Im 13 and going out with a 17 year old...is it wrong?

Question

Im 13 and going out with a 17 year old...is it wrong?

Answer 1

Well not really, age shouldnt be a factor. You should be careful though, most 17 year olds are only looking for one thing. Also may feel like because of there age they can control you. Pressure and stuff.

Just becareful. If they were a year older then they could be charged right away for anything that you didnt like,llike if they pressured you for s*x, or the slightest rape, or abuse. they can be charged. its like something with a minor. Because that what you are is a minor and theyre not.  

Answer 2

ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww... yes its VERY wrong!

Answer 3

its a felony  where i live that 17 year old is a s*x offender

Answer 4

yea i fink its fine

when i was 14 a dated a guy who was 18

so its basically the same thing

its illegal if us av s*x tho ... but its your life so do what you want not what other people want

dnt let him pressure u

Answer 5

PEOPLE: I'm 13 and went out with a 17 yr old before. Dont be rude to her then you go to be rude to me. Got a prob message me.

Ok. I live here in Misssissippi and its not against the law. He has to be 18 and will 18 next february. Anyway, most of the time they only want s*x. He asked me but i said "im sorry but no." he respected that. He was one of the rare that wouldnt dump me for s*x. I actually broke up with him bc i was so busy with other stuff i couldnt handle a boyfriend. If he asks you, simply say "sorry but no. i want to wait." If he dumps you, he wasnt worth your time. If he stays, he may be worth it.

Answer 6

Kinda.......actually YES!  

Answer 7

Yes...and I hope you don't have s*x because that would be considered statutory rape and don't be surprised if people call your boyfriend a petifile.

Answer 8

yes, the maturity levels are so off.  at 13, you just turned into a teenager.  at 17 you are practically an adult.  

Answer 9

sweetie, i dont want to say its the age difference....but it is. it may seem like you have things in common, but you really dont. please dont waste anymore of your youth with this person who seems to be a pervert.  

Answer 10

It's... kind of odd.  I would have to wonder at the 17 year old's true interest in you, you know?  I'd say it's not a big deal as long as you aren't having s*x.  You're way too young to be having s*x - please consider that.

Answer 11

Not if you don't mind being used.

Yeah, I know, not him, right? HA. If he didn't want that, why wouldn't you both be just friends? He is after one thing alone, and everything you do will be reported to his friends and any other boy who will listen.

I've heard those conversations. They go like this: "Dudes, I totally f*cked her last nite!"   "Dude! Way to go! What a w***e!" "Yeah, what a stupid s***k." "What if you get her knocked up?" "WHo cares? That's her problem."

They stay until they find someone else willing to put out.

That's the cold hard truth. He is practically an adult and you are barely past childhood. He's sick for being with you. Four years is a HUGE difference at your ages. Later, it isn't.

Answer 12

YES!

i hoped i helped

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Answer 13

It really depends on how mature you are mentally I suppose. But 17 year olds don't tend to want to go out with 13-14 year olds unless they want something and think they can get it. Usually, even though it is only a 4 year difference, the mind set of a 13 and 17 year old are completely different. So it isn't necessarily wrong but take precautions and be careful. And if your 17 year old is trying to talk you into things you don't want to do then they are not for you.

Answer 14

Yeah, kind of. Don't be heartbroken if he uses you for s*x.  

Answer 15

No, not at all, as long as you're both in it for the right reasons. Maturity has alot to do with it. If he likes you for you, and you like him for him, there's nothing wrong with it at all.

Answer 16

According to the law, not yet. Once he turns 18, thats another matter. In most places parents must give consent to keep things legal.....intimacy should not occur....

Answer 17

There are just so many things that a 17 year old can be looking for physically and mentally that a 13 year old isn't ready for. He may not be asking you for s*x, yet. but there are things that he understands that are totally beyond you. Also, if you have s*x with him in less than a year when he turns 18, he will be a registered s*x offender for years and it will totally mess up his chances on getting into major colleges and getting good jobs for the rest of his life.  

Answer 18

Why would you bother asking? You know its wrong...

Answer 19

To be interested in someone that is older is not wrong. The question you should ask yourself, is are you ready to be in a relationship with someone who has more experience and maturity than you do at your age. Don't be pressured into sexual situations. You are young, you have plenty of time to experience s*x. Though, it really makes you wonder what the 17 year old wants with a 13 yr. old. I say stay good friends and be patient and enjoy being young. It really does go by fast.

Answer 20

Quite.

I mean, what do you actually DO with him?

Just be carefull, we don't want, yet another, teen pregnancy.

