If your teenage daughter were to sleep in the backyard cabin at night how would you feel as a parent?

Question

If your teenage daughter were to sleep in your backyard garden shed/treehouse would you come by and make sure the door was closed and lights were out?

A teenage girl I know wants to sleep in her parents garden shed/garage on some weekends? Her mother wants to make sure the door is closed and lights are out for her safety. The garage/garden shed is a seperate building from the house. The girl enjoys this place as indendance. Even though her parents worry about her for her safety she doesn't like the idea that her mother comes by at night to close the door to the outside and turn out the lights. Even though her mother locks the building door the girl can still open and unlock the door.

This girl is only 15 years old. Should she still continue to enjoy this garage/garden shed or give up?

The girls garden shed door only opens to the outside. In order for her to get to the main house she has to open the door and walk outside through the backyard.

This girl enjoys this little place

Answer 1

seems to me that the mother has conditions that the girl needs to follow in order to sleep out there, if she doesn't like the conditions she should just sleep in her own room.   I would be more worried about the girl sneaking out and having people sneak in.  The fact that she doesn't want her mother checking on her seems sneaky to me.

Answer 2

if she's 15 give her space. She's old enough to lock the door and turn off the lights.

Answer 3

It is obvious by the length of the question that Mom has doubts.Those doubts will continue.If a door leading inside could be made,and the outer door locked,this would overcome the problem.Teenagers need their independance,but we need to keepo them safe.

Answer 4

Teach her to handle responsibilty. Let her sleep out there. Paint it whatever color is the least repugnant to those who use the shed otherwise. In the end the parent is responsible for the girl, only they will know if she is ready to handle the responsibility.

Answer 5

It's in her backyard and it locks. I say go for it. As far as her parents are concerned, they have a right to be curious as to their daughter's safety of course, but she almost 16 and it's time to losen up the reigns. Let her have it until she abuses it and then tighten up again until she learns responsibility. It sounds safe enough. They could also get her a phone so that she can check in instead of being checkled on.

Answer 6

This sounds like a puzzle / brain teaser.

As for the question, I don't think anybody really gives a sh.it about this demented girl and her gypsy hobbit ways.

Sorry..

Answer 7

have no idea

Answer 8

If you paint the walls and ceiling white they will reflect any light that get in from the shutters and she will be able to see to get around, barely.

15 is just the age when a girl needs a little privacy, and a little adventure.  it is also the time when hormones can overrule safety and wise judgment.

She is well served to have a mother that cares enough to get up and go out and check on her daughter and make sure she is safe.

The girl has not enough experience in life to realize that if something happens to her that she cannot be replaced.,

Answer 9

Yeah I'd let her sleep in the cabin if it was secure enough.  It all depends on where the "girl" lives.  If she's in a small town or country area then yes, I would probably let her sleep out there. But if this is in a metropolitan area or even a suburb then I probably wouldn't.  It could be dangerous.  I agree with the parents too about keeping the door locked.

Answer 10

Sure she could sleep out there at night, after I placed a few items around the shed to insure her safety at night. Like a few 'Claymore mines, some Punji pits and such' and I'd rig up some kind of nite-lite for her so when the windows are closed, it wouldn't be so dark but then I would also have some IR style cameras set up to set off some kind of alarm inside the main house that would light up the back yard like a prison yard during a attempted escape.

Letting her fix it up the way she wants is good, gives her something to look forward too, not to mention lets her express herself and her own style, it is a good summer project to do and would help keep them busy. If it's not being used for anything else, why not? Since she is only 15, her mom has every right to come out and check on her, safe area or not, plenty of cases of kidnap happen in so-called safe areas in small towns, she will just have to live with it, at lease they let her sleep out there. Weirdo's are not just a 'big city' problem, they pop up in werid ways and places all over the country. I'd put one of those chemical potties so she wouldn't have to go outside or to the main house if that need arose during the night.

Answer 11

This sounds alot like how I was lol........... Growing up I used to always camp out in the backyard in a tent , loved it, and when we had once moved into a place that had a shed in the backyard, I wanted it so badly for myself lol, instantly i started thinking of how cool it would be to fix it up into a place for myself, and if i could just pretend it was like my own mini house/cabin and i could sleep in it.....so i understand how the girl must feel......

let her enjoy it, kids of any age sometimes like to have a "Space" of their own, little kids like to claim space under the dining room table, or the lucky ones get their own playhouse in the backyard, then a bit older and they get to clubhouses and treehouses, while older kids move onto garages and basements....... its all the same thing, kids take whatever is available to them, she sees the shed, and it has the same appeal as a clubhouse or treehouse would to a younger kid,

as far as locking the door or turning off the light, i probably wouldnt have liked that myself either , if she can lock it from the inside , let her do it......... as far as the lights, let her do that herself, she could carry a flashlight........ however if safety is what you are concerned about, it might be best to leave the lights on through the night......

as far as safety, there are many kids who sleep out in tents in their backyards, and you don't see too many stories on the news of tragedies happening in that area, and a shed is defintely more safe than a tent, my only concern would be whether there was enough air circulation going through, if there might be any bugs etc.........

Answer 12

Just tell your Mom that it makes you feel like your in a mountain cabin retreat. If you have a pet dog maybe he/she can stay out there with you. Camped all my life (love the outdoors) and know where you're coming from.

Good Luck,  ;-)