If you were adopted...

Question

Would you want to know or find your real parents?

Answer 1

I gave a baby up for adoption 16 years ago and I would hope she would want to find me.I think of her every day.I dont regret my decision but do have a hole in my heart about this.I do have one advantage though,my other daughter who is 19 and my son who is 23 found her myspace and they are friends.I know in my heart that she is fine and have the comfort of seeing her pics and info on her wich is cool.As of yet she hasnt expressed intrest in contacting me and I havent attemped to contact her out of respect of her parents.and thats ok.I also get a real live look at the whole nature verses nurture thing lol.(nature wins lol)Hope this helps!Good luck!

Answer 2

yes but then again it not alway a good thing to do.

Answer 3

Well, first I'd talk to my parents that adopted me. Maybe they know a little about them? I have 2 adopted siblings, and I don't want them to see there adopted parents ( well the mom, the father died of a drug overdose.) It just would make them feel like they're not as much part of the family, and that wouldn't just hurt them, but me...

So like I said ask your adoptive parents if it's worth it. And if they say nothing about it, do A LITTLE of research and find out just a bit, not a lot. Because then it could be depressing in so many ways, like if they were rich you'd be asking questions like why let me go? Or if they were poor you'd just feel abligated to help them...

Answer 4

Im not adopted, but IF I WERE in this situation, I would most likely love my adoptive parents, but I would always wonder who my real parents are. Maybe when I got older, I would try to find out who they are.

Answer 5

I don't know. It depends if they were nice to me or not....But if I never knew them, then yea, I would like to find them.

Answer 6

My wife and I adopted 8 children, we have given them all of the information we have about their first parents.

Remember theere is a reason they needed adopted, in each case for my children is was not a matter of just selfish not being wanted..... They really could not care for the children.

So far none of them have seriously tried to find them the oldest of them is now 21, youngest is 13.

As for me, I don't know what I would want to do. I suppose I would try to find them, and I would expect help from my current parents and love and support from them when I finally did find the first set, ad likely found them dead in jail or still not wanting me? I suppose their is a small chance they are now doing great and I could start a relationship with them?

Answer 7

Yes, Only if my current parents did not take good care of me and made me feel that I wasnt their's but adopted. But still I would consider Do i need to find them coz I believe that one who took care of me till this age and never made me feel like an orphan is far more better than one who gave me birth.