If you were adopted by a family member when you were a baby..?

Question

How did your parents tell you, you were adopted and who your bio mom or dad were. Was is something you always just grew up knowing?

Anything you will share with me about your situation, would be great!

Thanks!

Answer 1

NOPE I WASNT ADOPTED.

Answer 2

My ex-husband found out that the woman who raised him was really his aunt when he was 11 years old.  He thought she was his real mother up until his older "brother", who was already grown and moved out, told him he was not even his real brother.  He was devastated and the rest of the story could take up a week's worth of Jerry Springer shows.  If you want any more insight into how he dealt with finding his biological parents feel free to email me.

Answer 3

Well I wasn't adopted out, but my little sister was.

My father had an affair and his mistress had two kids back to back.  The little girl (my sister) they gave up for adoption and my father's sister adopted her (which would be my aunt).

No one in my family ever told my sister the truth until just last year (when she was 13).  And for me it was hard because my baby sister was being told I was her cousin and not her sister.  Mind you, I'm 30.

I know my little sister is a bit confused now with the change in her family structure (her "uncle" really being her dad, her "mom" really being her aunt, etc.)

I wish my family would have been open and honest about all of this from day one to soften the blow on everyone in my family.

I know somedays is harder than others for my sister, and somedays it doesn't bother her at all.  And I want to be there for her, to support and love her, but that sided of my family is CRAZY!  So besides dropping an email or two, I told my sister I will be better able to communicate with her when she is an adult.  I know this sounds harsh, but my family is seriously messed up worse than most people could imagine (incest, molestation, drugs, alcohol, abuse, christian fanatics, etc.)

I know this isn't easy on you (if it's you that is going through this) and I wish you the best of luck... and I say that coming from the bottom of my heart.

If you do church, try talking to your pastor, preacher, etc.  Maybe seek counseling at school and surround yourself with those you know that love you.  And if things don't come easy now, just give it time and don't become too antsy.  It will all fall into place if and when it's supposed to.

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My crazy aunt (my sister's "mom") told my sister about her adoption when my step-mother died and just kind of flung open that door for everyone, whether prepared or not.  Then the crazy loon started blocking me from my sister once she thrust her upon me.  I can't spend time with her without my nutso-futso aunt being up my shorts.

I love my sister to death and have since the day she was born... but I can't deal with my aunt, so until my sister is old enough to make choices on her own, I have chose to stay back.

Answer 4

My mom and step dad adopted both of my uncles daughters when they were born (uncle and his wife are drug addicts). My "sisters" have always known they come from a "different mommys belly" but my mom and step dad havent told them who their real dad is. To them, he is Uncle. My folks plan on telling them when they get a bit older, but right now they are only 5 and 4... but they seem to understand that their "real" mommy loved them but couldnt take care of them, so thats why they now live with their new mommy.

Answer 5

I was adopted by my Aunt when I was about 3 months old. My parents were not the parenting type. There were hippies that did too many drugs. I never knew until I graduated high school that that was my Aunt.. I thought that she was my mom.. I always knew my real dad and mom.. BUT thought that they were my Aunt and Uncle. My parents where always a part of my life, but I don't think any one knew how to tell me why or what really went on.

I am now even closer with  real my mom and dad. And the mom I always knew really hates that. She doesn't really even talk to me anymore because she feels like i am a trader. Which is fine. But I think that everyone would have been better off telling me when I was younger, I was shocked but now people are hurt.. thinking that I have choose someone over them. =)

Answer 6

Well Im not adopted but I can tell you my son was adopted by my parents as their own when he was about 1 year old. I couldnt take care of him and his father was very very bad man. So to protect him and give him a good life I let them adopt him. He knows them as mom and dad and me as well April. Not really a sister but just some one his mom talks to alot. I dont really agree with it being this way as I think he should know the truth from the 1st day. But, since he doesnt I will be there for him when he askes.