If your husband died (or guys if you died) would you ?

Question

rather (or guys--would you rather your now widow), marry/hookup with one of your friends or someone you have never met?

Also, women, if your pick is a friend, do you already have in mind (if they are free or could be free) who you would want?

*I ask this because I believe what most guys are asking when they ask their wife if they would remarry (if they died)--is would you be intimate with another guy.

* I also ask this because I believe many people are already eyeballing someone else as someone they think it would be pleasant to be with.

Answer 1

my hubby asked me if i would remarry if he had died in iraq. told him probably not. if i did probably wouldn't be until the kids were 18. the thought of being with someone else other then my hubby, can't think of it. only want to be with him and only him, if he were to die i would rather be alone.

Answer 2

This is sort of a morbid Q, eh?  When I was happily married, I would have wished for my husband to be happy without me.  Whatever that would mean....I would not have wanted him to spend his life alone, pining away for dead, worm-eaten flesh.  People that are important figures in your life could very well have followed you throughout time and would be there again in the future...so, I would've wholeheartedly wanted him to find love elsewhere..who knows, the next love could be me...in a different form, with a different laugh, but me just the same.

Answer 3

I have actually never thought about it. I think that being in my 20's and newly married it would take me a while to get over my husband. It's hard to even think about being intimate or even being with another guy. I can't even imagine holding hands and walking in a place with a different guy. I'm sure that I will remarry but why think about something that when your husband is here. Obviously if someone is thinking about life after their husbands death, they shouldn't be married to them.

Answer 4

I simply would not remarry or get involved with anyone else - how can I when I have the best?

My husband says the same!

I just can't imagine the intimacy with anyone else...

Answer 5

I think it would be a very long time before I would even be able to consider something like that. And even when my bf asks me that question, my response is generally that I don't want to even bear to think about something like that happening, because I feel like I couldnt live without him. But I do believe it is about love, and if I died, and my bf could be happy with someone else after me and love her, then I would want that for him.  

Answer 6

I would not care who he hooks up with. I won't be here, so why would I care?

If my husband dies, I plan to be alone, unless I find a rich sugar daddy......

Answer 7

If I died, I hope my husband remarries.

If he died, I would probably not remarry because

I have not had a good experience with this one. (he has a toxic personality)  don't want to take any chances getting stuck with another toxic person.

Answer 8

I would never say never.  The ending of a relationship, be it through death or divorce, is a painful ending and has to be mourned.  Once the mourning has passed, life goes on and so must we all.  One would be very blessed to acheive a good relationship with another person after the end of a previous relationship.  I think it just requires being open to all possibilities, and being accepting of what opportunities life presents.

Answer 9

Oh I've got a list in my head already LOL

Answer 10

I'd live with one of my female friends for the rest of my life, be a continual widow, or find a nice girl to hook up with, lol.  I'm not into lesbianism for moral reasons, but I would rather be with a girl than remarry.

Answer 11

We actually had this conversation the other night and I told him that I was going to be just like his grandma.   His grandfather passed away almost 25 years ago and she still wears her wedding band and hasn't even considered looking at another man.  I told him that if he were to die, and we had children, I would have something to stay around for, but if we didn't, I would probably follow him shortly after with a broken heart.  (Not saying suicide, but it is a common occurance that when one person in a couple dies, the other will usually follow within about 6 months to a year and doctors/healthcare professionals have actually termed it "Broken heart syndrome")  I don't care how old I am when he should pass away....when he dies, I am still married and will NEVER remarry.