Im 13 & My Dad Hits Me Everyday & I Hate him So MUCH!?

Question

I live with my family which is: me, my mom, my dad & little sister- Kim

My dad has Been hitting me ever since my sister was born, shes now 6 and im 13- 7 years difference.

I hate my dad alot and he hates me, he only cares for my sister.

Hes been hitting me more as i grow older! The reason he only cares for my sister becase, every friday he buys things for himself,my sister and my mom but NEVER me the only time i remeber was 4 weeks ago and he brought me a rubber.

He sometimes buys things for himself and my mom but EVERY friday he buys things for my little sister like: Books,CD,Art Stuff,School Stuff,Games.

Things like that, and she always rub it in my face,

Kim says: HAHA LOOK WHAT I HAVE!

I Say: Okay Good For You I Dont Care and then she goes to my dad and tells off me

saying:Taylas being nasty to me!!

My dad says to my sister: 'Dont listen to that stupid girl shes just jelous.

Im like :O

My sister comes up to me and say HA I TOLD YOU OFF & kicks me

I go to my dad n says that she kicked me for no reason and my dad goes i dont care.

Anyway, me and my sister had a massive argument today it all started because i have a poster on my door that i made when i was about 8 and its about some baby club

My sister comes randomly in my room saying 'LET ME GO IN YOUR CLUB OR ELSE'

I said 'I have no club the poster is for when i was 8 OKAY'

And it started from there and my sister kept telling me off and off

My dad said to my sister was 'Ignore her and dont look at her face her UGLY face'

(My mom was at work and he was working at home)

And then my sister kept opening and closing my door

My dad came out off his room and said to me 'YOU DO THAT ONE MORE TIME I'LL SMACK YOU'

I said it wernt even me it was Kim!!(my sister)

Dad goes' DONT EVEN LIE TO ME'

Anyway, i was taking a monitor out of my room it was REALLY hevey Because my dad wouldnt touch or go in

My 'trampy ditch' (thats wat he calls my room)

Kim wouldnt move out of the way so i go MOVE KIM and

Kim starts sayng 'OMM YOU SAID A NASTY WORD'

(my dad doesnt aprove the words: lier,stupid,shutup,nasty,go away,get out,move,out of my way,silly,and loads more even tough he ALWAYS says it! And My sister)

I always say it when im angry though.

I put the monitor ot of my room in a corner so its not in anyones way My dad comes out of his room randomly & gets his slipper and starts slapping me

My sister was standing there laughing and saying AGAIN AGAIN AGAIN!!

And i was saying 'WHAT ARE YOU DOING I WASNT EVEN DOING ANYTHING IT WAS STUPID KIM'

And then he kicked me beause i called Kim 'stupid'

When SHE ALWAYS Calls Me Stupid

Oh And My Dad Said If I Get Level 4 or 5 In My SATS Your OUT Of The House,, I Know He Will Do It,, But HOW On Earth Can I Revise With NO Books, I Told My Dad And He Slapped Me For Being Cheeky!!!!

ALSO im not allowed to call my dad 'dad' and im not allowed to call my mom 'mom'. Thats Pathetic! Im 14 This Year aswell.

This happens EVERYDAY to me:( It dont leave any marks but is it Abuse??

I Havnt Put The Real Names Because I Dont Want Anyone nowing Our Names If You Understand:)

Sorry If Its Long:(

Answer 1

Thats abuse! you need to tell someone.

Call a child protection service or the police.Get out asap.

does your mom know!

I hate fathers like that

It doesn't matter if he doesn't leave a mark he still shouldn't touch you like that.You need to get help before its too late.too many kids have lost their life to child abuse. No kids don't deserv to get smacked.

Answer 2

Call CPS.

Answer 3

yes its abuse and maybe you should just run away and live with a

friend.

Answer 4

Don´t be as stupid as I have been when I was a teenager like you.

I have gone trough h**l during my childhood and youth, always being afraid of my father who mistreated my mother and my youngest brother and me physically and psychologically.

I guess that I thought that it was normal and happened in every family, because my father had 2 faces… one face he put on in society where everybody thought that he was a good and correct person and a maniac and paranoid one at home.

I just don´t want to remember all these painful moments I had to stand just because my father had one of his “ideas”.

Of course now I know that such a situation is NOT normal at all and that´s why my mother always told me to keep my mouth shut. She said that if I said something about the things that happened in privacy at home, people would not believe me and most probably look down on me and that I would loose all my friends and that I had to leave school… now I know that she blackmailed me, because otherwise the children and youth protection would have helped me and she would have lost her status as a respected housewife and neighbor.

This was my family life…

A father who mistreated me for any reason that might occur… most of the times it was because he had the idea that this and this had happened and that I have done this and that (bad things of course) and that´s why he started to hit me. But my father was not normal at all, he threw me on the floor, hit me till he once even broke my nose. He never stopped before he saw blood.

And I would say that the physical abuse was not even the worst. I had to stand the psychological abuse of a man who claimed to want the best for me and called me names and said that I was worth nothing (just like my mother) and that I never will achieve anything in live (just like my mother) and he tortured me that way until I confessed things I have never done (not even thought about doing them in my life). I confessed and finally told him the lies he wanted to listen to make him stop hitting and insulting me.

