Im 13 and cant hang out with guys...AT ALL.?

Question

ok, so im not allowed to have a boyfriend, thats all fine and good. about 4 months ago, i got in huge trouble for having one, and a few years ago they new i had a boyfriend, but he wanted to kiss me and i got in huge trouble. (i was 11) so after about 6 months of staying out of trouble, and so far good grades and stuff, shouldnt i be able to hang out with friends that are guys?

ive never been able to.

like i have this one incredibly good guy friend, and id love to like just go to a movie or something, but im not allowed to.

my younger sister, who is this perfect little angel, lol, can even back me up.

hes really nice to her, and hes just a nice guy in general.

im 13, shouldnt i be able to hang out with him?

weve been friends the whole school year.

and i wouldnt like go to his house, we just might do mall or movies or something.

so yeah, whats your opinion, and if you think i should be able to, what can i do to convince my parents to let me?

Answer 1

Big surprise. You're 13. You're not supposed to.

When you're 18 this might be a problem, but not when you're 13. You're just a kid.

Answer 2

uhm obviously you should be able to hang out with your guyfriend

like wtf.

i would die if i couldnt see my guyfriends.. seeing as i only have 2 freinds that are girls.

if they say no tell them your going to a friends house and hang out with him.

i dont see why it even matters if you go to his house or not

like ive had sleepovers at my gyfriends houses.

your parents are really over protective.

lmfao wow they can have fun expectign yuo to wait till your 16 to date.

and about that.. just date anyways and dont tell them the guys your bf. simpleee.

:D

Answer 3

sometimes i could not believe questions like this are true or true to life... 13 years old and worried about adult life??? UNBELIEVABLE PROBLEM

Answer 4

tell your parents to man up and give you the s*x talk if thats what their worried about.

tell them to tell you everything so they won't worry.

dening you the right to hang out with who every you want is not go enough they should give probably caause and explain why.

if they want to be good parent then they have nothing else to do but what i just wrote.

when saying this to them look them in the eyes be calm don't raise your voice and stand your ground. even when they start yeling saty were you all in voice volume too.

Answer 5

well ask your parents if you could go to movies with him and other people. or try asking to go to a park or go meet him at a dance as friends. i no this is a little of a lecture but try sittiong your parents down and tell them i understand i am not allowed to date but i think i should be trusted with hanging out with him and i won't hangout with him alone i will be with other people.

Answer 6

maybe its for your own good. just listen to your parents because if you get a boyfriend again you probably wont be able to date until your 18. your parents probably dont care if your guy friends are just "friends" they could still turn into boyfriends.

Answer 7

well its o.k 2 hang out but if youre looking 4 a bf than youre kinda young 4 that. going to the movie would sound suspicious 2 your mom but in my opinion she probably doesnt find a need 4 u to associate with guys at all at your age. They probably dont want u to do anything sexually active but i am with your parents on this one i find no need 4  to be associating too much with my s*x.

Answer 8

yeah, you should be able to hang out with guys. it's completely normal, actually.

you need to tell your parents that they need to trust you, that your not going to do something stupid like get pregnant or get in trouble. say that it's normal for teenagers to hang out with guys, and actually from a psychological developmental perspective, you SHOULD be hanging out with guys, because that is what's normal and healthy. and then if they don't care about any of that, say you don't care, because even though they are your parents...they have to realize that you are your own person, and that you are growing up. having a boyfriend when your a teenager is a normal thing, and they can't tell you that you can't have one. just stay out of trouble with guys and don't do anything stupid or be S****y or get caught up in that stuff, you know?

hope that helped. : ]

Answer 9

DUDE YOUR 13! WTF! JUST CHILL OUT! DO YOU WANNA BE ONE OF THOSE GIRLS WHO ARE PREGNANT @ YOUR AGE? SO JUST COOL IT AND RELAX, ENJOY BEING A TEEN, CAUSE ONCE IT'S GONE IT'S GONE! AN YOU CAN NEVER GET IT BACK! THINK ABOUT THAT, AND THINK BEFORE YOU ACT.

Answer 10

You've already lied to your parents about having a boyfriend once, it's not surprising that they  don't trust you at the moment. You are going to have to prove to them  that you aren't going to be dishonest  when it comes to guys in the future whether they be  just friends or boyfriends.  See if they will let him come to your house for dinner a couple of time, let them get to know him a lot better, if you are just friends any one with eyes and a  brain will be able to see that  when they see the two of you together and how you  act around each other.. You are going to have to build up their trust again,  

Answer 11

i agree with ur parents bout the no bf till 16 rule and and as far as guy friends ask if they can come hang out i wasn't able to hang with guys till i was in high school and it was only cause he hung with me and the girls i got to hang out with my cozen when i was younger and he would introduce me to his friends and those were the only guys i could hang with

Answer 12

well you should be able to but idk on how to convince them