Im 14 and live in NSW Australia and my partner Grace lives in WA,she is 14 too.Grace has attempted suicide?

Question

many times for many reasons and at the moment i cant really help her because we are so far away,we really really need to be together but i dont know how to legaly move her here or atleast be able to visit her,her mum wont let her talk to boys so i cant go to her house or anything.if i ran away to WA to rescue her and bring her back here and we got caught or something what would happen to us? is there any services that would give her permision to leave home and move here so i can help her? i really need help with this,we are both breaking down,SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

When you are 14 hormones really affect mental health. You think all sorts of terrible things then a few years later you wonder why you got so emotional over nothing. Not sure one 14 year old is the best help for another 14 year old.

Let her mum know she is suicidal and then trust her mum to take care of situation. Her mother will love her more than you do even though you will not understand that yet. You will in time though, trust me.

Write a letter to g/f just to let her know that you are thinking of her and looking forward to her getting well soon and that you trust her mum will take good care of her.

If you try to rescue her you may well only give conditional support to her current state of mind which may only inflame it further. You do not have the experience to deal with such a problem. Wanting to help is not enough, you need to know what you are doing.

Answer 2

leave the drama at the door! you are just little kids and if she already is trying to kill herself it's wise her mom don't let her see boys and complicate her messed up life even more!! did you 2 ever even meet in person?? what would you do to help her? i suppose you have a place to live, source of money for food shelter, clothes etc, right? no didn't think so just a couple of kids rebelling against momma!! grow up.

Answer 3

Firstly I would get her to seek some help.  Go to www.beyondblue.com.au it covers depression and I think it may help.  I am not sure what you are saying about your partner? Is she being abused? If so I would get in touch with a child helpline they will be able to help her.

If she is just the subject of controlling parents then I doubt there is much you can do.  Do her parents know about her suicide attempts? If not I would venture to call her family and let them know.

Answer 4

She can leave home. her parents can try to get her home until she is 17. she can get the support of centrelink and the government social workers she just has to tell them that she can't live at home. if she just wants to leave to see her boyfriend and there aren't any domestic issues apart from too many rules she may not be able to claim any living away from home allowance. but she can get a job at 14 and 3/4's. how are you partners if she isn't allowed to talk to boys? get her to call kids helpline. Kids Help Line - 1800 55 1800. you should call them too.

if the police try to send her home from nsw then she would just have to explain to them she can't live at home. if she did get sent home you'd just have to try again. if she is at risk of violence if the police send her home after running away then they may try to place her in care rather than take her home, if you two can't look after yourselves - you will have to find youth housing for two etc.? talk to a few people. do you have adults you can talk to? Definitely call kids helpline, and talk to your school counsellor/teachers.

Answer 5

you seem like a good friend.  I think that she needs to get help with the suicide issue.  4 more years and you can do whatever you want.

Answer 6

. Some things are just not controllable!

  This is out of your hands. If you both run away they'll lock you up.

Answer 7

chill out. you're 14 only, nothing important in your life has even happened to need to kill anybody

Answer 8

Hang in there mate

ignore everyone answering who says "blah blah, you are only 14".

Get in touch with these guys. My mum used to work for them in Melbourne, but they have offices all over Australia, they are good guys. Here is their office in perth.

http://www.centrecare.com.au/

Answer 9

Wow man....if you can contact people around her.

I know it sounds like a bad idea now...but it could save her life.

She needs some help and is reaching to you for it....help her.

If she is trying to hurt herself she needs medication and/or therapy....which some influence from someone who is near her and who might be able to help with this.

Look for a way to contact a sibling or possibly parent....sounds scary...but do it....now.

Answer 10

Hi,

This one is for the professionals.

Call lifeline or kids help line NOW

The people who have been supportive here have given good advice.

This is a huge worry for you but this is  bigger than you can handle.  Adults will have a hard time with it so call those professionals, who;ll know what to do NOW

Good luck

Answer 11

Hey mate.  I'm so sad to hear about Grace, I really wish there was an easy way to bring you two close together.

First and foremost, I highly recommend both of you call Lifeline.  Their phone number is 131114, and you will be able to speak to a professional counsellor who has had experience dealing with issues such as suicide.  If Grace doesn't want to call, then I still think you should call, at least to get some advice on how to best support somebody who has threatened to take their own lives.  I really can't stress enough how much I think you should give these guys a call - it may help save a life - so please give it some serious consideration.

As far as being with Grace goes... mate all I can offer is the hope that you get through this hard time together.  Believe me when I say that love is the most amazing thing that exists, and if you honestly love Grace then I have faith that you *will* find a way to be together, no matter how difficult the circumstance.  It may take more time than you'd want it to, but hang in there and don't ever give up the hope.  Maybe a Lifeline counsellor could offer a suggestion to help you out with this situation as well?

Good luck, I hope you both pull through.  You deserve each other.