If your husband joined a singles dating site online, would you consider that to be cheating?

Question

My husband joined "Adult Friend Finder.com" and set up a profile all about himself and then made a secret email he thought I wouldn't find. Would you consider that cheating or trying to cheat? He persists that even though he spent a fortune on the stupid subscription, that he "only wanted to look at the pictures". I am always finding odd texts and numbers on his phone, and he waits until I lay down for my nap (I generally sleep from 8PM to 10PM because I work night shift) and them starts making phone calls that he hangs up on if I happen to get up for something. I have filed for divorce for other reasons, but this has always bothered me. Am I being overly paranoid, or is it possible something has been going on?

Answer 1

Something is going on, sorry.  You are worth more than what he is giving you.  Hold you head up high and do not look back.

Answer 2

im sorry but u must be dumb as h**l if u dont know thats def cheating!! look.. a married man has no d**n f*cking reason in the world to be on dating sites EVEN to look at pictures. why the ***** does he need to look at pics?? HE's MARRIED! he's devoted yo YOU his wife once he makes that commitment, ALL other women are out the window no matter what. He doesnt need a profile, bc that gives ppl the chance to hit him up and well HE"S MARRIED!! he should be focused on yo and well YOU should keep your man "satisfied" ( not just sexually) but in general so he dont do it but it doesnt matter he has no reason to be on that s**+*. And yes if he made a secret email and an account im sure that he uses it to talk to females, and exchange info, keep in touch, maybe meet? idk but yes he has or is cheating for sure. anything secretive that he cant tell u about is cuz its bad and when its bad then wel duh its not good. and omg.. yes!! if he's makin phone  calls and when u get up he hangs up is cuz he's not tryna get caught.omgg im gettin mad. he's cheating on u. simple as that.  

Answer 3

Kick his @ss to the curb girl, then tell him he could shop online all he wants and then tell him instead of shopping around online for women, he'd better shop for an attorney instead, cause he's going to need one by the time you get done with him.

Answer 4

Yes.  You can "look at the pictures" for free.  You only have to pay to communicate.

Answer 5

YES, putting an ad on a singles site is cheating.  

It is very possible and sounds like he has been cheating/hiding things from you.  Divorce sounds like the proper thing to do.  Grr to men sometimes!

Answer 6

Cheating....whether physically, mentally, emotionally.....he is on a singles dating site and looking to entertain himself.  Happened to a friend of mine.  Her husband "talked" to women all the time online via email thru the site.  They divorced after he cheated!

Answer 7

he's not right for you, he's has no reason to be on them websites. U deserve better hun

Answer 8

Something is wrong.

I mean you can look at pictures of people all over the internet without going to AFF.com

From what you have said; something went on.

Answer 9

If he only wanted to look at pictures there are plenty of free sites for that. If he hasn't cheated yet, he will. He's fishing for his next woman. Men don't pay for something for no reason. Confront him about it. Tell him you aren't as stupid as he seems to think you are. You are better off getting that divorce you are working on. Good luck.

Answer 10

That's exactly how my brother in law cheated on his wife.  Adult Friend Finder.  He did hook up with 2 of the girls & he did have s*x with them.  She found out from a text he received while she was asleep one night.  Very sad.  They stayed together but I wouldn't have.  

Answer 11

I think he is cheating.

Answer 12

He's on his way to cheating and you should confront him now.  He's in the wrong.

Answer 13

if it smells like a fish acts like a fish.......

Answer 14

He's cheating already and is looking for new pastures.So, absolutely I would call that cheating.

Answer 15

yes i would, why would he be looking at single girls? oh boy that cant be good watch out!!

Answer 16

he is difinetly cheating. that is so sad, im sorry. you can never trust a man..no matter who it is.,,

Answer 17

yes  

Answer 18

WOW. Get copies of his profile NOW. Take down numbers you find...etc. If he wanted to look at pics, then he would go to p**n sites. He wants to cheat--or IS cheating and I would amend the divorce to include "adultery" and have the proof with you. Get spousal support too!

If you were cheating, would you openly talk on the phone to the person you were sleeping with when he was in the room? You are not paranoid. And I would wonder WHO was sleeping in my bed at night when I went to work. In fact, I would put a motion detecting camera in the bedroom so I could capture his cheating ON TAPE.

Answer 19

he may not be physically cheating yet, but he's well on his way and he is cheating emotionally.  he's deceiving you by hiding his emails, hanging up, paying money for this site.  that's cheating in itself.  and the fact that you went looking for th email account tells us that you knew something was going on.  get rid of the jerk.

Answer 20

Your the husband.  You can't figure out why your wife is freaking out about it so much.  You really want to know if she's being crazy or if she has real reasons to be mad.  So, you come to us to ask what we think your wife should be acting like.  You my friend, are genius!  Yes, you are being a horrible husband.  Tell your wife she's to good for you.  I bet she's all by herself right now, and your just typing away in cyberspace.  Your a loser.  Thanks for making us great men look like chumps.

Answer 21

Yes, because he's not cheating now, but he will if it continues. He's looking for other people to be with. AND, it says he is single. You're not being over paranoid, just confront him.

Answer 22

h**l yes he's cheating funk that! you can do better.

Answer 23

some **** is definitely going down.

when he hangs up and leaves, call the same number he just hung up on and see who it is. or something. but something it definitely wrong

Answer 24

Wow.

It is really sad that some people actually are confused if that is cheating.

Honey, just because he has not put his willy into some s***k (that you know of) does not mean his heart was not ready to.  

Please, get a spine and move on.  Why would it bother you?  He will most likely end up with an STD because that particular site is solely for s*x.

He does not want to be married to you.  Period.  That is what is going on.  

Answer 25

Yes, divorce him.

Answer 26

he is looking to cheat on you. he Will find somebody to have s*x with soon and it will happen. Be careful of diseases as these on line tramps will do anything. My friend had this same situation, he was s******g around on line and got another woman pregnant behind her back. Please, it will hurt, but he is really doing something wrong here. You join and tell him and see if he likes it, he wont

Answer 27

Since you've already filed for divorce, why are you wondering?  Especially in light of the fact that he's not opening up to you.

You'll drive yourself into a brick wall worrying about something you basically have no control over.  If it's done, let it rest ~ for your own sanity!

Answer 28

That is an obvious yes. Adult friend finder.com is all about meeting people to **** period. He could be just cybering or having phone s*x but I'd still consider that cheating. I think you should give him a little of his own medicine. Cheat on him and stop giving him s*x. LOL Or you could make your own adultfinder.com account and then bump into him pretending that you don't know who he is. Then say you want to meet up with him and when you do he'll see you. That'd be hella funny.

Answer 29

Do you need a boulder to fall on your head girl? Are you that blind? You just gave a whole list, even 1 would be enough for me, you only need 1 avenue to cheat, then you ask "Is it possible something has been going on?" Yeah, you've been asleep.

Answer 30

If you've already filed for divorce then just move on. Don't wast your energy on him anymore. He doesn't sound like he is worth it.

I would consider it very dishonest and trying to cheat. They even ask you on the site that it is ILLEGAL to misrepresent yourself on the site.