Im 15 and pregnant..?

Question

i just want to know how i can easily tell my parents without getting them upset.

i know theyre obviously going to be upset because they didnt know that i was sexually active with my boyfriend..

and i dont know how im going to tell him either because the period in which we had s*x we were still going out.

but now we arent [not because of my pregnancy, he doesnt know yet] and he has another girlfriend.. but we're still close and we still love each other. how do i tell him that im pregnant with his child?

and hes a nice guy dont get me wrong.. but im kinda worried about how his girlfriend will react because theyve been going out for a few days now..

Answer 1

well write your parents a letter.

so you can get everything out without them inturrupting and yelling at you.

but don't write your boyfriend a letter.

after your parents find out, schedual a dinner or something so that you can all talk about it at one time, and figure out money and housing and hospital situations.

i'll keep you in my thoughts!

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Answer 2

1st off..its not about his gf so dont worry about her, but you do need to tell him. I dont know why you broke up, but if it was on bad terms, be prepared that he could possibly act like a jerk. But he still needs to know

As far as your parents go, yes they'll be angry, but they will get over it and i'm sure they're the type of parents that will support you. Your young and I'm assuming still in school so your about to go through a lot mentally and physically make sure to take care of yourself and have a good support system around you. But be sure to tell the people that need to know (ex and parents) sooner rather than later, trust me it'll be easier in the long run...Good luck

Answer 3

Wait until your parents are in a good mood and you have their full attention before you talk to them.  Then say something like this:



"Mom, Dad, I have something important to tell you.  I'm pregnant.  [Boy] is the father.  I know you must be angry and disappointed- I'm disappointed in myself too.  But I've decided to take responsibility and give my baby the best life I can.  I've scheduled an appointment at the pregnancy clinic for [day] and I would really appreciate your support."

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As far as the boy goes, I would tell him after you've discussed your options with the clinic counselor.  If you go with an adoption, you'll need his consent.

<3 Kelsey

Answer 4

first thing is to go to the doctor and make sure that you are pregnant ..doctor  can estimate how many weeks you got so far. these things happen all the time... you are not the only 15 yr old. you have  to decide wether you want to keep or not..if you are keeping it and aren't ready to tell your parents n-boy friend you got about 3 months maybe 4 (thats when ur belly will start showing). but honesty is the best route to take.. tell your parents ... they can give you advise... good luck hope everything turns out ok..

Answer 5

I'm in half of the same boat as you. I'm 15, pregnant, and have yet to tell my parents. I'm 13 weeks and I just started showing... My boyfriend DOES know though, we've been together a year and he's very supportive.

Because we were together, and still are, it was much easier to tell him. One evening we were out and I said "Honey, I haven't had a period in 2 months. Can we pick up a Dollar Store test?" So, we bought it, and the next morning I took it and it came back positive. I'm not going to lie, at first we were both very shocked and to be honest, and a little displeased.

The LAST thing you need to worry about is how his new girlfriend will react. You said it yourself, they've only been together a few days. (Sorry if that seemed rude, but I've been in a relationship over a year now and a few days seems reallyy short to me..)

Just call him and tell him you need to meet somewhere to talk privately. Be honest, say "I know this isn't going to make you happy, But I'm pregnant and you're the father."

With your parents, I have no idea what to tell you. My parents are abusive and I'm absolutely terrified with how their goign to react. Hence why I've known since I was 8 weeks pregnant and I'm now 13 weeks.

How far along are you? I'm assuming not very far because it seems like you just found out.

Whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck. I hope you keep the baby and not abort it, though. =]

Answer 6

well its not up to his girlfriend she has nothing to do with this anyway and just sit ur parents down and tell them ur pregnant and tell them dont yell at me dont judge  me im already here and cnt do anything about it i just need you guys to be here for me please and tell them cuz now you ant with the guy anymore maybe they can help get you guys back together cuz maybe once his mother finds out shell want him to be there for you so in the end it might all work out after all but promise me youll take birth contral after cuz you dont need to be going threw this ur still young good luck my email address is [e-mail] keep my updated you might need someone to talk to later im 37 weeks pregnant i might be a good source to go to ok sweety bye and good luck

Answer 7

Your boyfriend knew you weren't protecting yourselves properly, this is as much his s***w up as yours. So if he can get away from his new gf for a minute, tell him, he'll understand since you're still so close and in love and all.