He even disturbed me at night when he wanted me to confess ¿what?. Switched the light on, started to scream on me and hit me in the bed… until now I sometimes have nightmares.

I must confess that I don´t love my father, I don´t know if I still hate him, but I can say that I feel such a great indifference about him, I do not really care if he is well or not.

I try to, but I do not have positive feelings for him. All I feel is disgust when I think about him nowadays.

I can´t even love my mother for being a selfish and stupid person who cared more about appearance than her own dignity and the wellbeing.

This year I spat all these things I felt in the face of my parents and all they do is trying to blackmail me.

My mother said she had to stand everything just because of our (her childrens) fault.

She stayed to give us a normal home.

How I have wished that somebody had released me from that prison, so I could have had a “normal” life…

Don´t be as stupid as me, tell the child protection what is going on in your home.

I am sure that your nightmare will end very soon and don´t think that you are all alone… unfortunately there are so many people who have gone through this as well.

Please save yourself from this h**l.

Answer 5

tell ur dad if u dont quit u'll file a court order, then he'll get sent to prison for abuse. If u don't want him to go to jail then justwell idk.

Answer 6

OHmygosh. I'm so sorry. Have you tried to talk to him? If not.... unfortunately, you are being held in an abusive family. Call 911.

Answer 7

God bless you........ill pray for you=]

Answer 8

Now, this is why I got taken into care by the authorities, and it's why you should too, just up and leave, report him.

Answer 9

911

Answer 10

i think its abuse

Answer 11

if i were u i will call the police,,because this is something serious and he has been hitting u for years,,i really want to help u because i really feel sorry for you. i think u should call the police right now,,because this is very very very serious,,best of luck

Answer 12

Speak to your school counselor or another trusted adult. Thats abuse...Call the police

Answer 13

you should let someone know about this (a teacher in school and adult you may be close to or someone). It is definately abuse. if not now, it could affect you psychologically later

Answer 14

Don't tell us talk to a school council or teacher another adult u feel comfortable with. Do it trust me u need help!

Answer 15

if you live in the UK you can call 0800 1111 if not you can go to your local social services/police station  and report him there and they should be able to give you the help you need.

Answer 16

honey that's abuse, and it's violent abuse you need to phone the police and make a statement against him.

I know he's your father , but if what your saying is true then you need help before it gets even more out of hand. And he ends up breaking a bone, or worse killing you.

Phone the police right now, don't let him get away with that,

If you cant do that, then talk to a teacher, other family members, or phone child line.

But whatever you do what he's doing is against the law and cruel.

Answer 17

Yeah thats abuse! you don't need that if there's someone in your family like a grandmother or something I'd suggest you live with her because your current situation is BS. thats horrible!!! I hope you find a place with a better living environment  

Answer 18

Dont stand for it anymore, if you stand up to him , he'll probaly hit you so... get help..its out there. If you can, get evidence i.e record it on your phone.

Answer 19

This is illegal ,  I would be going to the authorities and reporting this ,  you'd have to have evidence or proof , but yea he can get into a lot of trouble . This is called Child abuse.

Answer 20

ya! thats abuse. it doesnt matter if its leaving marks or not. he is hitting you. not cool

Answer 21

Yes. Do yourself a favour, dial 911 and ask for police to come next time he hits you.

Answer 22

Yes, it's abuse :/ There are helplines for this sort of thing, one of which is Childline: 0800 1111

Call and they will help you :)

Answer 23

video tape it if you have a video camera. Don't be shy.If you love them then do the right thing call the police.

Answer 24

sounds like you need to talk to your mother.    AND you and your father need some kind of psychiatric therapy, maybe your whole family.    I'd call some child advocate group cause what he does isn't right.     Are you his biological child?   If your folks aren't going to help you, then you are old enough to get help on your own.... call someone, tell the police, tell anybody, tell your school... abuse is never OK.

Answer 25

call the police immediately!

or better try to install a camera so you have proof of what's happening in your home, since it happens everyday.

Answer 26

hey, i just got my sats results and i got really good levels,well 7's and 6's and that without studying,its not hard to pass but i did have some help from books etc

i CANT just NOT tell anyone bcoz u dont want to worry ur mum,thats not fair !! ur getting hurt and treated with mis consumption(unfairly)

call child line also if u want too,they can actually tell u what the police can do in this sort of situation

i dont know what else to say

email me if u want anything else,maybe just to chat :)

my email - [e-mail]

xoxo

Answer 27

You ought to go to your school counselor with this story.

Answer 28

Hi!

omg get a recorder a hand held one and put it is your pocket or sleeve and then record what your dad says then show it to your mom

Answer 29

i dont think this is real

Answer 30

TALK TO  ANOTHER FAMILY MEMBER OR PUT A HIDDEN CAMERA IN UR ROOM AND SHOW IT TO UR MOM OR SOMETHING LOLZ GOODLUCK

Answer 31

WHOAH. Call the police!