If you were adopted help me!?

Question

I am an almost adopted child. I am in foster care for 10 years! This is really making me mad. I meed my bio. parents once a while. My parents SAY they really try to help me but THEY (bio parents) dont want to continue with the addoption. Dad left mum when I was born and mum left me after a while. I went to some other families but then i found this ONE!!! but for a reason i feel really bad when we talk about my adoption. Everyone says that i should be glaad they didnt leave me as well. Am i getting paranoid?. It really hurts me when my friends say this... cz I feel bad to talk abt adoption. WHATS WRONG WITH ME...?

Answer 1

Don't feel bad.Adoption is a very confusing and potentially painful thing.You are a strong young women.

Did your biological parents sign away their rights? if they did, they have no say in where you go.

Do you love your adoptive parents? I wouldn't feel bad for your bio mom or dad.They are the ones that left you high and dry to overcome the struggles in foster care.Don't let them manipulate you and make you feel bad about being adopted.

Go on with the adoption and let your bio family know that you will still keep in contact but you need this new family for yourself.Maybe talk with your adoptive mother about this.

Good luck.