Then tell your parents you failed to be responsible and you will need their help since you can't even support yourself. Ask them to help babysit junior while you're in P.E.

Next time think if the screwin' you're getting is as good as the screwin' you'll get. Was it worth it?

Answer 8

there is no way to tell them without them being upset, just sit them down & tell them now. the longer you wait the more upset they probably will be. & as for your ex being as though he's only been going out with his new girl for a few days her opinion doesn't matter, especially since you said you guys are still close & love each other. the same goes for him too the longer you wait the more he's gonna question the pregnancy.

Answer 9

ok.

i am also 15 and pregnant.

im scared to death to tell my parents too.

luckily im still with my boyfriend.

tell him first.

if he is any kind of man he will take responsibility.

as for your parents...im in the same boat.

good luck.

and i just want to tell other people on here.

stop calling us loose or whores.

everyone makes mistakes.

i know you all have too.

so dont be so judgmental.

only god can judge us in the end.

Answer 10

well that wasn't very smart !

just be honest with everyone.

Answer 11

I was in this position when I was actually younger than you are. My boyfriend and I were still together and have actually never been apart, but I still understand how scared you must be.

Before you do anything you need to decide what YOU want to do about it. If you are having your baby or not, keeping it or not. Once you decide and have an idea in your head THEN go to your parents. Don't go to them crying and feeling bad and having no idea what you are going to do.

Just be calm when you tell them. Give them as many details as they need but not more than they ask for. They may not want to know HOW sexually active you were at this point. But regardless, they are your parents and they will love you no matter what. We all make mistakes and do things without thinking and at this point, except for having an abortion, it's too late for you to do anything about it.

As for your ex. He definitely needs to know and if you are still close then you need to go to him as soon as possible. he should at least know about his child before you make your decision.

And please don't worry about his girlfriend. You are all young. And chances are, at 15, your boyfriend will not stay with a girl he has been with for a few days if she causes trouble for the person carrying his child. If he is a nice guy like you say he is, he isn't going to let anything get in the way of him being there for YOU. If he does then obviously it was a good decision that you two are no longer together.

Answer 12

Tell your bf and if he leaves then he was never ment for you or ever really old enough and good person enough to take responsibility for you and that baby....Tell your parents your sorry and that you never wanted it to happen this way but your pregnant and need their help desperately..

Answer 13

first I would talk 2 ur Mom... they take it better (if u want 2, if u want to tell them both at the same time have at it) tell her u stopped ur Period, she should get the Hint, tell ur x-bf, the same thang, it dosent meen u have 2 get bac 2gether, as long as he is involved in his childs life, hope it all works out & keep me Updated!!!

Answer 14

I feel bad for you.  That was very stupid.  What do you care about this girlfriend?  You look very loose being 15 and pregnant.  Your parents will be asshamed.  You ruined your life and this boys.  Babies are hard work and take grown ups to raise them.  And lots of money.  You wanted to act grown up and now you have grown up problems.  Good luck to you.  Be smarter.  Go to planned Parenthood, talk to someone about your options.  You are still young.  Don't ruin everyone's life.

Answer 15

1st you tell your boyfriend, then you tell your parents. Well actually tell your parents 1st because thats more important.

Answer 16

wow, that's a hard one but I think you will see that it will all be ok in the end.

when you tell your parents expect them to be a little freaked out at first but they will settle into the idea of it and be supportive soon.

a baby will make your life a little harder for the short term but your life is not over.

as far as your ex boyfriend, I would wait to tell him.  who cares if he has been dating the other girl for a couple days, i mean really, what's a couple days...

first things first tho, you need to tell your mom and go to the dr. asap.

please do not consider an abortion.  God gave you a little bitty baby in your belly for a reason.. I have been trying to get pregnant for two years now, and I'm not alone, millions of woman would die to have a baby, please do not take life from the one God has given you...

it all seems like a lot now but you will see that it's ok, it will all be ok.  but tell your mom asap!

good luck!

Answer 17

you got urself in a biggg mess.

tell ur boyfriend first, to see what he's gonna do about it.

then tell ur parents if ur boyfriends gonna be there to support you etc.

if i were you, i would tell the calmest parent first so both of them wont explode at you at the same time. good luck (:

Answer 18

first, tell your parents, i didnt tell my parents until i was six months pregnant and i regret that. they are going to be upset but they will support you through it. You need to tell him, he has a right to know he has a child on the way, his girl has nothing to do with this, so tell him and you two work things out.