If your parents died when you were a child, would you be eager to be adopted and taken to China?

Question

...taken to China with your new, adoptive family.

Answer 1

HECK NO.

I'd be a little too freaked out to let some chinese people take me to a country I've never been to before.  

Count me out.

Answer 2

Opposed to what...remaining in an institution where my basic needs are hopefully met, but often not?  Where I would age out and be expected to live life without the support of a network of family?  

Keep in mind that the system in China is nothing like it is in the USA.  Atleast here, we try to put children in foster homes rather than keeping them in an orphanage.  Atleast here, there are support services available to them (even after they age out of the system).

Do you know that Chinese residents have "first dibs" on the children in orphanages there?  Did you know that while adoption is on the rise there, there are THOUSANDS of orphanages in China, full of children that need a family?  

I wish that people would educate themselves about a subject before making ignorant, inflammatory statements about a situation.  

But, back to your question-yes, I would rather live with a loving family than be a number in an institution.  They are children, not prisoners!

Answer 3

I see where you're going with this...reality, being taken somewhere against your will & what you know is scary.

However, if you're comparing China to other countries like the USA...I have to say I'm glad to be here but I don't think I would have wanted to be taken to China.

Answer 4

absolutely not.

Answer 5

I don’t know I’ve always thought it would be nice to live abroad in a different country for a while.  If my parents had died when I was a kid I would have gone to live with my elder brother. That said if I had no family I would just want to be adopted into a family than remain an Orphan or with out a family bouncing from FH to FH.  If my new family was from a different country an we went there ok. China would not be my first pick however.

Answer 6

I've always wanted to experience a different culture.  I'd ofcourse rather someone in my "natural" family adopt me, but they'd be my family forever anyway...  so I just may want someone from another country adopt me and let me experience a whole other world, why not!?!

Answer 7

I agree that I wouldn't want to be adopted to China.

However, if there were people in China willing and able to adopt all the children in the orphanages, than this wouldn't be an issue.  Having a home, even in another country, would be preferable to aging out of the orphanage.

This is just my theorizing, but right now in China there is a shortage of girls, and parents are recognizing that.  So...they may be interested in adopting girls NOW in order to secure a wife for their sons in the future (basically raising the adopted daughter to be a wife for their son).  I know this sounds crazy, but it has happened in the past in China, so I don't think it won't happen again.  There is a lot of people trafficking in China, and I think as the crisis of the shortage of women/girls gets worse, I think we will see more of this.

Do I think that it is wrong that people in other countries adopt from China? I don't know.  I think that there is a lot going on there right now, and I don't know if I would want to get involved.  There IS a distinct preference for boys in their culture, which is resulting in a lot of girls being made available for adoption.  However, if the one child policy were expunged, I think this wouldn't be a problem.  There has always been a preference for boys in the Chinese culture, which does not give girls/women much rights.  I do not think this wrong (I cannot say that one whole culture is wrong) but I do think that until the preference for boys goes away, along with getting rid of the one child policy (which, let us be honest, if China does away with the one child policy it will have world wide ramifications since it is such a populated country...though I still think it needs to be done away with) there is going to be a need for international adoption in China.  I do not think it is better to adopt them internationally, I would prefer that the children were adopted in their country of origin.  I do think that adopting the children domestically, in this case, can actually be kind of a problem, only because I do not think that girls need to be "bred" to be their brothers wives.  However, it is a different culture than ours, so I do not know what the answer really is.

Human trafficking is wrong, obviously, and we need to find a way to help put a stop to this.  Girls/women should be looked at with a little more respect, but I do not think that girls/women are treated with equal respect in our culture, so to look at us as a model isn't fair either.

Wow.  I am still just forming these opinions, so don't tear me to shreds, but I do feel strongly about this, I just need more time to make them more sound.  

I do not think it is any better for the girls in China's orphanages to be adopted domestically (in China), only because I am afraid that they are being used in ways we cannot really understand because we do not have a shortage of women in our culture.

Answer 8

Kristy: If you were brought to China as an infant, you wouldn't have any conscious memories of your previous culture to "experience" it with.

It wouldn't be a new experience. It'd be the *only* experience you have.

There's a difference. :)

Answer 9

Well, if my parents died and/or  I had no family able and willing to raise me and I faced the prospect of living in an orphanage with little to no education, little to no healthcare, little to no individual attention and support, with my future consisting of being chucked out on the street once I turn 15 or 16 with no education, no means to support myself in a country where some of the worst wartime atrocities are fairly commonplace, then sign me up.  

I would expect my Chinese family to learn about my culture and help me stay connected with it.

Answer 10

only if i could live with parents who purport to be loving and emotionally stable, only to make me work in the sweat-shops making cheap walmart clothing for the US...

i need to give back to my country of origin.

Answer 11

Of course not....it would be very difficult....but I would adjust, albeit with some emotional pain.  I would still enjoy life as a stranger in a strange land.  

Answer 12

No way