If your married, when do men know they are ready to start a family?

Question

Lets say you have a job paying job to support you and your wife, but she makes the decision to work also. beside money what would be another thing to not to conceive? after marriage how long is a good amount? 2yrs? 3yrs? 4yrs? etc.....

Answer 1

The question "Am I ready to be a Daddy" is a very personal one, and one for which only guidance can be offered. Final decision stops with the Potential Dad to be.

For me it took six months before I knew I was ready, and I think we had been married for about 18 months.

How do you know, I don't think you ever do, you just become ready to take the plunge and be there no matter what.  

Answer 2

Usually a steady job / career will insure the kids will have food / shelter.  Younger men usually have a more base reason.

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Answer 3

me and my husband decided on the amount of children we were going to have and their names after we had been going out a month. I had our first after we had been togther 5 years though as we were young and having fun.

Depends how much your husband wants kids we talked about what are children were going to be like and things about them all the time all the way through that 5 years. We hav always both wanted children though and my husband is a very hands on dad.

Answer 4

It's different for every man. Maybe you should try to save some money in case it happens soon.

Answer 5

When you become financially stable. You should have a savings account with enough funds in it to pay your bills for a year.

This will keep the stress level at a minimum.

Money stress is the number one reason for fighting in a relationship.

Answer 6

Wow, that really depends on the man, the woman and their marriage, you know?  You can't just say, "2 years" and be done with it!  If you dated for a long time before you were married, you might be more likely to want to start a family sooner that a couple that married quickly, and now want to spend time building their relationship.  

For us, we dated for five years, and were married for six years before we were ready for children.  I had a chance to work at a challenging job and put money aside so that I could stay home with the children.  We had a chance to do a lot of traveling on our own, make some investments, drive the sporty little sports car with no room for the baby seat . . . in short, we got all that out of our system, and then felt ready to take on the challenge of parenthood.  But that fit us -- other couples had four kids by the time we got around to having our first!  

Answer 7

when they know that the woman is there life partner and to start a new life with them would be the greatest, men sometimes act like they dont wanna have children as they are scared but as time passes on the male would mature and look forward to the idea.

Answer 8

No one is ever ready to start a family. You can plan all you want, but like I said, no one is ever ready. My wife and I gave birth to our first child a week after our 1st year Anniversary.

Answer 9

My wife and I were married for 3 years before she became pregnant.  I can tell you that both of us discussed the possibility of children prior to getting married.  We decided that we were as ready as we were going to be (incidentally, the folks here who said "you're never ready" are dead on) and we began trying.  I guess my question back to you would be, did you discuss this prior to getting married?  What were the answers then?  Did something change?

Answer 10

I think when you BOTH agree to conceive! Talk about it and decide.. It sounds to me like your looking for a cop-out, or a reason to suggest to your wife why you shouldn't have kids yet. That's not healthy for a marriage. Just be honest, and tell her your not ready. Whats meant to be, will be.

but.. if your financiallyy secure.. DO IT! I loooooove babies!!!!I'mm excited for you! Being a mom or dad is the BEST gift in the world!!!!!!!Considerr all options before you stop her biological clock from ticking!!!!!!! Good Luck!

Answer 11

just the feeling of not being ready sometimes you feel like you are not ready but when it happens most are so happy they want more children are really a joy to have but scary at first

Answer 12

Usually, it is when their wives tell them it's time... I jest.

There is no magic number.  If you BOTH feel economically and emotionally ready, then get pregnant.  It will usually feel right right to both of you, it really is more of a mind set AND communication than anything else.  Surprises and miscommunication are usually the problems.

Just make sure you both have taken enough time to enjoy each other in your marriage and then you can bring your child into a loving and supportive relationship.  Never rush.

Answer 13

This question is very incoherent im not sure what your trying to say

Answer 14

Nobody can tell you or your husband when he's ready.

You have to be emotionally ready

spiritually

physically

EVERYTHING

I thought at one point i wanted a baby but I then realized, despite the fact that my fiance has a good paying job, I can barely keep up with the dishes.

The way I look at it is, If you want a kid, you better forget about working for the next couple of years. Once you have a kid you have to dedicate your life to it until it's old enough to fend for itself  

Answer 15

Usually when their wives sit them down and say:  "Guess what?  I'm pregnant."

Answer 16

Usually it is us wives who wants to start a family first and she broaches the subject with her hubby.  I think we women have the urge first.  Maybe instinct, survival of the species, eggs ticking...

I had to convince my hubby.  He was worried about not being able to provide.  Also age.  I was 28 when we married.  I did not want to wait too long.  And I did have difficulty conceiving baby no. 2.

I felt a need to do more in my life.  Things felt a little empty, like life was not complete yet.  And we waited about 1 1/2 years before trying.

I was working, with a good job - a school psychologist.  Don't let the whole "what do I do about work" thing stop you.  Every woman will have to deal with that.

So in short....Age, yes, a paying job but you don't have to have SUV and college fund, a joint agreement to try, and a solid relationship between spouses.  Don't worry about how long you've been married.

But children get born all the time under less optimal circumstances.

Answer 17

that all depends on the maturity of your husband and the stability of your marriage. men tend to want to wait until they think they are financially ready to have a baby, but honey, that is never going to happen. you two are just going to have to decide that it is time together. don't try to trick him into anything though, that is the worst thing that we women can do. it causes the men to think that they can't trust us and you don't want that. its always best to be open and honest with your feeling and reasons for having a baby. good luck!

Answer 18

Some men are never ready to start a family because many men do not want to have kids.  This is something you should have discussed prior to marriage.  How do you know if your husband even wants a baby.  I have been married almost 9yrs and we are not planning on having kids

my wife just finished nursing certification so we will enjoy spoiling ourselves for many years to come.  

I think it best to be secure in the relationship before venturing into parenthood if that is what you want.  Just having finances in check doesn't make it simple.  Remember having a baby is for the rest of your life it is not like you can divorce a child making sure you both truly want a baby and not just one of you is the most important aspect.

Basically I'm saying do not rush into the most  life changing choice you can make in your life.

God Bless and Best Wishes.

I CANNOT EXPRESS THE IMPORTANCE OF YOU BOTH WANTING

A BABY IT CANNOT JUST BE YOU THAT WANT'S IT.

Answer 19

Stop worrying about petty details.

The fact is you are NEVER ready to start a family.

Just let nature take it's course.

Nature will provide you with all the knowledge and experience.