If you were going to go into an Open Marriage before Marriage, How to Word the Vows?

Question

I was just curious, if you were going to get married, and knew that it was going to be an open marriage from the start, before even getting wed, how would be the best way to handle the vows?

Should they be altered as well, and how to word so people at the wedding ceremony would not completely understand, or have it to where it's kind of encryptic for the old school mono types?

Answer 1

Have you ever heard vows before it say do you ___take this man not do you take this man and his girlfriend and all her past lovers also.. Dont use the for the kids sakes line either because your kids will grow up and realize whats going on trust me they know more than what you think, and no its not better to have a mother and daddy together unless mom and dad really want to be together just buy two houses side by side because when you go into this "open" marriage trust me someone is going to want out sooner rather than later.

Answer 2

Personally i wouldn't get married if it were to be an open marriage, but you obviously are going to, so if i were you i wouldn't change the vows because it could cause a whole heap of trouble with people who don't agree such things. I really think it's between you & your partner and nobody else, so why create a scene about it?

Answer 3

I would not word it anyway. There is no need for everyone to know that you are choosing to have an open marriage. This is only for you to know and I would not include it in the ceremony.  

Answer 4

There is no such thing as open marriage. Two people who claim to be married but are sleeping with other people are fooling themselves and cheating each other.  You want to bring kids into an environment like that? God help them.

Answer 5

Gotta agree with the above. BAD IDEA from the start.  You say it's for the kids, and I respect the idea, a whole lot, but I think it will only make it worse for them down the line.  Why not at least try to make it a traditional effort?  For the kids.

Answer 6

For the record....I don't think this is a wise decision. That being said, it is your decision and your life...

I would go with traditional vows. Your bedroom business is private and others need not know.