If you were considering adoption, what factors will you consider when choosing the baby?

Question

I know age is one factor...

But will you make sure that they are healthy for example?

ETC?

Coz you have a choice unlike making your own baby...

How would you select (did you select) your baby?

Answer 1

Well you would need to consider race/ethnicity. The health of the child, the health of the parents, and s*x.

But always keep in mind, no matter how much time or thought you put into your decision, you can't plan for everything! Adoption is a huge commitment and you have to be ready to roll with the punches, just as if it was your bio child. Best Wishes!

Aww come on 5 thumbs down! These are legitimate factors!

You have to consider race. My family is interracial so we would like to adopt an interracial child.

You must consider health. Do you have the time, energy and commitment to take care of a child with special medical need? Can you handle an infant who is addicted to crack or had fetal alcohol syndrome? What about the parents health? Well, if you know that the parents have a history of bi-polar disease or some genetic trait are you going to be able to stick by the child you've adopted if these traits manifest? Some people who adopt do not.

And gender is important if you are planning to adopt in a foreign country.

So if you are planning to adopt these are valid questions. If you are honest with yourself you know what you can handle.

I am not suggesting that you can run out to the local orphanage and say "Gee, I'll take the cute little girl in crib number six" I'm just giving some suggestions on things to consider.

Answer 2

When adopting you can state what age range, medical conditions, race and in some cases what gender you are open to, but in most cases adoptive parents don't "choose" the baby they will adopt.

In domestic adoption it is usually the expectant mother who chooses the family to adopt her child. In international adoption, usually the adoption agency (either here or in the other country) "matches" the child with the adoptive parents.

The only time the adoptive parents would choose a specific child they want to adopt is in the case of a "waiting child" who has some special needs or is an older child, and is part of a photolisting to help find a family for them. In this situation, they would still need to apply for that particular child, and the social worker would need to determine if they would be a good "match" . In some cases, several families may be hoping to adopt the same child, so even in this case, you don't truely get to "choose" .

Answer 3

There are multiple criteria for selecting a child.  None of which can be catergorized as more important than the other, but I will try.

First we must ask ourselves, the characteristics we find important.  Whether they be physical, spiritual, or emotional, I have considered all of these in my rankings below.

1. Health, a strong child who wouldn't need a lot of extra care.

2. Intelligence, I think every prospective parent should consider the intelligence of the sires.

3. Looks, depending on what you are after a child should resemble or not resemble yourself.

4. Religion, sometimes it is important to consider the religion, especially if it is important to your religion to do so.

5. Nationality, there are many nationalities to choose from, all of which, I believe have pros and cons.  Although this is a delicate subject it shouldn't be ignored.

6. Patriotism,  which could be combined with the above but I feel deserves its own ranking due to its importance to our nation.

Utlimately, the decision is a little more than a rankings of wants. A lot of times it is just the flip of a coin.

Answer 4

I took a chance, just like when you have your own.  He was sick (found out after he was a few months old)  I was GLAD that he was mine...  so ...consideration factors...none.  :)

Answer 5

Everyone has different capabilities. Personally, I think my husband and I would be more inclined to adopt a sibling group of a "minority" race like black simply because they are harder to find homes for and race isn't an issue for us.

We have 3 children already and hope to have more so I don't think I could handle a child that was either severely physically, mentally, or emotionally disabled but I'd be open to the possibility.

Answer 6

My parents didn't select me like some fruit in a grocery store. They choose to be my parents and provide me a loving and safe home. When people adopt especially those that want to raise a child, they don't select, they make a choice to be parents to a child. I believe there is a BIG difference in choosing and selecting. One is done with love and the other isn't.

Answer 7

my family didn't really select me. My bio mother was putting me up for adoption, and gave me to my mom and dad. people ask what would happen if I was sick, but they said they would love me just as much. If you only want a perfectly healthy baby and nothing else then good luck. But if you would turn a baby down because of health issues or any issue for that matter it seems you probably shouldn't be adopting.

Answer 8

I would make my choice on the factors that I know right now not what could happen later.  if my child got sick two minutes after I adopted him would I ask for my money back NO.  In adoption you have to take risks and chances.  in real life you have to do the same.

Answer 9

I'm a foster parent, and will likely stick to this way of having children, especially as the children I currently have are likely to stay permanently anyway.

But if I was going to adopt, I would consider 2 factors;  which child needed a home and a loving parent the most, and whether or not I was able to provide for all their needs.

Answer 10

my parents chose me because I was sick..I had just had open heart surgery and was sick....my dad is a doctor and they had just lost thier first born son to a drunk driver.  they knew it would be hard, but they had the money to ensure I got all the medical needs I wouldn't get otherwise. they also knew that I was at high risk of dying young due to my complications

the choices come from the heart...you'll just know

Answer 11

You can state a preference but I don't think they put a load of babies in front of you to 'select' one LOL