Im 15 almost 16 and cant even hang out with guys?

Question

so my parents are VERY old fashioned

ive approached them with the subjuect many times

and i always get the same answer

"we just dont think its appropriate for a 15 year old to hang out with guys except at school functions"

even group things like going to the mall with a bunch of people

im a sophmore in highschool, how unreasionable is that?

i still do though

and im dating a guy

we just started about 2 weeks ago

and its been a little hard

because his parents have to drive us to the movies, zoo, bowling

we both have jobs so we can pay, but we live far away so we need rides

its worth it though

do you think its unfair that my paprents wont let me hang out with guys?

Answer 1

To answer your question, YES. To add to it, I'd have to say it's totally stupd, I have plenty of guy FRIENDS, and there is nothing bad about it. Tell them you just want to hang with guys as friends, and that they should just trust you with what you do, and that you want to date but if they say no you'll be alright with it.

Once you save enough money with that job to get a car, things will be alot easier! Good luck(:

Answer 2

yes i think it's unfair. my parents are the same way. your getting older and your parents should trust you.

Answer 3

Hunny i think its completely unfair!

only you know your parents so you know what will get themthe best.

i used to use the excuses....

' you cant be with me all the time'

' the more you say i cant im just going to do it'

and the best one is always

' dont you trust me! what do you think we're going to be doing? shopping isnt going to get me pregnant'

I hope that helped

Answer 4

i think your parents just dont want to let their little girl go.  It takes a lot for a parent to let their daughter or son to have a boy or girlfriend.  I think this is because of all the rapes and murders.  All they are trying to do is protect you.  Dont worry you have your entire life to find love.  You are only 15.

Answer 5

No i agree with you it is a bit old fashioned. And it is unfair of them to stunt your social life. As talking wont work then there isnt much that will. Its fine sneaking around on 2 conditions:

1. You are safe- aka. the people you are with are trustworthy and your not doing anything silly (i assume you are smart and wouldnt be having s*x, breaking the law ect)

2. You can accept the consequences if you get caught. Sooner or later you probably will be so when you are just keep calm and dont make things worse (for example yelling at your parents saying "ITS ALL YOUR FAULT I HATE YOU!!!!"- it will just make you seem immature and prove their point)

Anyway good luck love

Answer 6

I think this is an excellent opportunity for you to sit down with your parents and talk to them.  I think if you tell them you want 30 min. of their time to discuss something and tell them that you want them to listen to you, then tell them what you just told us.  Tell them that you understand they're trying to protect you but that you want them to trust you too.  I also think its critical that you confess you have a boyfriend and that you've been doing things with him.  Trust goes both ways - you have to trust your parents enough to tell them things like this.  If you confess this to them without them catching you doing something wrong, it will be a shock but it will go much smoother.

Answer 7

yea i do i've had mostly guy friends since i was in third grade and i have been dating since 5th.. that would totally suck.. that is really unfair!

hope i helped =]

Answer 8

i can tell you live in the u.s.a but just chill and do your own thing and do what you want have fun...... skinny boi uk

Answer 9

thats prolly a trust issue. or they think its like disgraceful for a girl to be hanging around guys. like it looks bad to other ppl.  but they never understand that times are WAY different now.i think talking to them isnt an option . old fashioned parents r stubborn.  i used to hang out iwth guys behind my moms back. but only becuz she accused me of going out iwth most of them. now i live with my dad and he doesnt care. but i wud just keep doing wat ur doing. u obviously cant talk to them about it. and make sure ur bf understands.