If your child requested to go to hospital?

Question

I'm 15 and I've had severe depression for a long time. Recently, I took a long time off school because of it. I ended up in hospital twice after attempting suicide and it really upset my family. I've been seeing a psychiatrist and I've been put on medication, but everything is still getting worse.

I can't bear to go out because I'm scared people are looking at me and watching me. I hate myself and the way I look so much that I just stay inside instead of going out. I've been having suicidal thoughts again and I only feel safe in hospital. I asked my Mum and she just said you don't want to go to hospital it's not a very nice place.

I'm not looking at it as some kind of holiday or break. I'm scared of what I'll do if I'm not there, and everything feels better when I have nurses to check on me. What would you do if you were my parents?

Answer 1

I know it sounds a bit like i'm Bible Bashing you, but recently i felt like suicide was the only answer but then my friend invited me to a weekend away with his church. I said yes and A talk there Inspired me so much that i just talked to God for about 15 mins. I prayed and talked with God and My life changed. My advice is to pray and talk to God to ask for answers. email me at [e-mail] if you want any more help

Answer 2

As everyone else says if you feel so bad you need to get help.

Have you tried your local crisis team?

If you were to present at your local A&E its unlikely that you would get the help you need.

Contact your GP or if you have a key worker contact them.

I bet your mums terrified to be honest.

I know I would be and I'm a Police Officer with 3 teenage kids.

When I was 15 and 16 I suffered with depression.

I wish I had got help then and not waited 10 years to learn to deal with it.

Its brilliant that you see that you need help.

Being depressed doesn't make you weak or mad, just human.

Answer 3

If you are suicidal, you need to get help.  I would look more deep into the situation to find out why you like the hospital so much though.  

Answer 4

she's right

you're 15!come on.you CAN control what you do.try to look at everything in a positive way.there are not really SO much difficulties at our age.I'm 15 ,too.I know sometimes I get upset of little things.just don't think about them.look at the life you have! don't you regret it?it's all because you have told yourself that you'd better go to a hospital and stay there.do you really consider yourself that weak?If I were you I would try to be more confident.and don't always think of the WORST way of getting where you want.going to the hospital WILL NOT help you and you know that.you can't stay there all your life and lock yourself up.

Answer 5

If everything is still getting worse despite the medication, then you need different medication. Probably the best person to talk to is your current psychiatrist rather than some random doctor at a hospital who has never seen you before. Can you get your parents to make you an urgent appointment? or talk to the psychiatrist on the phone?

You do need to learn to find solutions rather than just run away and hide. Being in hospital so everyone else does it for you isn't the answer, not long term. You need to find a combination of medication and counselling that works for you.

Answer 6

i don't wanna comment on this as i am not a professional, i just wanted to say good luck and i hope you feel better soon x

Answer 7

I think I'd discuss it with you to make sure it's what you really think is best and then get you into hospital.

I'd never forgive myself if you ended up hurting yourself, so if you felt being in hospital was the safest option - I'd support you with that. It's hard to do something like that and admit you need help for suicidal thoughts, so well done to you. Your family are probably just doing what they feel is best, maybe they want to give you more time before they do anything else.

Talk to your Mum about it and let her know that you think it would help you. Sometimes, people in your situation find it hard to recover while everything is still happening around them. Some people need to take a break from it all - in hospital or elsewhere - to get themselves sorted. You'd be under the care of nurses and I would know you were safe and looked after, so I think I would support you there.

Answer 8

If I were your mom I would stop what I was doing, grab you, and get in the car and head to the hospital.  I think your parents don't understand your condition and they see the hospital as a bad place.  Why don't you see if you can get checked in without your parent's permission?  If you feel like you are a danger to yourself then I think they would admit you.  I'm sorry your parents put you in this situation, but I hope everything will work out for you and you can get the help that you need.  Good luck!

Answer 9

If I were you, I would call your psychiatrist and explain to him what you are feeling.  There is nothing wrong with calling when you don't have an appointment.  It sounds to me like your medicine isn't working the way it is supposed to.  Tell your doctor and maybe he will switch it.  Make sure you tell him about the anxiety, because there is medicine and relaxation techniques you can do.

Answer 10

how well do you trust your psychiatrist?  if you're not comfortable with them, then seeing them won't work.  also, in order for proper treatment to occur, you must tell them EVERYTHING you are feeling, because to me, this doesn't sound like depression, it sounds like an anxiety disorder.

and of course you'd feel safe in a hospital.  there's generally a structure to the day there: meal times are pretty much the same each day; bed times and wake times are pretty much the same; like you stated before, there's always someone to check on you; and more often than not, there's intensive therapy going on every day, also in a structured format.

unfortunately, you're getting older and it's not feasible to just hide you away in a hospital.  what you should do is look into reasons why you feel the way you do and learn ways to cope with them.  tell your psycho Dr (that's what i call mine!) that you want to set goals for yourself with your treatment, and have them help you come up with a realistic time line for each of the goals.  i'm not you, so i can't tell you what your goals should be.  i would maybe start with the end result and figure out the steps to take to get there, which is what you and your psychiatrist can figure out together.

i hope i helped, even if just a little!

Answer 11

i suppose your mother feels you are better at home in her care.

If you are feeling worse with medication then it's not doing it's job and your doctor needs to try something else, assuming you gave it long enough to start working.. At 15 you are old enough to contact your doctor yourself so maybe see him/her and explain how you are feeling.

And also get in touch with your psychiatrist..

Answer 12

Tell her you NEED to go, she isn't being mean, she just doesn't understand. Maybe she'd rather look after you herself or pretend you're getting so much better that you don't need hospitalization.

Im sorry you hate the way you look, its a pity the stupid media makes us feel we have to look a certain way. Im sure you look fine as you are. I hope you get the right help and that your future is a bright one.  

Answer 13

Did you explain exactly that to your parents, that you don't know what you'll do. If you have told her word for word what you told us why you want to go and she still doesn't understand. Then for your own safety you should check yourself in/go straight to the hospital yourself OR go to your doctor and tell him you want to be admitted.

Answer 14

I expect your parents feel that you'll get better at home, they want you around familiar things and people you know.  They're probably even a little afraid of facing the fact that you really do need help.

Just have another chat, tell them how you are feeling.  If that doesn't work you can book yourself in for a bit.

Answer 15

if u check in sumwhere with suicidal thoughts then those kinds of places dont let u hadnle anything sharp or even remotly dangerous (eg no knives n fork for eating food) and they never let you be alone (even to go to the bathroom

if anything that cud make you more depressed

Answer 16

Go and see your GP and tell him/her exactly what you've told us.

It's alright people telling you to get a grip but maybe they should walk a mile in your shoes!

Good luck. There is a light at the end, I promise.

Answer 17

I wouldn't take you to a hospital because that's not what they're there for. I'd take you to a psychiatrist.