=)

Answer 21

There is nothing wrong dear, as long both of you understands each other.

I myself actually went out with a 26 yrs old while I'm only 21.

Try to communicate effectively, that is the key..

Answer 22

its only four years! not a big age difference... BUT when you are 13 you are still in a different phase usually, than somebody who is 17. It looks weird but i still dont think that 4 years are a big age gap

Answer 23

Yes if you were in NYS b/c it's against the law.  

Answer 24

When you think about it 4 years difference isn't much. I know plenty of couples who are 6+ years apart but thats different from a teenager. When you're dating a 17 year old guy hes most likely getting ready to go off to college and you're barely starting high school, it just doesn't really match up too good. And depending on the 17 year old you get he could be obsessed with s*x or a really responsible guy, but usually guys at 17 are the first one. :)

When you get older and more mature, past your teenage years it wont really matter how much older or younger you are because you're usually on the same level of maturity. Right now theres a big gap.

You're less mature because you're barely a teenager and haven't experienced as much as he has. He's less mature because teenage guys are likely to do stupid things, hes a joker and you probably aren't.

If I were you I'd date people my own age or a year older, when you're this young you don't want to be so spread apart. Good luck!

Answer 25

im 17 and my gf just turned 14

i don't think its wrong

as long as each person is a certain maturity level

my gf has the mind of a 16 year old most of the time

and of course we do get intimate

but that dosent make me a pervert

we have know each other for more then 10 years  

Answer 26

hey, if you like it then go for it...but i personally wouldn't go for it just cuz guys that are a little older tend to be different mentally than 13 year olds. they're much older, and like to do different things.

i know this kid that is with an 18 year old, she's 14, found out that he's in a russian gang thing, now she's in juvie...

so it's really up to you.

Answer 27

when he turs 18 it is but untill then no

Answer 28

Yes. He's too old for you- and it's likely that he just wants one thing- s*x, s*x, and more s*x. That's what most guys his age want, pal, and if you aren't careful, you are going to wind up like most of the other girls who come on here- pregnant and scared at 14, if not sooner. He'll dump you as soon as you get that way, you can be sure of that-NO guy that age in his right mind wants the responsibility of being a daddy yet. Then you'll be stuck with raising a kid that neither of you wanted, and which never should have been conceived. Sad to say, but that's where you are headed if you keep this up.

How does the idea of being a mom at 14 grab you? You aren't even old enough to have a license yet, let alone get a job which pays anything decent, so how do expect to support yourself and your kid?? And please, don't tell me you're going on welfare. Welfare benefits last only so long- and then you have to go out and go to work, or they will cut your benefits off for good. Do you want to go to college some day, pal, and live in a nice home? Do you want to live somewhere safe, drive a nice car, be able to eat out in restaurants, and take vacations in nice places? Do you want to have a good job which pays a decent salary and benefits, and which allows you things like childcare and other perks?? Then BE SMART, NOT SORRY, and give this guy the boot before you end up really regretting it. You get pregnant at your age, and you can kiss any plans you have to do any of this stuff good bye forever. Plus, I doubt that your getting pregnant now will go over well with your parents- they might even through you out of the house on your @ss, like my mom did with my sister when she got pregnant around your age. My sister is still paying for what she did, 20 something years later. She has to work two jobs just to keep a roof over her kids' heads and food on the table, and a lot of long hours at very low pay. Does that sound like a fun time to you?? It sure doesn't to me, but maybe you are different.

In short, what I am trying to do here is get you to think with something other than what's between your legs. God gave you a brain for a REASON, pal, and it wasn't to make you look pretty. YOU NEED TO USE IT- and for something other than planning how to jump in the sack with this guy you are seeing. Get an education and get yourself established first- then you can worry about s*x.

Enough said.

Answer 29

ok when i as 13 i went out with a 17 yr old and he ended up takin advatage of me...i felt cool because i was with a older guy but think he it almost 18 he is gonna be able to move out soon and get a place of his own...do u really think ur parents will let u go over to his house...u are to young to be dating a 17 yr old it will not work out i promise all he wants is s*x and u will more than likely give it to him because u dotn want him to think ur a little girl...but sweetie u are and if the law were to find out he could go to jail and it would ruin his life...i hope u make the right choice...good luck

Answer 30

not really but hes gonna take advantage of u and ur age, and all he probly wants is s*x, and he thinks he can get that easily with a 13 year old

Answer 31

I'm 13 and my older brother is 17. I can't even imagine going out with his friends. Yeah, i think it's pretty wrong.