If your fifteen year old daughter?

Question

Was IM'd online, by someone she didn't know, and asked "Does your Mum where rubber for your Dad?" how would you feel? How would you react to the person responsible?

Is it possible for a child to "make herself seem available" to receive that kind of communication?

Answer 1

I'm getting such a headache!!!

and I just got up!!!

Who's lazy now Shambo I got up at 12!!!

I'm going to cook dinner later and take the kids to the movies.. how do you like that for a full days' work?? *sighs* I'm exhausted just thinking about it LOL

Answer 2

Sounds like a bit of a random joke. If he keeps doing it, report him. If it was a one off, then block him and move on. In most cases you can't IM somebody unless they added you or accepted you as a friend. So she could have made herself available for allowing someone she didn't know to contact her. Just move on. Kids are crazy, just don't let her talk to anybody who is creeping her out, unless she wants to lol.

Answer 3

just talk to her , and tell her people are not what they seem on IM' that she should be more careful :)

Answer 4

I would lmao, and tell my kid "no that's why you're here"

Answer 5

My 18 yr. old daughter and my 15 yr. old daughter are not allowed on the computer unless my wife or I sit with them. Yep, you read that correctly! We also never ever access any type of messenger service, no one in our family has a facebook or myspace account, and we all use only one email address.

Psst.....I don't play games. As a dad, I have a job to do and that is to protect my home and precious children.

Answer 6

That is out of order. Your daughter must stop al contact with that perv.

Answer 7

No matter how "available" that child may or may not make themselves seen, sending a message like that to a child (whose age you are aware of) is sick and highly disturbing.

Answer 8

I would feel extremely angry if some perv asked my daughter such a question I would most certainly report the person and do my very best to see they didn't do it to someone else's daughter.

Answer 9

It sure is possible to have her make herself available.. just as it is for her to pose as someone of any age, of any country ..

.. and offer any service to some unsuspecting freak.

At least the questioner didn't ask "what kind of rubber do you prefer?"

Answer 10

kids know right from wrong which in cases like these people always sympathyze with them when something bad happens they know the risk these days

Answer 11

Ohh wow... thats HORRIBLE start monitoring what your child is doing on the internet!!!!!!!!!

Answer 12

ew! in a situation like that I would speak to my daughter about how she felt about receiving a message like that...I mean would she be mature and responsible enough to look out for this kind of behaviour so she could tell these pervs where to go. Oh and I'd block that freak! If it was possible I'd report them too. They obviously look for a reaction to say something like that, so I wouldn't give them the satisfaction.

Answer 13

I think that you should advise her not to communicate with strangers - especially if they ask innapropriate questionslike that - IM is great for communicating with friends but strangers?

Perhaps have a chat with her, nothing too serious like "Sit down, we need to talk....", and chat to see how she deals with questions like that - ask her how she answered, I think the correct answer should have been "none of you business, now go away" and the person blocked. She is probably sensible and gave a suitable answer.

This particular communication she had, you might want to find out if it was a stranger who appeared once, asked the question and went again or whether she had chatted with them before. If it was a stranger then just ignore them, there are strange people out there who get some sort of thrill from that type of questions.

Oh, another thought, you might have told her things that happen in the bedroom between you and her dad, but that conversation should stay between you and her - no one else in the world should know that really - none of their business either, just make sure she knows that some conversations and knowledge should be kept private!

Answer 14

Why are you looking at what your 15 year old is doing online it is none of your business she has her own life you know..

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Answer 15

i would call the provider

Answer 16

Report them to the police without delay!

I would also publish the details on the Internet for all to see and d**n the consequences!

People like that are sick and should be shown up for the cretins that they are, they only do it because they can get away with it!

Answer 17

Could be do as i hear and see not thinking it wrong even encouraged as in the honey trap

Answer 18

That is precisely the reason why parents need to monitor their kids online.  To keep creeps like that one at bay...and to discourage the kids from writing a check their body can't cash!

Answer 19

I've had some of those spam IMs. Annoying indeed. It's probably someone she knows whos trying to annoy her.

Answer 20

Dumb question. What good would rubbers do after the kid is born?

Answer 21

yeah you have to put restrictions on her account so no one can contact ehr only people she already knows, when i was in high school my mom didnt know anything about computers and i would log onto my AOL account and i would get IM;ed by all kind of weirdos and get indecent pictures i wouldnt ask fot them i would just block the person and they would create another account and keep doing things like that there are a lot of sickos so yeah monitor your kids dont just let them be on there for hours limit them to a hour or 2 and be sure you keep walking in and out, and but up a parental block and make sure you know her passcodes not to be nosey but to be protective. cause coming from experience im 26 now but when i was  a teen yeah creeps find a way so dont blame her

Answer 22

Yes I would be concerned.  For one thing it is an inappropriate question to ask a teenager.  This is why parents have to be vigilante about knowing what their kids are doing online.  She may not be putting herself out there, there are people that go online with the intent to lure girls so it is up to the parent to make sure their child is safe when online.