Im 15. am i wierd to be thinking about kids???

Question

im only 15, and my boyfriend is 17. weve been dating for 2 years now, and i know well get married once i turn 18. is it wronge for me to think maternally at this age??? i get sad when i see ladies with thier babies.

i want my own, everyday. am i weird for thinking this??? should i tell my boyfriend???

please help!!!

Answer 1

That's silly!

Answer 2

No, a lot of woman want baby's their whole life. Its a normal thing.

Answer 3

I think it's okay to think about wanting children some day and making plans for yourself that involve choosing a spouse who also wants children, but I can only say that raising my two children has been both the most difficult thing and the most rewarding thing I've ever done, and I couldn't have handled it in my teen years.  I realize that everyone is different, but I know now that I was neither mentally or emotionally ready for the stress that parenthood brings when I was in my teens or even my early 20s.

One of the biggest things in raising my children (and this is personal preference) is the desire to give my kids what they need for a successful life.  This includes being financially secure enough to be able to provide my kids experiences like private preschool, decent toys, healthy food, and special experiences like children's museums, visits to the zoo and aquarium, art and gym classes, etc.  There is no way I could have provided any of these for my kids when I was your age... we just didn't have the finances.

Also... and this is a big thing (and I realize I'm getting long-winded here), but develop some goals for yourself OUTSIDE of motherhood.  I love my kids, but they aren't entirely who I am.  I have interests and accomplishments that make me proud of myself, which in turn makes me a better mother.

Do what you want, it's your life... but my advice would be to see the world, go to school, get a career...

then have your babies.

Answer 4

It is totally normal. Just think about the type of mother you want to be and the type of family you want to have. Do you want to be a happy, comfortable mom that gets to spend lots of time with her kids or a stressed out impoverished mom that has to watch her kids do without or let some one else care for them while you work to put food on the table? Now consider that when you think about being a teen mom. It is hard to wait for what you want but its worth it in the end you will be so happy with the life you make if you wait until you are ready and financially stable. I wouldn't discuss it with your boyfriend he'd probably bolt.