If your mother-in-law told you that her daughter is the best daughter ?

Question

in-law a mother could have, and you are her only daughter-in-law what would you say to her. Especially when you have bent over backwards to make her and her son happy and they just don't appreciate anything you do.

Answer 1

I would say she is lucky to have such a fine relationship with her daughter.

It is ridiculous to even try to compete with a woman's daughter as "best relationship". A daughter in law is rarely number one in a mother in laws eyes.

Answer 2

tell me about it

Answer 3

As long as I knew I had always been good to her and her family, I would not worry about it.  It's not a contest, and she probably was not even aware that she upset you.  Who cares??

Answer 4

I would say, yeah she is awesome.

Answer 5

Just smile...haha it'll get to her!

Answer 6

huh

Answer 7

I am sorry to tell you but you are only a daughter in law.  Your mother in law may love you but you will never be her blood child and she will never love you as such. There is a huge difference and you can't expect nothing more.  If you and your husband were to divorce she would not take your side dear thats not her job.  She pushed out her son after 9mo of pregnancy not you.  Blood is thicker than water and you will always be the water no matter how hard you try

Answer 8

You can't compete with the daughter, no matter how much more you have done for your mother in law, that is her flesh and blood and she should love her daughter the most. I would just be like "Good for you, that is wonderful you and your daughter are so close", and leave it as that. There is really no competion when it comes to the love of a woman and her child, just like you children will be most important to you, despite who they marry. So respect her feelings for her daughter if you can and try not to take such a comment like that so personal.

And as for bending backwards for her, perhaps her loving daughter can do that since her daughter is the best, iust a thought : )

Answer 9

become an hero.

Answer 10

I agree it is hurtful but put yourself in her place.  Do you have a daughter of your own.  Wouldn't you choose your daughter over your daughter in law which is not your true daughter.   I think she is rude to have said such a thing and she certainly should not have said that in front of you.  I don't think she meant to hurt you since you have done so much to make her and her son happy.  Just know this is a common thing about family.  They will always choose their own over the in laws.  Please don't be hurt.  I don't want to hurt your feelings any more than they already have been.  It is just my opinion.  I do not have experience with the in laws since I don't have any myself.  

Answer 11

I'm confused.  So is she telling you that you are the best daughter in law and you feel you don't deserve it, or is someone else better and you still don't deserve it?

Answer 12

Then you tell them that you get an appreciation here! And you deserve to hear it from them! They need to know this so tell them about it!

Answer 13

Some people are just straight to faced. I say just let her say what she has to say and go along with it. Now if your husband doesn't appreciate what you do then maybe you should let him know how you feel. Talking is the best way of communicating with people, if you don't then you never get anywhere

Answer 14

I am sorry you are so upset.  I would think every parent thinks there kids are the best.  I would not have taken it so personal.  An in law is an in law they do not replace your parents.  I am sure your hubby appreciates all you do as in the end it's just you and him not you and your mother in law.  

Maybe, time to take a step back.  There is an old saying no good deed goes unpunished.  If you do something do it with out looking for gratitude.  

Answer 15

Sometimes it takes a lifetime to become friends with your mother-in-law.  I had to wait until I was 40 and my mother-in-law was almost 80 before we could love and respect each other.  Hang in there honey.

About your husband, her son.  That's a whole other story.  If he is not happy with you then you need to have a heart to heart talk with him.  Some men don't appreciate their wives.  I wouldn't spend my life married to a man who didn't treat me with love and respect.  Don't allow yourself to be treated badly by your husband.  Stand up for yourself.  Open honest communication is the secret to a solid marriage.

Answer 16

If she said you were the best daughter in law she could have... sounds like a compliment?  Maybe I read this wrong...