If your hubby's friend's wife was making lunches for both of (her hubby and him) them would you get jealous?

Question

I mean she expects him to eat frozen dinners everyday for lunch and my meals are always homecooked and fresh. We always have enough and he prefers to eat home cooked meals. It's not my fault she doesn't feed her man. I'm just trying to help out a friend in need. My hubby requested more food for both of them so I'm just being helpful. Thoughts?

Answer 1

Jealousy is ALWAYS about unhealthy self regard/esteem.

She is suffering from unhealthy self regard/esteem and needs to fix her self.

Answer 2

If she's not giving him what he wants to eat for lunch, I don't see the problem.  It's no different to him going and buying something.  His wife could make him home cooked meals but chooses not to!

Answer 3

ha ha! no, not at all. i actually am one of those wives that send lunch for some other husbands that work with mine. i dotn mean a thing by it, their wives just dont send many yummy things...usually a cold sandwich. i send them all hot meals.

Answer 4

Maybe she has "other assets," than cooking. Men are not children, surely they know how to feed themselves. Don't compare yourself to her just to make yourself feel better. If you want to feed her hubby then do so, but stop being pompous about it.

Answer 5

well i think if his wife comes to know bout this, she'll not be angry cos of jealousy but out of ambarrassment and ego. yes she's entirely at fault for giving him frozen food for god known reason and u're there with ur home cooked meal. don't worry. i'm sure she wudn't have the guts to approach you or ur hubby with this complaint. it's her husband who'll be getting a tongue lashing and he'll have tons of explaining to do. u don't worry. as long as ur husband knows bout tis, carry out feeding the poor soul.  

Answer 6

Look like you feel you are so much better than her just because you spend all your time in the kitchen? It seems like you extremely enjoy step on people's toes. How about self esteem issues if you have to cook twice as much just to feel better about yourself. I actually will be pretty happy that you relieved me of buying and spending money on lunches for my husband. He probably conspired with his wife so they can have free meals. You've been owned.

Answer 7

It really sounds like something a mother-in-law would do.

I think what would be most upsetting is your attitude - "It's not my fault she doesn't feed her man" - why should she have to? he should be pleased that she is packing his lunch to start with. It is like you are saying that she is inadequate as a wife.

Answer 8

Well it is a nice gesture,but nobody likes getting their toes stepped on and obviously she thinks you over stepped your bounds I personally would be grateful if someone offered to do that but everyone is different

Answer 9

if she doesn't feel with someone else making her husband's lunches, then u have to respect that. it's not your place to say what is or isn't the right thing for her to do in her marriage.  

Answer 10

Mhh i think its not good,u should tell him to talk to the wife,how long will u do that u should ry en solve it

Answer 11

If your husband is taking extra for his friend how did that get put on you?  There is probably way more going on there than you are aware of.  Do what makes YOU happy.

Answer 12

You have made your husbands' friends' problem your problem. Maybe it's time he grew up and tried to solve his own problem without involving anyone outside his marriage.