue on how to take care of kids. i got the best out of the deal a great set of parents that love me like i was their flesh and blood.

Answer 12

I have no desire to meet my birthparents or other genetic kin. I just see no reason  too I don’t feel like I’m missing something or am lost with out this people.  Grant it medical information would be nice but not even that gives me the desire to search. In fact I feel that it would be quite selfish of me to search simple for medical information.

If I was contacted by an half birth siblings and I know that I have at least an elder half birthsister I might considered contact, my birthparents made their choice and I’m fine with that I respect that birthmother couldn’t give me the best life possible, that she couldnt even take care of herself or even her other child.  However children have nothing to do with this decisions which is why if I was contacted by a half birthsibling I might be more open to contact. However I would not search them out.

Answer 13

i wanted to meet them for all of the above, and i did it.

Answer 14

I am adopted and the only thing that worries me it was to marry a brother!!!! so I had to check my husbands genealogy tree only to see we were not related...

I don't care anymore about it... family is who raises you... the rest is only DNA

Answer 15

Yes, I always wanted to meet them. My birthmom I actually talked to on my 18th birthday, but my birthdad took me a lot longer to start searching him out. I was lucky, I managed to find him on the first try. I have 3 half brothers and 3 half sisters. I've met my birthmom and half siblings on her side, and I'm flying out in June to meet my birthhdad and the other half siblings. I just would not have felt complete without knowing where i came form.

Answer 16

Yes, and I have met them all. It was mostly out of curiosity, but finding out my medical history was also important to me. Just as well too, because according to my newly-discovered medical history, there's some medication I can't have in case it sparks off a genetic condition. In my case, the more medical info I have, the safer I am.

I was very lucky though because my parents, their partners & half brothers & sister all wanted to meet me and have been very welcoming.

My brother's adopted and isn't interested in meeting his biological family at all. But if he ever changes his mind, then it is possible for him to find them, since we live in the UK and our records aren't closed like in the US. I don't think he will change his mind, but at least he has that option.

Answer 17

I don't really want to meet my birth parents or my half brother. i find no need to go searching for people who left the day i was born.

Answer 18

No, too much time has passed. And if they're anything like me then the feeling is mutual.

I do wonder what they look like though. And what kind of professions they hold.

But most important question is what illnesses run in the family. I'm just waiting for the landmines to go off, really.

Answer 19

Yes I want to know the whole truth of my origins, all of it; good bad or indifferent, I want to know chapter one of my life

The UN Convention on the Rights of the child say this is a right for every child.  A RIGHT! - what a pity the USA does not recognise that and continues to breach adoptees' rights with secrets, lies and sealed records

Secrets and lies suck

Answer 20

Yes, very much so. I would like to know my mom, my dad, my half sister, my half brother, my aunts, my uncles, my cousins, my second cousins, my second cousins once removed, my third cousins...

I want to know my family.

Answer 21

i think i would defenetly want to meet them out of curiosity, but i'll probly ask a bunch of questions cause i would feel like they abandoned me.  thats how i would feel....