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If your child is 13 would you allow them to date someone 16 or 17 years old? Isn't that just wrong?

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If your child is 13 would you allow them to date someone 16 or 17 years old? Isn't that just wrong?

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  1. First of all a 13 year old child is too young to date. And no I would not allow my 13 year old child to even talk to someone that much older.


  2. that's wrong. they're way too old tell her to go for someone 12-14.

  3. yes it's wrong because a 13 year old isn't emotionally or physically ready for that type of relationship and they haven't expericed life yet.

  4. NOOOO.  For one thing, 13 years old is way to young to be dating.  And I know she is probably just wanting a "boyfriend" that she will see here and there and talk to on the phone and online but she also just needs to understand that the 16 or 17 year old wants more out of a relationship than just the "taken" status.

  5. Being 13 and having crushed on someone that age, i could see how it would happen. But this is not good, take it from someone who knows! They will pressure your 13 yr old, and they only have one thing on their mind. Don't let it happen!

  6. NO. I wouldn't let them date anyone older than 1 grade ahead of them.

  7. no i wouldnn't they wouldn't be dating but if they were it will be 14 or 15 year old

  8. If they were both over 17 or 18 that would definitely be a different story because I dont think a 4 or 5 year age difference is really significant. Yet, when they are this young, thats illegal for most states, because depending on the state, age of consent is usually above 14, and they are just not mature enough to handle the differences in the relationship. Also one is in high school while the other is in middle school and one will get looked down upon in high school while the middle schooler's reputation will soar. However, something might be wrong with that high school to date younger girls at this particular age. But NO!

  9. it would matter on the guy. if i knew him, he was a good kid, liked spending time with the family, was religious, good grades, and i knew what he was wanting in the relasioship, then yes i might consider it. if i knew he wasnt just using her and they would get too serious too fast, then yes

  10. I definately would NOT let my 13 year old date someone 16 or 17. At that age and 3 or 4 year difference in age is a lot. When you get older, it's not so much. At 13 it's a bad idea.

  11. h**l NO!

    A 13 year old is just a baby, a 16 or 17 year old only has one thing on their mind.  Bad mix.

  12. Definately wrong. I couldn't even date until I was 16 (I'm 19 now but have always had "boyfriends")! I could hang out with my "boyfriend" but there had to be a parent around (not necessarily right there, but within an easy drive it we needed them) which made sense because we couldn't drive any ways.

    Once they hit 16/17 the age thing tends to loosen up a bit but the age-appropriate level is really still there thru college.

  13. 3 TO 4 YEARS NOT BIG OF A DEAL! WHY IS EVERYONE SAYING ITS BAD OR THAT ALL GUYS WANT IS s*x ! NOT ALL GUYS ARE LIKE THat! FIRST OF ALL 13 YEAR OLDS THIS DAYS HAVE IT MUCH ADVANCED THAT IT WAS LIKE 10 YEARS AGO. IT DEPENDS IF THE 13 YEAR OLD HAS A MATURE MIND AND THE GUY THATS 16/17 IS MATURE AND ITS NOT GOING TO PRESSUR THE GURL TO DO THINGS SHE NEVER DID BEFORE. IF THE PARENTS OF THE GURL NOE THE GUY AND NOE HE IS RESPONSIBLE ITS A BIG CHANCE THE GIRLS PARENTS ARE GONNA LET THEM DATE. WHY??? CUZ THEY TRUST THEM AND SPECIALY THE GUY CUZ HES OLDER! AND THEY NOE THERE GONNA MAKE SMART DECISION IN LIFE.    LOVE HAS NO AGE  SO JUST LET THEM BE BUT MAKE SURE THEY ARE COMMUNICATIVE WITH THE PARENTS. NOW IF THE GUY IS A A**HOLE  THEN NO.

  14. *rolls eyes*

    Yes, if she were mature enough to handle it.

    If I trusted her to know how to take care of herself, to be a strong enough person not to be easily pushed around.

    More important that I know her would-be boyfriend and trusted him not to take advantage. If they had been friends first and I knew him well and she were a strong, confident person?

    Sure.

    Why judge by nothing but age with no consideration for personality or individuality?

  15. No way I would kick that guys a** myself!

  16. No,it isn't wrong if you trust your child and know them like you know yourself,and if the guy is trustworthy and has the same maturity as the 13 year old,I would think it would be ok.

    As long as you know the boyfriend/girlfriend.

  17. h**l no. There is no need to date anyone at all at that age. School is the thing that needs to be focused on.

  18. Nooo. That's way too old for them. 16 an 17 year olds are more mature and ready for more things and probablly already doing more then a 13 year old even should.

  19. NEVER  thats way too much of a age difference and they have more experience and know more than a thirteen year old sooo neverrr thats just so wrong in so many ways

  20. well if u think about it in a postive way he's only 3 or 4 years older..and it doesnt sound that wrong...unless the guy in immature....

    but in the negative aspect ur child just became a teenager and this guy is almost legal to drink...in this sort of situation you really have to weigh the pros and cons here.....

  21. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16.  Maybe thats a good guidleine to set :) I turned out okay, my boyfriend is only a month older than me

  22. absolutly not!

  23. Why would a 17 year old be intrested in a 13 year old, anyway?

  24. No!! That is totally not ok. I would not allow it at all!!  16-17yr olds are way more mature. Thats too large of an age gap in my opinion. Besides what normal 16-17yr old would even be interested in a 13yr old??!! What, their going to explain to their friends and family that their in high school dating a middle schooler?? Theres something creepily wrong with that.

  25. I agree, and my outlook on the whole dating thing is DON'T DO IT! Especially for young children if I had children I would tell them not to date until they are married (Means: Dating your husband.)

  26. If I had a 13 yr old child they would date at all.

  27. Um it depends, if he has a right personality knows where he or she is going and not manipulative to the point he/she will pressure your child.

  28. my parents didnt want me to. and they were dead right. i dated him anyway. and he completely stuffed up my life. i have him to thank for why i am so messed up now. but not all guys are like that. i just got a really bad one. but u have to think why wouldn't a 17 year old guy want to date some1 his own age. i think there is something wrong wit him.

  29. at 13 a few years makes a huge difference.  I would have to say no definitely not a good idea.

  30. yes

    16/17 are wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy more advanced than a 13 year old

    and thats NOT a good thing

    8)

  31. No  because since 16 and 17 year old are older...they feel that they can take advantage of a 13 or 14 year old. If you're that age, you are most likely still in middle school. So a child that young is usually really naive. When they think that their boyfriend/girlfriend are being faithful...in reality...that person also has someone else in their school who they may be talking to. And I dont think this only goes for 13 year olds. There are 16 and 17 year olds out there who are dating people in collage.

    The best thing to do is for them to stick with people close to their age...as long as they are under 18.
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