Im 14 and i had a miscarriage and im having trouble getting over it?

Question

hi my name is Rocia and im 14 years old. please dont judge me about what im going to say, i really dont need any judgement right now im going thru a really hard time. i went to a school dance back in october and i danced with this one boy that was so cute. he kissed me before we left the school. i felt soo happy i knew i loved him from that point. he called me later that night and we talked til 5am the next morning. i started dating him 2 days later we hung out everyday. we started to be sexually active on our 4 month that was valentines days. we were both virgins and 13. we had s*x without a condom. he called me later that night telling me he loved me and i was his princesa and his babygirl. we had s*x 9 times that week. the next week he started changing on me not talking to me as much not calling me. didnt sound the same. i went that whole week crying and it went into the next when he broke up with me and said that he was getting bored of me.. i cried so much i lost my virginity to that guy that once said he loved me know i wonder if it was all a lie. i got my period that month on time and it looked normal to me. during my period i started throwing up getting really dizzy sleeping a whole lot that i couldnt even go to school i was too tired. i went to the doctor becuz i thought i just had the flu never thought i could be pregnant cuz i had my period. but i was... 5 weeks at the time. i called the father right away and he told me to have an abortion or give "it" to someone who wants it. i cant believe what he said. i cried soo much that day that later on that night around 2am i started bleeding soo heavy with like black big clots (sorry to be gross) i went to the doctor first thing in the morning and they told me i miscarried. that was devistating to me even though i really didnt want to have a baby just yet and it might of been for the better but i was so upset. i told him i lost our baby and he said good i wasnt gonna help u anyway. this boy totally changed he wasnt the boy tht i kissed that night and that told me he loved me when i had s*x with him. well im sorry this is really long but heres my question how do i get over this?? i want to start over in my life i have high hopes for myself i didnt want to look back on me life remebering it as this.. please help me im sure some of you understand where im coming from.

Answer 1

Honey, I am so sorry about your miscarriage. Let me tell you something, boys are liars. All of them. You had to learn this the hard way. I think maybe God was giving you a blessing in disguise. He knew that if you miscarried, you would not have so much of the world on your shoulders, and not have to put up with the stress of lying boys. It's going to take some time to get over. Meanwhile, keep your head in the right direction, and stay in school and do well, because in the long run, it will be worth it and you will succeed. Congratulations to you for wanting to start over.

Answer 2

DAM well that guy is an azz let me just say that! and well there's nothing any one can say to make you feel better r to get over it!with time you will get over it! you now there are alto of guys out there that are jerks and will say whatever they have to say to get what they want which is to get in your pants! from my experience there all the same and they all want that and some of them will even do what they have to do ti get that! remember this SHOW NO LOVE... guys are full of S**t... yeah i feel like i love my babys dad but i think that even he will do what he has to do to get what he wants from me! well thats it sorry about your lost!

SHOW NO LOVE TO ANY GUY ALL THEY DO IS PLAY WITH OUR FEELINGZ

Answer 3

Wow........and i though I was out of luck.I hope you build your life right over.Dont worry, you have a lot of time.Seriously now, if i knew that guy i would brake his face wide open  for what he did.SOBs like him make men look like Sh*T.

Answer 4

GRL ITS OK... I MEAN THATS NOT WHAT U MAY WANAN HEAR BUT YOULL B OK... IM 6MONTHS PREGNANT BY A GUY WHO WAS 19 HE GOT LOCKED UP FOR IT AND NOW HES OUT ON BAIL I WAS 14 N BEFORE HE GOT LOCKED UP HE WAS ****** AROUND WITH OTHER GIRLS NOW HE IS DENYING HIS KID AND HE DONT CARE IT HURTS SO MUCH TO HAVE SOMEONE WHO GETS YOU PREGNANT AND DENYS IT AND DONT CARE EVEN THOUGH HE IS 19... I BELIEVE EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON I THIK IT IS BETTER YOU HAD A MISSCARRIEGE SO THAT NOW YOU WONT HAVE TO GO THROUGH THE PAIN OF YOUR ID GETTIN DENYED AND THE DAD NOT BEING THERE FOR YOUR KID... GRL I GET WAT YOUR SAYING TOTALLY I BET IT WAS HARD BUT NOW YOU CAN B WITH SUMONE WHO WILL RELALY B THERE NEXT TIEM YOU GET PREGANT...

Answer 5

wow, this must have all been very hard and CAN NOT even come close to imagine what you went through. Usually when I hear that a 14 year old got pregnant i would flip and give them a lecture, but something in my heart says you have paid enough and I really dont think you diserve being yelled at. I think a way to get over this is realize that God really didnt want you to have this baby. He does everything for a reason. He obviously understood what you were going through and obviously didnt think this baby was ready to come in to the world just yet. You should think of this in a good way because you would of had to drop out of school to take care of this baby. It would have been a lot of pain in labor and the baby would have def been a preemie and possibly not made it alive. I hope that this helps! and the best thing to get over it is praying to God to help you! God Bless and Good Luck!

Answer 6

I'm so sorry. I wish I could help. Could you maybe find a message board for women who miscarried.

Answer 7

Im so sorry for everything that's happened to you. A miscarriage is always a sad thing, no matter how old you are. It was yes a bad time for you to get pregnant, nevertheless it was Your baby!  It'll take a while but you'll heal and move on with your life.

As for your boyfriend he only wanted to have s*x with you. Pure and simple. You deserve much more than that. You need to value yourself a bit more. And because a guy wants to do it, there's no need for you to do it if you arent ready. Also you need to use Birth Control, either the pill or Condoms to avoid pregnancy.

Pleas enext time, be sure you know the guy you're with, before you sleep with him. And that should be more than a kiss at a party.

I am not judging you, I am trying to give you advice.

Best of Luck!!!